Strawberry_lovemuffin said:
Sorry, I don't agree. I think kids pay a dearer price living with two unhappy, unfulfilled parents than with two happy, co-parenting divorced ones.
Divorce is not a guarantee of happiness. It's a throw of the dice.
Maybe you should ask wether a kid would be happier with two unhappy, unfullfilled parents or alone with their mom as they watch dear old mom constantly degrade herself for the benefit of an endless parade of potential father-figures walking in and out of their life.
Kids need stability far more than happy parents.
Plus this whole happiness business is a fucking farce. Kids don't give a flying fuck wether their parents are happy or not. They don't give a flying fuck if their parents are in love or not. Kids don't give a fuck wether their parents are emotionally fullfilled or not. Kids simply do not give a shit about stuff like that and to say otherwise is patently absurd. Kids are selfish and self-absorbed. But they're adorable so they get away with it.
When the kid is 40 years old, what do you think is going to stand out more in his mind? His parent's emotional well-being? Think again.
drugfukkdrockstar said:
To achieve a much more fulfilling and happy life, really. It's unfortunate that that is too much to ask for in these situations. You only live once... why the hell should we stay in a very unhappy situation because it's the decent thing to do. Many marriages spilt these days. It's not about the actual split that can effect the kids, it's how the parents go about it.
Disagree. For one reason. Luck plays a huge factor in how a divorce plays out. Maybe they will be successful in their new romantic endeavors or maybe they will be emotional trainwrecks. Just because "you go about it" the right way is no guarantee that it will be dandy.
Maybe the cooking instructor the mom leaves her husband for turns out to be a psychopath. There's no "going about it the right way" that will have that coming out smelling like rose.
In short, if you're happiness is that important to you, don't have kids. If you have kids and then learn you picked a dud, tough it out and wait until they're 18 to divorce. If there is serious abuse going on, that's a different story. If it's just "ho-hum, where has the fire gone" you need to grow up and get over it.
My parents have been married since 1967 and it's one of the reasons I turned out to be the witty and infinitely charming intellectual titan you see before you. The sanctity of marriage doesn't get a better endorsement than that.