I was an opioid addict (among other things) from 16-19, and then took various NMDA antagonists daily for the first ~6months or so upon quitting. I'm 23 now and just got past my fourth year of being clean. I'm back in school, about to graduate, have a publication in a neuroscience journal, posters at society for neuroscience meetings and I'm a straight A student now, with the intention of applying to PhD programs next year. I'm also working on 3 more manuscripts. So things are going well for me in that sense. But other than that, I still have no friends. My social life is the professors and staff I interact with. I go to an undergraduate-only institution so I'm a bit older than most people here, most people here do a good amount of drugs, and even if they didn't, I can't find myself relating to people who have never or hardly used anything. I still don't enjoy TV. I still don't enjoy video games. I lift 3-4x a week and do cardio on my off days and that helps, but there are times where I'm too busy to keep that schedule up and my mental health declines during that time. My mood elevates when I start exercising consistently again for a few weeks, but I recognize that throughout life, with what I want to do, I can't have my mental health be contingent on exercise. I enjoy my labwork as well, and don't do much outside the lab or gym. But I have 1 friend these days, who currently lives on a family farm (he is clean as well now) across the country from me (US). I can't seem to make new friends other than people I can speak to about lifting in the gym, and people I can speak to about labwork in the lab. I can't find an interesting hobby. I do see a therapist regularly, who does keep telling me, and I know it's true, that I'll run across more people who used to be drug addicts and then got clean as I get older (along with my peers).
But as it is, I'm absolutely miserable. I have no friends I can see in person (well I do, but they're still drug addicts), not to mention I haven't been laid since I quit, which is rather irritating at my age I guess, though perhaps that's just me trying to add another layer of justification for why being sober blows. I'm not currently taking any medication, though I've taken a wide variety of antidepressants and such in the past (SSRIs, MAOIs, mirtazapine, bupropion), and considering starting that again, but I would like to try and deal with this non-pharmacologically. I imagine in grad school, it'll be a bit better in a sense that I have older peers with similar interests, but not too different since I'll spend all day in the lab anyways.
How do I meet people? What's the point of meeting people if I don't really enjoy anything but my work and exercise? Do I try doing a recreational sport? I was a fat kid and have no experience with sports (of course all my fat, along with muscle, went away when I was still using) so I admit it's mildly anxiety-inducing for me. I can't get a pet because I wouldn't have the time to take care of them, besides I do animal research and wouldn't want the smell of other animals on me when going into the lab. It's also quite hard to befriend people in my department since I do a lot of work for various professors and work in the general animal facility on the side, so my fellow students see me as someone in "power" as someone put it, and treat me almost more like a faculty or staff member than a fellow student.
Oh I guess I have nicotine. I consume a lot of snus, that's my only joy in life.
But as it is, I'm absolutely miserable. I have no friends I can see in person (well I do, but they're still drug addicts), not to mention I haven't been laid since I quit, which is rather irritating at my age I guess, though perhaps that's just me trying to add another layer of justification for why being sober blows. I'm not currently taking any medication, though I've taken a wide variety of antidepressants and such in the past (SSRIs, MAOIs, mirtazapine, bupropion), and considering starting that again, but I would like to try and deal with this non-pharmacologically. I imagine in grad school, it'll be a bit better in a sense that I have older peers with similar interests, but not too different since I'll spend all day in the lab anyways.
How do I meet people? What's the point of meeting people if I don't really enjoy anything but my work and exercise? Do I try doing a recreational sport? I was a fat kid and have no experience with sports (of course all my fat, along with muscle, went away when I was still using) so I admit it's mildly anxiety-inducing for me. I can't get a pet because I wouldn't have the time to take care of them, besides I do animal research and wouldn't want the smell of other animals on me when going into the lab. It's also quite hard to befriend people in my department since I do a lot of work for various professors and work in the general animal facility on the side, so my fellow students see me as someone in "power" as someone put it, and treat me almost more like a faculty or staff member than a fellow student.
Oh I guess I have nicotine. I consume a lot of snus, that's my only joy in life.
Last edited: