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Was I wrong??

Clsvey89

Clsvey89

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So I wanted to get someone else's opinion on the situation..I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong.

So driving in the car me and my bf start arguing. It wasn't screaming or getting out of control, and when I go to say something back he starts yelling at me to shut my fucking mouth. Which pisses me off anyways and seems to happen a lot. Like you can say what you want but I can't because you don't want to hear it? So I get pissed and say I'm not a child you don't control what I say or order me around like a dog..so he reaches over while he's driving and slaps me in the mouth. I don't think it was very hard, it didn't leave a mark but it totally made me snap and I right away like a reflex punch him in the eye. He had his hand up after he slapped me the first time like he'd do it again if I said something else and it just made me snap. I meant to just slap him back but idk why I chose to use my fist..I was just so pissed I wasn't thinking. Anyways me punching him totally made him snap and he full out attacked me and punched me in the mouth and just went after me. His punch defiantly wasn't as hard as mine idk if he restrained himself or just couldn't get to me as good. He got to the house and tried to drag me out of the car while I'm trying to grab my stuff and ending up leaving and saying it was over..along with some other really nasty things. All I could tell him is you shouldn't have slapped me, what did you expect me to do? He's mad because I hit him so much harder then he hit me I guess. Every other fight we've had he always ends up pushing me around getting into my face and grabbing me by the throat. A few months ago he said he thinks I'm weak because I don't try and defend myself..I just try and walk away because I don't want it to escalate. The few times I pushed him back it would totally make him snap and he would really come at me. I feel like if someone hits you then you have the right to hit back..man or woman. If I hit him first and got hit back I would never go crying about it..no matter how hard it was. I feel like he's just mad because someone finally had the balls to hit back. He dropped me off and left probably not even 5 mins after I hit him and his face was really swollen and his eye was turning black..so I kind of feel like an asshole.
 
No reason for him to get violent. Doesn't matter what the argument is about. You have every right to fight back. Also, I'm a total subscriber to the 'people never change' theory on personality, so if he did it once, he'll do it again.
 
Lots better people to spend your time with - you've had quite a few instances to tell you he's an arsehole and if you stay or take him back you're a fool. Move on to a better life.
 
When there is violence in a relationship it's time to leave - your right to defend yourself, your wrong for sticking about waiting for it to happen again.
 
No reason for either of you to get violent.
Leave the relationship immediately.
 
He was pissed because he thought I took it to far with the punch and if anything he just deserved a slap back. I feel like maybe he kind of got what he deserved..it wasn't a hard slap at all but just the point that you don't treat me like a kid telling me not to talk back then slap me in the mouth because you want me to shut up. Every time we fight I feel like he's pushing me trying to get me to do something. Shoving me and poking me in the chest and getting in my face so I'll hit or push him then he can really hit me back and say it was my fault. It was a lot easier to control my anger when I took pills..not so much anymore. It's defiantly changed the way I feel about him. ^^ and trolling? Not that I care what you think but are you saying someone would make shit up like this for fun?
 
Lmfao you're arguing ethics of hitting someone back, 'if I'm hit I can hit him back' but that's not even the point. You must lack respect for yourself to feel bad for getting your ass slapped around for so long and finally standing up for yourself, and then thinking you're in the wrong for defending yourself to someone who should be in jail.

Sorry for being rude but that's pathetic. Be done and dont ever go back....even though you're asking people to tell you you're wrong, probably so when you inevitably go back to him it's justified.
 
Yes, so was he. Anger is the fruit of the flesh. Peace is the fruit of the spirit. you reap what you sow.
 
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