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What constitutes cheating to you?

mr.buffnstuff

mr.buffnstuff

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As above,
Texting another person as friends
Texting and insinuating more?
Meeting someone behind your SO back?

I liked a page on FB as a girl I knew had been put on there. It was a Local page slagging various girls off who had obviously been posing for the cam, I looked through to see if there was anyone else I knew on there and on one pic I 'liked' it...
It came up I had liked it on the gf's wall and now all hell has broke loose! Iv never cheated on her, never intended to or given her reason to think I would! If it was the other way round I genuinely wouldn't be bothered as I don't see it as anything!
Is she over reacting? Or am I a 'typical slaggy guy'? Seriously it kicked off so bad even the police came round last night! FFs! -_-
 
In no way are you even remotely close to cheating. You better run fast! This girl is a level 5 psycho.

But seriously, that is ridiculous that shit hits the fan because you like a picture on Facebook. No matter how slutty the picture was.
 
That's what I thought! Iv never cheated never been close and it's not like I Couldn't if I wanted to! I choose not to because I think from the moment someone cheats the relationship is ruined! I'm so fucked off! Fed up of feeling like the bad guy in this!
 
Wow no of course that wasn't cheating, i can understand your girlfriend might have been a bit displeased but yeah that seems like a pretty big overreaction, I'd have a serious talk with her if I were you...
I think cheating is if there's some sort of physical act and both people are aware of what they're doing, so it's not like a drunken mistake or something. Although to be fair, if my boyfriend were to sleep with someone even when he was drunk or high I wouldn't be all that happy about it.
 
Violating the formal written rules of a game, sport, or other competitive activity, esp in a way that is advantageous for the cheater in a zero sum game. (i.e. a game where in order for one party to gain, the other takes a material loss)

So, is you're relationship a game or competition? Did you break a formal written rule against liking facebook photo's of camwhores? Did this cost your opponent something?
 
It's funny, because I'd like to know if she did that to you if you'd have the same reaction. :p

No, I don't think it's cheating, but what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I find a lot of people who say "whaaa it's not cheating blah blah" have a whole different attitude when roles are reversed.

Cheating to me is anything physically or emotionally intimate, which is kinda vague, but I know it when I see it.
 
In all honesty if she liked a pic of some random unknown guy I couldn't care less... Does that mean I dOnt care? I don't think so...
There is nothing even emotionally connected to a random pic.
I can't even look at a newspaper Incase she thinks I have even looked at page 3!
 
rangrz said:
Violating the formal written rules of a game, sport, or other competitive activity, esp in a way that is advantageous for the cheater in a zero sum game. (i.e. a game where in order for one party to gain, the other takes a material loss)?
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Wow, I almost thought you were -for once- giving us a normal reply without your Ego wanting to impress us with your knowledge of science (or apparent ability to have lots of sex without commitments). On a closer look, I was wrong, you cleverly were referring to mathematical game theory. Did everybody notice this? Very impressive.

On a serious note: you don't have to play the science-geek stereotype for us all day. I admire your knowledge and intellect, but there is a place and time for everything <insert something clever about spacetime here> but your constant scientific rambling contributes rarely something to ordinary human conversations. And since we all already know what you study, it just gets kind of annoying to be reminded of it over and over again in the wrong places. Hint: people who are desireless for recognition often get the most recognition.
 
Lysis said:
It's funny, because I'd like to know if she did that to you if you'd have the same reaction. :p

No, I don't think it's cheating, but what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I find a lot of people who say "whaaa it's not cheating blah blah" have a whole different attitude when roles are reversed.

Cheating to me is anything physically or emotionally intimate, which is kinda vague, but I know it when I see it.
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Well said!
It generally is a whole different story w/ role reversal..
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
As above,
Texting another person as friends
Texting and insinuating more?
Meeting someone behind your SO back?

I liked a page on FB as a girl I knew had been put on there. It was a Local page slagging various girls off who had obviously been posing for the cam, I looked through to see if there was anyone else I knew on there and on one pic I 'liked' it...
It came up I had liked it on the gf's wall and now all hell has broke loose! Iv never cheated on her, never intended to or given her reason to think I would! If it was the other way round I genuinely wouldn't be bothered as I don't see it as anything!
Is she over reacting? Or am I a 'typical slaggy guy'? Seriously it kicked off so bad even the police came round last night! FFs! -_-
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somebody was obviously over-reacting if the law showed up.

of course..there's only one side of the story here..
but there's definitely reason for worry.

jealousy is a relationship killer-
usually a slowwwwww one..:|

gl <3
 
How would you have express that concept then? That is is IMO what cheating means, what I think of when I hear the word, and I don't think I could formulate a more concise and less abstruse expression to convey that idea? (To be technical, game theory is a wholly abstract mathematical field and has nothing to do with the empirical or physical sciences)

My idea still holds, Did he break some kind of agreed upon rule? Did she suffer anything that can meaningfully be called a loss in any sense of that word? No. Thus, it is not cheating.
quod erat demonstrandum...bitch.

lysis said:
but I know it when I see it.
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Ex Post Facto is awesome. We should bring this concept into the legal system for it's fairness and lack of potential for abuse. :)
 
Busty St Clare said:
All is fair in love and war. I agree with Lysis, I know it when I see it so don't be disappointed if I call you out.
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Then I guess it's equally fair to cheat. If all is taken to mean every member of the set of possible actions, unless by all you mean finite subset of the entire set. But in that case, why is Ex Post Facto cool? It's like cheating the rules about making rules!
 
How you put up with this girl is beyond me. To have it escalate to where the cops are involved is really bad. It's only a matter of time before she snaps again so you might want to hide the knives. Is she getting therapy? I worry for your safety. :(
 
Lysis said:
It's funny, because I'd like to know if she did that to you if you'd have the same reaction. :p

No, I don't think it's cheating, but what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I find a lot of people who say "whaaa it's not cheating blah blah" have a whole different attitude when roles are reversed.

Cheating to me is anything physically or emotionally intimate, which is kinda vague, but I know it when I see it.
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Good point!
 
Is it FBooking someone emotionally though? Or AOling them emotionally and building up relationships over time? Or over the phone?


"hey Brody what happened?"-Homeland
 
twyleskyles said:
Is it FBooking someone emotionally though? Or AOling them emotionally and building up relationships over time? Or over the phone?
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But whats wrong with building relationships? there are all types of relationships. doesnt mean you're cheating just because you are building relationships.

Doesnt matter how the tables are turned its really unhealthy to have a girlfriend that is going to make such a huge deal about liking a picture on facebook. thats absurd
 
I'd say before having a relationship sit and down and agree on what constitutes infidelity.

Then you'll know.

Otherwise you're getting all hung up for no reason other than (any I can notice) being bored and having too much time on your hands.
 
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