evilcalvin
Bluelighter
So how big is your non-drug social life?Mine is practically non-existant. 
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Social Life Away From Drugs?
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Do you mean friendships outside bluelight? Or friendships that last without the aid of drugs?
I havent been using drugs really at all since January and I like to say I have a pretty existant social life. In bluelight and not. None of my friendships revolve around drugs.
Having said that, why is it that bluelighters seem to classify friends and bluelighters in seperate categories?
They arent just drug buddies, the friendships which have formed within bluelight are pretty close and genuine.
It reminds me of once at work someone said,
"do you ever go out with people from work? or consider them friends?"
and i said
"yes" and he said,
"why? they are just work buddies".
I havent been using drugs really at all since January and I like to say I have a pretty existant social life. In bluelight and not. None of my friendships revolve around drugs.
Having said that, why is it that bluelighters seem to classify friends and bluelighters in seperate categories?
They arent just drug buddies, the friendships which have formed within bluelight are pretty close and genuine.
It reminds me of once at work someone said,
"do you ever go out with people from work? or consider them friends?"
and i said
"yes" and he said,
"why? they are just work buddies".
Pleonastic
Bluelighter
Don't you hate it when you half write a really long response and then you read over it and it's all just crap? 
I'll come back and answer this question when I can get my head around what I'm trying to say here...
I'll come back and answer this question when I can get my head around what I'm trying to say here...
superbass
Bluelighter
What MoW^WoW said 
funki
Bluelighter
i have 2 social lives, 2 groups of friends
my drug friends and my non drug friends
i have better fun with my drug friends i seem to see them more often, however my non drug friends are my friends from primary school and all through high school, they dont necessarily like what i get up to, and i havent seen them much since schoolies, im hoping that will pick up soon.
my drug friends and my non drug friends
i have better fun with my drug friends i seem to see them more often, however my non drug friends are my friends from primary school and all through high school, they dont necessarily like what i get up to, and i havent seen them much since schoolies, im hoping that will pick up soon.
BigTrancer
Bluelight Crew
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Don't you hate it when you half write a really long response and then you read over it and it's all just crap?
I'll come back and answer this question when I can get my head around what I'm trying to say here...
What Pleo said. Word.
BigTrancer
insomnia
Bluelighter
I have to agree with m0wy I got plenty of freinds who do not associate with drugs also.
I got plenty of freinds who do not associate with drugs also.
Pleonastic
Bluelighter
Ahhhhh fuckit, I might as well just agree with m0wy too...
anfalicious
Bluelighter
I sort of waded into bluelight just as my last social group fell apart (sort of worked out they were all drunken wankers). I was also unemployed at the time, and am yet to make any serious friendships through work.
As a result, pretty much all my friends are bluelighters. Some have come into bluelight with me, and some I have met through bluelight.
Reminds me of a girl I used to know who, even though we were spending every weekend with her, she still classed us as "net friends" who didn't rate high enough to be introduced to her "normal friends". Needless to say she got a big fuck you
I admit that my friendships and drugs were largely intertwined, but I don't think they are co-dependant. I can do without drugs, but I cant do without my friendships, so I know which one I would give up if there was a conflict.
As a result, pretty much all my friends are bluelighters. Some have come into bluelight with me, and some I have met through bluelight.
Reminds me of a girl I used to know who, even though we were spending every weekend with her, she still classed us as "net friends" who didn't rate high enough to be introduced to her "normal friends". Needless to say she got a big fuck you
I admit that my friendships and drugs were largely intertwined, but I don't think they are co-dependant. I can do without drugs, but I cant do without my friendships, so I know which one I would give up if there was a conflict.
Pleonastic
Bluelighter
I will say this though - I think a lot of people keep their bluelight friends and their other friends apart for fear of being called their bluelight name while the other friends are around. Because you gotta admit, it feels kinda lame when you have to explain it to people that don't understand - and sometimes it's just easier to avoid it...
evilcalvin
Bluelighter
What I meant was friends you don't take drugs with, Bluelighters or not.
Pleonastic
Bluelighter
/serious advice ON
In that case, I don't think you needed to use the three frowning faces...
Just because you happen to take drugs with all your friends, doesn't mean you're not normal. I only have one friend who doesn't take drugs, and she's one of my best friends. The only possible problem is when all you have in common with your friends is the fact that you take drugs - and even if that's the case it's usually easily fixed. Just ring one of them and go see a movie or something. Or next time you find yourself in another conversation about drugs stop and say that you're sick of only talking about drugs.
But I don't think you necesserally need "non-drug" friends... just the ability to do other things with them too. Which I think is what you're getting at in a way anyway...
In that case, I don't think you needed to use the three frowning faces...
Just because you happen to take drugs with all your friends, doesn't mean you're not normal. I only have one friend who doesn't take drugs, and she's one of my best friends. The only possible problem is when all you have in common with your friends is the fact that you take drugs - and even if that's the case it's usually easily fixed. Just ring one of them and go see a movie or something. Or next time you find yourself in another conversation about drugs stop and say that you're sick of only talking about drugs.
But I don't think you necesserally need "non-drug" friends... just the ability to do other things with them too. Which I think is what you're getting at in a way anyway...
jakoz
Bluelighter
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I would not class Bluelighters the same as normal friends - Bluelighters are people with whom you can quite happily look your worst virtually *every* time you see them. In fact, thats probably the state you were in when you met them
I think it is important to have friends that dont use drugs, if only to ground you and to keep drug usage in perspective. It is easy to lose perspective when everyone else is going hard with you.
I think it is important to have friends that dont use drugs, if only to ground you and to keep drug usage in perspective. It is easy to lose perspective when everyone else is going hard with you.
up all night
Bluelight Crew
I think I'm like some other people here in that I have two sets of friends.....drug users and non-drug users and they don't necessarily all get along.
I have the most fun, most crazy, most insane nights with the people who I do drugs with and treasure those (fractured) memories.
But as much as I love them all, I think if you took drugs out of the equation, we'd probably gradually lose contact over time.
My non-drug user friends are the people who keep me grounded. They're fun too...just in a different way. These are the friends who my parents know, who I've grown up with and who I would trust with my life.
But, they don't understand my drug usage, they don't understand when I try to explain some crazy night out and so there's a part of my life that they can't be a part of.
My BEST friends are the ones that fit in both those categories. Best of both worlds.
I have the most fun, most crazy, most insane nights with the people who I do drugs with and treasure those (fractured) memories.
But as much as I love them all, I think if you took drugs out of the equation, we'd probably gradually lose contact over time.
My non-drug user friends are the people who keep me grounded. They're fun too...just in a different way. These are the friends who my parents know, who I've grown up with and who I would trust with my life.
But, they don't understand my drug usage, they don't understand when I try to explain some crazy night out and so there's a part of my life that they can't be a part of.
My BEST friends are the ones that fit in both those categories. Best of both worlds.
new_piller
Bluelighter
up_all_night you took the words right out of my mouth!
Smil-E
Bluelighter
The only people I pop with are BLers. I mean I know other people who do it, but the only people I will drop WITH are BLers.
My cookie munching social life is just a part of my life. Not all of it. I mean if you notice that you have to go out and munch to have a good time, you should really get out the scene for a while. My gf doesnt ever pop, so I go clubbing straight with her most friday nites. The scene doesnt need drugs to be fun.
My cookie munching social life is just a part of my life. Not all of it. I mean if you notice that you have to go out and munch to have a good time, you should really get out the scene for a while. My gf doesnt ever pop, so I go clubbing straight with her most friday nites. The scene doesnt need drugs to be fun.
superbass
Bluelighter
I agree totally with Pleo on the 'BLer friends and other friends don't mix well'.
Most of my fiends at the moment would be BLers. But I can safely say that the group of BLer friends I have could very easily have just as much fun without drugs as with them. The fact that drugs are so readily available just means that the 'drug fun' happens more often.
Most of my fiends at the moment would be BLers. But I can safely say that the group of BLer friends I have could very easily have just as much fun without drugs as with them. The fact that drugs are so readily available just means that the 'drug fun' happens more often.
Insecurity
Bluelighter
I went to an all-girls school, so things could get pretty bitchy as you can imagine, but being me, I chose to ignore the politics. I had a core group of about 8 girls that I hung with alll the time. Now I'm lucky if I see them at all.
The transition from school to uni (2000) wasn't that hard, but since I'm doing a different course to my friends, I don't see them at all. We've all got different timetables or go to different unis, and we've all made new friends. I still get invited to parties, but they all seem to be stuck in high school, reminiscing about the same things every time (teachers, bitches and boyfriends). I can't stand it because I've changed so much.
I've got friends who don't use drugs that I hang out with, but I just find it hard to have a really close friendship with any of them, because I find what they talk about to be so boring and ordinary I want to cry. It's nothing against them personally.
So, yes, I'm saying most of my close friends I have made in the last 2 years use, and most are bluelighters or those I've met in the scene. Not all pill or use speed, some are just stoners that I chill with. But most do both.
Maybe it's just me, and I know that before I leave uni I'll change a lot more than I have in the past couple of years. I know that I need other people to "ground" me, but I totally agree with Jakoz. The people I'm closest to use, and I don't really care that they've seen me at my worst, because I've seen them too.
That's my $0.02 anyway.
The transition from school to uni (2000) wasn't that hard, but since I'm doing a different course to my friends, I don't see them at all. We've all got different timetables or go to different unis, and we've all made new friends. I still get invited to parties, but they all seem to be stuck in high school, reminiscing about the same things every time (teachers, bitches and boyfriends). I can't stand it because I've changed so much.
I've got friends who don't use drugs that I hang out with, but I just find it hard to have a really close friendship with any of them, because I find what they talk about to be so boring and ordinary I want to cry. It's nothing against them personally.
So, yes, I'm saying most of my close friends I have made in the last 2 years use, and most are bluelighters or those I've met in the scene. Not all pill or use speed, some are just stoners that I chill with. But most do both.
Maybe it's just me, and I know that before I leave uni I'll change a lot more than I have in the past couple of years. I know that I need other people to "ground" me, but I totally agree with Jakoz. The people I'm closest to use, and I don't really care that they've seen me at my worst, because I've seen them too.
That's my $0.02 anyway.