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im honestly so bad at it i need some tips

i have no problems talking to girls face to face, making them smile or laugh in person, but when i text its usually boring and doesnt seem to leave the girl intrigued. i cant keep a long text conversation going :(

i try to text how i would have a face to face convo but that doesnt seem to work :(

any hints like keep it brief, be mysterious, ask questions, etc
 
No tips but I can tell you you're not alone.

I don't mind talking to strangers on the net, using a keyboard. But texting people I actually know seems hardwork and pointless. Its a problem because weeks of texting seems to be a mandatory part of courtship these days.

The only advice I can offer is just tell people you hate texting, and maybe arrange a time when you can talk on the phone to keep up the contact and make the most of your face-to-face charmskills ?

Oh and yeah questions help, but don't over-do it. I always notice if a new person doesn't ask questions. Its a major turn off if they only wanna talk about their life and don't seem that interested in learning about mine.
However I don't like feeling like the spanish inquisition are on the phone, its a fine line.
 
I'm no expert but iv had my fair share of girls. A lot of the time the main communication will be texting. I.e meeting a girl online, swapping numbers, texting , meeting up and having sex at the same time. All I ever do is text as if iv always known them, try to be as informal as possible. And if you want the girls then try and be a little cheeky.
As I say, I'm no Casanova, but it's always worked for me :)
 
text conversations are a waste of time, or just short cute things. in my opinion at least. i'll have a text condo every now and then, but generally when it comes to girls i'm interested in i'm saving the energy for when we're hanging out
 
I hate texting women. I feel like whatever I say comes out wrong.

I usually just don't answer text or ask that my gf only text me in emergencies. If a woman is on some scandalous shit she uses text to her advantage. It seems a lot easier for people to lie and manipulate through text.

I suggest basically refusing to text as a primary means of communication. Its not bad for when you first meet a woman and are flirting but even then I find it a bit annoying.

For me it is so much easier to speak on the telephone or face to face. Maybe I am getting old (almost 30) but I truly hate texting when it comes to relationships. Facebook is also something I despise.
 
I don't really like texting girls either. When I do, it's usually about some inside joke we have or something. Or like if something we were recently talking about happens, then I'll mention that, but other than that it's short and sweet, and just to see if we are hanging out later or something.
 
mr.buffnstuff said:
I'm no expert but iv had my fair share of girls. A lot of the time the main communication will be texting. I.e meeting a girl online, swapping numbers, texting , meeting up and having sex at the same time. All I ever do is text as if iv always known them, try to be as informal as possible. And if you want the girls then try and be a little cheeky.
As I say, I'm no Casanova, but it's always worked for me :)
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I'd say that this is more or less how I text people. Not just girls, but newly made guy friends as well.

You need to know who you are talking to, and whether or not they will want to respond to what you're talking about. Or even if they want to respond to you.
If a person wants to respond to you, then treat a new text message conversation as you would a moment where there is a lull in face to face conversation. Just make a statement about something you want to talk about, where it's open to be discussed.
 
You're probably being way more critical of your texts then the girl is.. I bet she isn't noticing or thinking you sound anyway like you think you do.

Phone calls are always better. I only use texts for quick little messages because so much meaning gets lost when you cant hear each others' voice.

And you'd be surprised how many girls would actually prefer a guy to call, especially if you're asking them out or something. It can make a really good impression.
 
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