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What should I do about my neighbours ?

Whosajiggawaaa

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I think I heard the man next door beating his wife, she was screaming and crying, kids were screaming and crying. It didn't carry on for very long, I didn't know and still don't know whether to call the cops. Is it any of my business ? Will itmake things worse? Some advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.
 
I agree with Thizz in that you should call the police. Though sometimes that won't solve anything: A past neighbor of mine beat her husband (yes, you read right) pretty severely every couple weeks... The cops were out to their place pretty much every second or third time, yet this domestic violence kept happening for close to three years until they finally moved. Though I don't know if they moved together--I hope not, for his sake. :-/
 
Whosajiggawaaa said:
I think I heard the man next door beating his wife, she was screaming and crying, kids were screaming and crying. It didn't carry on for very long, I didn't know and still don't know whether to call the cops. Is it any of my business ? Will itmake things worse? Some advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.
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if you were being beaten and screaming in pain, would you want somebody else to make it their business and call the authorities?

i'm with these guys. call the cops. if it's nothing, no problem. if it's abuse or assault...

alasdair
 
i almost wonder if it wouldn't be better to phone the local battered women's shelter and ask them. i feel that the police are good in interferring while an abusive episode is actually happening, but i don't know that they're really able to best help in the long run. :\
 
considering you are dealing with a man, allegedly, willing to strike a women, with children present

i would be kind of nervous to call the cops if you are the only neighbor they have

tough situation, reason number 9000 to hate having close neighbors

if you do decide to call the cops i would wait till you know for sure it's domestic violence (visual wounds on the lady)

he might just be smashing his fist into the kitchen table

she might get off on stuff like this
 
I would call the cops. I have called the cops on my neighbors before because they let their dog home alone for a few days... meaning without food or having someone come let it out, because it literally cried this really awful noise nonstop 24 hours a day. Not only was the noise driving me insane, but I was worried for the dog's well being. Dogs don't make that noise unless they are in trouble. The cops came and got the dog out and gave them a warning.

You can do it anonymously, your neighbors won't know who did it. Unless you're the only one that lives within hearing distance. I don't know. I agree with alaisdair... if I was in physical danger and I was screaming as loud as I could for others to hear me, it would be because I was intending to alert someone else to call the police to help. It's kind of the same deal as the dog. I heard it howling and eventually my sixth sense told me something was amiss.
 
Agian like everyone else has said I also recommend calling the cops!

But perhaps wait to hear the rukkus agian, and make sure you call the cops when you hear it. That way when the cops show up the house hold will be freshly shaken and it will be less likely for the Father/husbend to play off like nothing happened.

I hope more than anything that this was a misunderstanding, and that your neighbors are infact safe. But Please be safe and not sorry!
 
Call the cops man, if there are kids involved man you can't knowingly allow them to be exposed to that shit. And if this woman hasn't already left him and taken her children/called the cops herself then not even the police will be able to help. Unfortunatly in many situations of domestic violence the spouse doesn't seek help and is not receptive to police intervention. regardless you have to do something and that something is call the cops.
 
That is a temporary state of being.

If he beats her there is nothing right about the situation.

Next time you hear it, call the cops

No question...you might save her life

<3
 
You dont know yet if its one way or the other. its good sign things sounded okay but i would say that if you here something like that again to go ahead and make the call. Perhaps it wasnt really as bad as your thought and they were just fighting, but if you do here it again you cannot get in any trouble for being too careful in this situation, especially with kids there.
 
I would phone the police. Growing up with parents who were physically and verbally aggressive was hard on me and my siblings ... back then though, nobody wanted to get involved. To be honest, I wish they had because if the police had turned up a few times my parents would have likely taken it down a notch. Despite their antisocial behaviour they cared how they were perceived by others.

Even if your neighbour knew it was you complaining, it's unlikely he would turn on you as it would make things worse. Abusive husbands or wives only attack certain people, like their family. My parents were nice middle class people to everyone else and had a lot of friends if you can believe that.

Just another point of view which might help clarify things a bit.
 
When I was a kid growing up my dad would beat me,my mum and one of my sisters.
The neighbours must have heard what was going on and I just wish that they would have called the cops while it was happening.
In the end one of my school teachers pulled me aside to ask why I kept coming into school with black eyes and bust lips, I told him what was going on.
He went to see my dad while I was at school and basically threatened him that if I showed up at school with any bruises again he wouldn't hesitate to tell the police what was going on.
This did help but only until we moved to a different army camp as my dad was in the British army.
 
go, run, tell
the instructions I was given as a kid when something felt wrong

or run and tell that like Antoine Dodson
 
If I heard this coming from a neighbours house (or anyone's house) I have no doubt in my mind that I would call the police immediately. Next time you hear this, please call the cops.
 
Why dont you go over and ring your neighbors door bell and ask him if there is a problem before you go calling the cops for something you 'think' you heard, come on...

btw i cant believe my original comment was censored, what?!?
 
yeah shit you're not even positive there was anyone getting beat up or any physical violence. I get into fights with my girlfriend and things can get heated yet not violent and if the cops showed up i'd probably get busted for an unrelated drug charge which would not be cool. I even get into the odd massive fight with my family, if the cops showed up then my family would probably get busted on unrelated drug charges. If you suspect there is physical violence going on then definitely call the cops but some people just fight and are loud. Yeah it sucks that kids are involved but so long as it doesn't happen too often i don't think calling the cops is justified.
 
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