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mrdocat

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Sorry for not posting on the thread but that is URGENT, I have a friend that is suicidal, I made her swear she won't kill herself for 2 days but then she will, she is serious. She have no interest in her life anymore. I think she is not depressed, I think she just doesn't care. She used many drugs, LSD, ecstasy, weed every day. She is VERY beautiful, have lots of friends, party a lot, understand? I think she has just done with everything life has to offer so doesn't see anything that makes her happy anymore. I don't know if she have a solid reason for wanting to kill herself, she says she just wants, simple as that.

WHAT DO I DO? Is there a remedy that I can give her, or something I can say, that will make she change her mind?
 
You can try to talk her out of it.
You can talk to her friends and loved ones about it- If you really think she is serious, going to parents or taking things to the next level is not out of the question.
Suicide is nothing to play around with <3

Please let us know how things are going.
Hopefully in the next 2 days she will recognize the gift she has in life.
 
From what i've learned in my psychology, before you go off and call 9-1-1, you should first figure out:

1) how long as she been feeling this way?

2) does she talk about it frequently?

3) Does she have a plan?

If she already has a plan, that's when the red alarms should go off. You need to stop what youre doing, call her family, and if she has no family, possibly call 9-1-1.

Suicide is a permanent solution to non permanent problems; irreversible.

Is it worth her hating you if you save her life?
 
Suicide is a permanent solution to non permanent problems; irreversible.
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Exactly! But I don't even know if she HAS a problem. She talks as if suicide is no big deal.

She has some plans but is asking me to help her because she wants a painless death. She have already attempted locking herself in a gas room but her parents arrived in time (they don't know anything). She talks about taking a sleep pill and locking herself in a gas room or having a overdose of cocaine or of random remedies.

She is feeling this way for a few weeks but this was constant years ago. She said it today. I spent the whole day with her trying to understand but I couldn't. I actually think very similar as her, I don't kill myself because I don't want to, but I wouldn't mind if I die, so I don't know what to say to change her mind.

I don't want her to life I would do anything to change her mind but if I don't I don't want to force her to stay here. I think it is her right to kill herself.
 
What do you mean? That doesn't mean I will let her die like that, if I can I will do ANYTHING to convince her to stay here, I don't want to lose her, I love her.

Perhaps I WILL force her to stay here just for some time...

I have many remedies here, lots of antidepressives, clonazepam, do you think giving something to her is a good idea?
 
just listen to her man..
when i was in her spot, the last thing i wanted to hear was someone preaching to me about how fucked up my life was.

talk to her about what she is currently going through at the moment.

the last thing you want to tell her is that she needs help. if you do, be there with her.
 
I think that since she has a clear cut plan, you need to stop thinking that you can solve it and leave it to the professionals: call her family, or 9-1-1, immediately.

You're not a medical professional. Youre not a psychologist. She needs those right now more than just some SSRIs and klonopin. She needs help/treatment.

If she hates you for doing so, so what? Would you rather her hate you for saving her life, or hate yourself for letting her die? Easy question IMO.
 
If I don't convince her on that 2 days I will call 911 I just need some courage.
 
You need to do it now. You are not a professional. You are her friend, you should want to help her. She has a clear cut plan (perhaps many), why are you waiting for her to enact it?

What if she doesn't wait those 2 days? What if she does it tonight?
 
Look at it this way: the sooner you call for help, the sooner you can relax and know your friend will be alright. You see that she obviously has a life worth living for, though she apparently/genuinely is unable to see that herself. Either way, there is nothing you can do to make her change that mindset -- that's all on her part. The only thing you can do is put her in a safe environment where she'll have the time and resources to get better.

and, coming from a third party, I'd say in general your friend needs some professional help. even if she isn't planning on killing herself, she'll at the very least leave the situation doing better than before.
 
Holy shit she disappeared, her grandmother said she is out and didn't came back, she mentioned going to a party, I hope she is fine, tomorrow I will tell her to get professional help, if she doesn't accept I will call 911.
 
well, if she's at a party then she might kno someone there, and talk to them about wats goin on, and probly gonna get drunk..(less its diffrent..)
thats what i did when i was in her shoes.,.

she needs help man, no doubt for putn her grandmom and u in a situation like this.

callin 911 is silly, unless she's like cuttin herself, or really freaking out.

ask her whats really going on. be a mom? if that makes since..
 
hey, I think that's the best thing you can do for yourself and especially for her, so try not to beat yourself up if it comes to it. <3
 
mrdocat said:
I wouldn't mind if I die, so I don't know what to say to change her mind.
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You could try "Hey come to therapy with me, we both need it. Wanna carpool?"

But if she is describing specific methods on how to kill herself, even if they're not that well thought out, that's a BIG red flag.
I tried to gas myself in the garage once but I didn't have any plan, and it was a half assed attempt to be honest, thats not to say I wasn't horribly depressed at the time, but I didn't follow through.
Try to get her with a small group of good friends sober, not partying, and have a real empathetic conversation with her and don't let her just say "idk I just wanna" and leave it at that. Try to get to the bottom of it, or at least try to identify things you can do to make her feel better.
But seriously she could benefit from DBT/CBT, forms of therapy.

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If she's missing you need to call anyone she could've been partying with and try to get the story, and then call 911 ASAP if no one knows where she is, but you're gonna need some details to give them, that's why I recommend gathering as much information from other people first.
 
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Well she's OK and now she hates me. =) Cool isn't. She was the love of my life, btw.
 
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