DistyBoi
Bluelighter
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- Nov 17, 2011
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I've always had social anxiety and recently its been causing me major issues. If I am around people I don't have to get to know then I am fine, there's no pressure on me about what they may think of me. I can joke with random people in shops, I can have a laugh with random people in clubs fine, I can pull random people, etc. But remove the word random from all of those situations and I find it a lot harder. Once I start to socialize with people that I will have to have continued social interactions with I start to feel very on edge, under pressure and generally anxious.
For example I've just moved house and am co-habiting with 5 other people. The first week I really pushed myself and forced myself to be social and give a good impression to work with in the future. A lot of drinking, sweating, social stress and awkwardness. However now whenever I see my flatmates I get an instant flight responce whenever I start any sort of social interaction. I will start speaking and instantly I am on edge, thinking of a way to somehow leave the situation without looking like I am avoiding them as I dont want to give them that impression, but the longer I speak the worse this gets.
My doctor says its a typical flight responce, where-as I should be fighting that fear. But its extremely hard. Hard to tell what the fear is, its a combination of things, fear of not knowing what to say, fear of confrontation, fear of how I am coming across, fear of awkwards silences, all of which make my conversations non flowing and awkwardly irratic and detatached, as I am usually more worrying about these things than being in the moment and focussing on the conversation at hand.
Recently I have been using the occasional benzo, which really works amazingly (just four days now, 1-2mg etizolam). Too amazingly in fact, so I am going to stop this use before I become addicted. But I can see my current situation starting to lead to benzo abuse, and really can't see any other way out at the moment.
Anyone else like this, and how have you improved your symptoms?
For example I've just moved house and am co-habiting with 5 other people. The first week I really pushed myself and forced myself to be social and give a good impression to work with in the future. A lot of drinking, sweating, social stress and awkwardness. However now whenever I see my flatmates I get an instant flight responce whenever I start any sort of social interaction. I will start speaking and instantly I am on edge, thinking of a way to somehow leave the situation without looking like I am avoiding them as I dont want to give them that impression, but the longer I speak the worse this gets.
My doctor says its a typical flight responce, where-as I should be fighting that fear. But its extremely hard. Hard to tell what the fear is, its a combination of things, fear of not knowing what to say, fear of confrontation, fear of how I am coming across, fear of awkwards silences, all of which make my conversations non flowing and awkwardly irratic and detatached, as I am usually more worrying about these things than being in the moment and focussing on the conversation at hand.
Recently I have been using the occasional benzo, which really works amazingly (just four days now, 1-2mg etizolam). Too amazingly in fact, so I am going to stop this use before I become addicted. But I can see my current situation starting to lead to benzo abuse, and really can't see any other way out at the moment.
Anyone else like this, and how have you improved your symptoms?