What do you do when your boyfriend doesn't want you anymore?

[Juniper Bruhmomentius]

Travel the least resistant path, you say? Absolutely love it.

Excuse me? Im normally obsessed but sometimes make exceptions and Im the opposite. This works for everything for my life. Only got personal rules so that I can routinely break them when the time is right.

 

[PtahTek]

Im normally obsessed but sometimes make exceptions and Im the opposite.

I think this sentence made me lose y mind for a second or two. Reads like something I would post in an effort to blind the masses.

 

[Juniper Bruhmomentius]

Smoke and mirrors are at this point





I'm afraid they're gonna find you
And there's nothing that I can do
A century of your priceless time
To commit a victimless crime
Vow to cares your rashes
Vow to punish with lashes
You can hide inside my locket
Put a leash on when they walk you
Next year say you didnt want to
Do they chastise you when you stray
Sallow skin and they can't look away
Start a collection of brine
Because all you do is cry
Wood ticks whisper to console you

 

[Hylight]

You got me totally wrong. I just answered the main thread-question " what do you yo when your boyfriend doesnt want you anymore". This is everyting, I just answered the main question without meaning anybody but myself - this is what I would do.

Sorry for this misunderstanding.

JJ

It's sex love and relationships and very sensitive issues.

we all go through allot
but hearts can very easily and really be broken.

It is amazing and it can hurt.

and please everyone stay healthy

intimacy and love, just wowh.

 

[NoComment]

You need to find out if he’s meeting the same woman or diffrent women each time.
if it’s diffrent women I’d say he’s just wanting sex from different sources because he’s bored
If he’s meeting the same woman over and over he might like her.

advice from a guy who’s done it

 

[PumpkinKing]

Well, I would think he comes back because it's easier to keep you around while he's still searching for your replacement - you're probably like a comfort blanket to him. Once he finds someone else he wants to be with full time, then he'll probably move on himself. It really is a win-win for him and you're the one permitting him to continue.

You can either keep putting up with someone who gives you less than you want, knowing he might kick you aside at any moment. Or you can be proactive and break up now, knowing that he's just not into you anymore and that the little he's prepared to give is not enough for you.

I would suggest the latter option. It might feel bad in the short term to be assertive like that, but if you let things carry on, it'll feel a whole lot worse when he finally leaves.

I agree with this 9001%
It sounds like he has basically checked out emotionally and is looking for someone new. I'm assuming you have talked about the situation with him?
Also, does he work, or just mooch off of you? Whos name is on your lease/rental agreement/deed? If you're supporting him in any way, including emotionally, it sounds like he is taking advantage of you and your kindness and love for him. He may leave when he finds someone else to love, or much off of, or he may stick around bleeding you dry and giving you all sorts of trust issues while he still dicks around. Also, he could of already found someone else, or might not even be looking for someone. He might just be done and taking advantage of you, then taking off to a hotel to be alone because that's what he wants but he doesn't wanna lose his safety net, aka you.

It's hard to make a solid guess on exactly what's going on by only hearing about it from you, and not actually seeing how the 2 of you act together. But based on your op, I would say it's time to cut him lose and start the grieving process. Because the sooner he's gone, the sooner you can get back to being happy and loving yourself.

Also, think about what you would say to a loved one if they told you what you told us.

 

[LadyAlkaline]

I get a new boyfriend

 

[SamanthaB]

If you stay in this dead end relationship that is what you will have until you get out. If you say goodbye to this man and move on, eventually you will have a relationship that is hopefully mutually fulfilling, satisfying and happy. Will it be an easy thing to do? No, it definitely will not be. However, remember that you were probably looking when you found him. And, odds are you will find someone else that is more in keeping with what you need and want, which I would think you might know at this point.

 

[Shady's Fox]

Love yourself with an ice-cream and forget about him.

 

[js420]

Feel for you OP. Going through similar struggles myself. hang in there x

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

If he seriously has ED -- maybe you guys need to go to the doctor?
If it's more than that -- maybe you guys should go to couples therapy?

 

[iLoveYouWithaKnife]

Honestly, if he’s saying that he has ED, he probably really does. I don’t really know any guy personally that's going to admit to that and be lying about it. This could be crushing to his ego, and his way of dealing with it is by pretending to be sleeping, as you say etc. Even though, it’s coming off as complete rejection to you.