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Who has a higher capacity for love: Woman or Man?

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Which gender is more capable of feeling and showing love? Maybe you think it's equal? Or that the 2 genders just have different ways of feeling and showing love? Opinions please!
 
stupidest question ever.

what about sociopaths, autistic people, mood disorders etc.

"which sex feels more sadness?"

"which sex has more compassion?"

which sex {insert subjective concept that is at best unquantifiable and at worst non existent).

i'll leave this open until it causes the inevitable gender based squabbling
 
I'm not convinced that all of us are capable of feeling true love, but of those that are, male or female...

love makes us all equally insane.
 
I think that, in the moment, when the two people are with each other, talking about how they love each other, the foreplay, and when they are having sex, etc., women easily take the cake in having the higher capacity to love. Women are just more expressive and let you fucking know how they feel - besides, almost everything women do in the bedroom you already know is going to be sensual as all hell, it just comes fucking natural to them...

As far as I'm concerned, though, the flip side is that I do think men are historically much, much, much better at detailing their love for a woman (or man too, but historically, it's almost always women) in artistic form, in various mediums - poetry (think Shakespeare, Rumi, Lord Byron, etc.), oil paintings or sculptures, music (Beethoven and his 'Moonlight Sonata' that he wrote for his furtive girlfriend), etc. And yeah, I know this argument is clearly greatly complicated by how men were the only gender who could really express themselves in this way for thousands of years per societal norms, but, actually, I'd still stick by this argument even in the modern day. Men are just fantastic at retroactively looking at their love interest and putting them up on an artistic pedestal. It's somewhat ironic since this would seem to be the much more feminine thing to do, trying to capture your sexual fantasies or real moments in fancy ways.

You can say I'm totally, wrong, it's cool, but think about it, yo...
 
Yeah I think it's mostly down to the individual. As far as love goes it's a complicated process. Mainly a bunch of chemicals rushing in the brain conjuring up intense emotions. I think men and women in general can love just as much as the other. I don't think gender really matters here.
If though there was in some way a link to love and gender then I would say women. But I think saying that, women may be the ones who fall in love easier.
 
It depends on the person. Some females are more capable of love than some males. Some males are more capable of love than some females.
 
stupidest question ever.

what about sociopaths, autistic people, mood disorders etc.

"which sex feels more sadness?"

"which sex has more compassion?"

which sex {insert subjective concept that is at best unquantifiable and at worst non existent).

i'll leave this open until it causes the inevitable gender based squabbling

I asked for opinions, not facts. I really didn't expect a moderator to be so unnecessarily rude.
 
I asked for opinions, not facts. I really didn't expect a moderator to be so unnecessarily rude.

well i'm sorry if i offended you but my opinion was that this is a dead end question because it implies we can pigeonhole people based upon gender. which we cant. just watch for an example http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVSPDkZarM8. often gender splitting scenarios lead to arguements so maybe i was being a bit presumptive...

i just think love is different for everyone
 
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Is this lavoix, the known troll? Apologies if not.

In my experience, any gender/sex is capable of most things. Love is a decision made by an individual.
 
Is this lavoix, the known troll? Apologies if not.

Nope, was just genuinely curious on the topic.

Maybe I should have worded the question differently or refrained from making it a gender based debate. It seems to me like men and women speak different languages, and I just wanted some perspective.
 
I asked for opinions, not facts. I really didn't expect a moderator to be so unnecessarily rude.
telling you your question is stupid is not rude. you asked for an opinion and got one.

i tend to agree that it's a bit of a stupid question - how do you even begin to measure something so subjective and qualitative as love (or the capacity for love).

alasdair
 
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