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tennant90

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Hey guys,

I'm stopping porn for a bit, going to do it for a month. I'm on my first night and i already have urges to watch it.

To be fair though, it is a habit. i usually watch it before i sleep while doing my business.

The reason I want to do this is more of an experiment. I would like to see if I'll feel more refreshed sexually. I would also like to see how it affects my libido.

I'm pretty sure porn has conditioned me to do most of the certain sex acts i have done in the past. i know it's not reality but maybe stopping will bring
me closer to my own sexual desires? rather than being force fed the demeaning nature to what porn actually is. I mean, if you think about it, it's awesome to
just click a few buttons and get the tits you want to look at for that brief moment of pleasure. but really it also means that it is just another thing we over use.
we live in a world of over consumption and porn is another one of those things. like right now, I'm horny and porn is the first thing I instantly think about to satisfy that need. it's as if my arousal is just identified to porn, and only porn. I just need to rewire.

has anyone been through this? men or women? if so, did you notice any difference when cutting porn out of your lives?

cheers

IJT
 
After going without it for extended periods of time and then seeing it again.. it just doesn't inspire me any more lol. I mean there's a desire to bust one out but the images and stuff just make me feel, sad? I find the whole idea of porn now to be weak. The moments where a thought of "you could just bust one to those images" comes into my head I just feel "mmm.. nah. it's bit shit really. rather have the real thing or just go without".

Still horny and could cut diamond with my morning wood though =D
 
Always a good idea to cut back I feel :) For me honestly I don't notice a difference tho. That doesn't mean it's a bad idea to stop just don't go expecting it to make you some super sexual beast. I commemorate you lol good luck yo.
 
Porn can lead to many problems for some, including ED and premature ejaculation. I used it in the past but generally find it to be unrealistic.
 
Feel free to keep posting in this thread for advice if you need it. Or even just to vent.

Addiction to porn is real, like any other addiction. It's a psychological addiction obviously, it isn't the same as a heroin addiction, but is is still real.

I haven't been through this before however I have helped friends with other addictions. It is important to keep busy and not think about it. I'm sure others will have some better advice but good luck <3
 
The pleasure you receive from porn isn't natural. It's a fantasy world, & it can be very addicting.

I wonder if they have porn anonymous......someone should start a porn anonymous site.
 
so i've gone over a week without porn. mostly been using my imagination. it's a lot more boring. it obviously means i need to make it more exciting.

i guess you get a bit lazy in the imagination department when it is handed to you over time. means i have to put more effort into it. it has cut down the number of times

i pleasure myself too. it has increased my labido a lil but sometimes it comes in very intense bouts of hornyness which is actually quite nice to have. feels like before i never brought myself to a point where i never felt horny i just did it through habit.

still, i do get urges to watch it. quite strong ones so i've come on here to try n dampen them. 3 weeks more to go.
 
Well done for making it to a week.

I used to watch it everyday and loved it. However, once you start having to use your imagination, your sexual experiences should become a lot more real and not fantasy induced.

Although there is nothing wrong with watching porn, it's much better to build up your own imagination, it will make you stronger and more creative as a person.

Keep busy, write a diary on your porn addiction. List all the pros and cons. Why do you like it so much? What benefits does it offer you? Etc.

You'll get there, just be strong and concentrate! Good luck x
 
thanks for the support milzy.

i've gone over half way i think into this. i haven't watched porn but i came across a website which showed cleavage and thought fuck it, why not.
not a single nipple on there though so it was intended to be a tool to imagination.

iv'e found that the past week, i haven't masturbated half as much as i used to. iv'e gone from 3 a day to once every 1-2 days. don't get me wrong, i feel horny as fuck all the time but now it just feels like a massive excess of energy that can be focused else where. i'm jogging to and have been for a month (before i started this fiasco) but now, the jogging seems to relieve the tension but consequently increases my libido 10 times as much.

so how i feel right now is horny as fuck but my mind feels fresh and clear to what i'd like to do to a girl. i have a longer drawn out imagination to what i could do instead of how i thought before. before it would be a all clothes straight off and stick it inside kind of attitude. now it's a undress her bit by bit and really feel who she is kind of attitude and tbh i can't wait to put it into practise one day. she'll be in for a fucking treat :P.

at the moment i feel i could go longer than a month without the porn but it's a slippery slope. i could watch that first 2 minutes again and slip back into the way i was. so saying that, i realize it was an addiction, or rather a habit. old habits die hard so keeping away for a while and doing it once a little while won't hurt. who knows. i have another 2 weeks to go either way but i feel i can definitely do it without a problem.
 
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like right now, I'm horny and porn is the first thing I instantly think about to satisfy that need. it's as if my arousal is just identified to porn, and only porn. I just need to rewire.

has anyone been through this? men or women? if so, did you notice any difference when cutting porn out of your lives?
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It's definitely an addiction and over time it develops into a habit that almost becomes second-nature like brushing your teeth or having a shower in the morning.

I've cut porn out before or at least cut it down and i've gone back to it, at the moment im in the throes of it.. at least once a day. I also realize this is an issue because it's become habit, even when im not horny i'm so use to doing it before i go to bed that it just happens and if i miss a day the entire next day at work or wherever i am i'm thinking about sex non-stop.

Even when i was living with my ex-girlfriend.. i still had a desire to use porn, despite having access to sex regularly.

When i did stop watching it for a while.. my mind felt clearer and it would take a lot less to arouse me; i don't know about you but when i preference imagination over porn.. although it takes much longer the release is WAY more fulfilling then porn. And it's almost always ex-girlfriends as imagination material. You'll also notice your energy levels will rise and i can't be certain but i swear i noticed some change in relation to social anxiety.. porn wires your mind to see women in a certain way, so natural interaction becomes foreign and unusual.

It takes immense self-control to contain this when it's literally a click away on the internet and almost all media is sexualized heavily in some manner. We are constantly bombarded with sexualized images and messages through advertising, media and music. - This is worth keeping in mind.
 
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i've gone over half way i think into this. i haven't watched porn but i came across a website which showed cleavage and thought fuck it, why not.
not a single nipple on there though so it was intended to be a tool to imagination.
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What you reveal there is the mindset behind porn addiction. You've got to fight that. At some point in the future you will be able to look at porn without attachment, but in the short/medium term you should not indulge that state of mind at all.. because that's what you need to purge, that's what keeps you hooked with porn. The porn is just images etc.. it's the mental aspect that is important here.

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at the moment i feel i could go longer than a month without the porn but it's a slippery slope. i could watch that first 2 minutes again and slip back into the way i was. so saying that, i realize it was an addiction, or rather a habit. old habits die hard so keeping away for a while and doing it once a little while won't hurt. who knows. i have another 2 weeks to go either way but i feel i can definitely do it without a problem.
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Addictions, and the mind, are very crafty. You can rationalize the procedure by knowing that you will return to it at some point in the future. It's good you're experimenting with not using, this is the first step and helps build momentum. But recognize this 'calm of the storm'.. you get lulled into a false sense of security. You think you're doing great, you have fantastic days even.. then you have a bad day, a bit too stressed or irritable for some reason.. and that's when the test is because that's when those thoughts come back, when you're at your weakest and vulnerable.

The longer you go without and the more often you do this the stronger your willpower becomes.
 
malakaix.
this is exactly what i was trying to explain. i can now just speak to women normally. i am pretty sure watching porn just drains all these positive social lubricants. like speaking to women now just seems way easier than it was. obviously working out and jogging helps that too.
about the ex girlfriend thing when it comes to imagination. i too had that for a bit but now that i'm out seeing people i start to accumulate things for the "wank bank". the wank bank is a real thing too. i never knew until now. honestly, how the hell do we cope with such high sex drives as a society. no wonder we are addicted to porn.

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yeah, thanks for bringing me down to earth with that. it's way easy to get ahead of yourself and i know when i feel this great i can fall pretty hard and that is when i do give up. self destruct mode with something i thought i could do. a false sense of security indeed. i'll make sure i won't even take on even softer porn. you are right, it is still that mentality and essentially cheating myself. rules have changed.
 
Make peace with the idea that you may slip up a couple of times. I think it's quite an insidious addiction really, especially when porn is free and almost custom to your desires. Just make your mind up you want rid of it and that's the end of it.
 
Well done hunni on getting out and about and creating yourself a physical fitness routine. That's great!

You will eventually come to realise that you don't need the porn and the attachment will decrease.

I bet the next lady you get sexual with is going to have an incredible time. Concentrate on that aspect and take one day at a time.

I was getting myself off 5 times per day to porn and while at the time it was fantastic, in the long run it really wasn't worth my time and dedication to it.

You can beat this, the imagination is a far superior thing to a quick wank to some cheap porno.

Good luck babe
 
I have tried doing it, but I always ends up on theporndude after a couple of days for a fap marathon. It's hard to resist the hornyness.
 
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its the association of the horneyness with the porn. i now feel completely taken away by it.
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This is it here, when horny my mind immediately jumps to porn.. it's a very similar pattern to smoking, when i use to smoke whenever i watched a movie or show with the characters smoking i felt the need to smoke even if i had only had one ten minutes ago.

Due to been completely exhausted from work the last couple of days i haven't felt the need to look up porn, as a result i haven't masturbated for a couple of days.. I do feel different in a way i can't really describe - more focus, more energy, emotionally centered and my mood feels lifted.

I've done this before in the past and i know the benefits, but it's been a while.. i think i'll use this as jumping spot to cut down/out porn, if i feel the need to masturbate it'll only be from imagination.
 
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