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Serotonin101

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I couldn't figure out to post it in SLR or TDS but its related to recovery and staying clean and wish to ask others who're in the same addiction boat as me this question.

so there's this girl I went to college with and gotten to know fairly well. she's really sweet and funny and I dig her a lot. she used to be my "wifey" a few years back as we got "married" while we were tripping (I proposed jokingly with a dandelion ring I made and she said yes and began calling me hubby from there forward). she hated the fact I became a junkie as she doesn't really dabble in hard drugs (she drinks a glass of wine occasionally and maybe smokes a couple joints or bowls during the day). she is aware I am clean now and we started chatting again today though briefly. I told her I'd come up to visit her and some mutual friends of ours (we are part of a pretty big stoner circle of friends). I do not feel pressured to smoke or drink at all even while I'm around others doing that kinda thing. I was wondering if there are people who are clean who date or are in a relationship with someone who's a "normal" person? she respects my recovery and I just wanna know if I should try to pursue something with her. thanks family :)
 
If you truly believe she is a normie, and you know her casual use won't present a lure for you, I say go for it.

I don't/wouldn't seriously date someone in recovery. Two people w/ fucked up problems usually doesn't equate to a solid relationship, from what I've seen.
 
motherofearth said:
If you truly believe she is a normie, and you know her casual use won't present a lure for you, I say go for it.

I don't/wouldn't seriously date someone in recovery. Two people w/ fucked up problems usually doesn't equate to a solid relationship, from what I've seen.
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yeah I tried relationships in recovery. I'm 0/8 with those girls. the good thing is this girl never did my doc (heroin, meth) and never was an IV user. I became an outsider to my group of friends cuz I was a junkie :/ ill see what happens I guess. I just don't wanna start texting her out of no where as that could seem weird. so ill coordinate visiting my old uni campus and "get her number".
 
Serotonin101 said:
so there's this girl I went to college with and gotten to know fairly well. she's really sweet and funny and I dig her a lot. she used to be my "wifey" a few years back as we got "married" while we were tripping (I proposed jokingly with a dandelion ring I made and she said yes and began calling me hubby from there forward). she hated the fact I became a junkie as she doesn't really dabble in hard drugs (she drinks a glass of wine occasionally and maybe smokes a couple joints or bowls during the day). she is aware I am clean now and we started chatting again today though briefly. I told her I'd come up to visit her and some mutual friends of ours (we are part of a pretty big stoner circle of friends). I do not feel pressured to smoke or drink at all even while I'm around others doing that kinda thing. I was wondering if there are people who are clean who date or are in a relationship with someone who's a "normal" person? she respects my recovery and I just wanna know if I should try to pursue something with her. thanks family :)
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Hey,

I've actually been in your shoes a few times (I used to be a hopeless romantic under the influence of psychedelic drugs ;)).

Before I can really address your question I really need clarification, though - Are you trying to re-ignite a previous tight friendship, or are you entertaining the idea of approaching your relationship with her from a romantic standpoint?

When it comes to recovery, I know *you* know how crucial such details become :)

I have experience delving into both arenas, and will happily share my experiences with you! Just gotta be sure which facet of the universal prism we're looking through :D

~ Vaya
 
we were friends before but her actions then implied something more could have developed (I was too fucked up during that time to care/act on it). now I'm thinking of something possibly romantic. though I'm not setting up any expectations. so no, I'm not reigniting, I'm trying to pour gas on it so when I light the fire its a boom awesome cool explosion :)
 
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