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So my girlfriend starts talking about circumcision...

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pirate24

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First let me just say I'm uncircumcised. I live in the Philippines where all guys are circumcised. Right after I had sex with my girlfriend starts talking about circumcision and how it leads to a fuller sex life, how it's a tradition, how girls in the Philippines prefer it and how they say that you're not a real man until you've experienced sex circumcised. Then she said 'I'm not saying you need to get that done'. At the time I was tired so I didn't think that much of it.

Later on I started thinking about that and started getting pissed off about this so I txted her again about the circumcision thing and she started talking again about how girls prefer it, etc *hint hint*. Now, maybe I'm a little fucked up, but I interpret this as her saying that SHE prefers it and that I should get it done. I said if she cared that much about it she should be with a filipino guy, because I'm perfectly happy with my dick thank you very much! She got pissed off at me for saying that and said she wasn't being insensitive and that she never asked me to get that done. I quoted her the thing about how she said that "you're not a real man until your circumcised" and she said she wasn't referring to me and she wasn't being insensitive because she thought over and over again how to talk to me about it. Then she stopped speaking to me until I apologized.

I still feel raw about it though, should I be? Did I overreact? I mean, the way I see it, I would never ask her to mutilate a part of her body for me. I'm perfectly fine with her and I'm kinda hurt that she doesn't feel the same way about me. It's kinda like me asking her to get breast implants.

I want to bring this up with her again because why would she bring it up with me if she doesn't want me to do it? How should I do that? I don't want to be with a girl who's not OK with how I am.
 
LOL tell her to Stfu! It's what SHE prefers and from what I know... loads of girls don't give a shit.
 
Shes also WRONG..YOU will enjoy sex more because when your uncircumcised your dick is protected, uncircumcised ones are rubbing all up an everything..you know what the damn foerskin is there for a reason, thats why you were born with it so i guess i have to change my mind and agree with kitten..tell her STFU its your dick and she suck a bag of dead ones if she doesn't like it..the more i think about it the more the practice of circumcision seems..your born and someone cuts the skin off your dick?? WTF
 
Women do prefer it. One study of North American women had the preference for it at 89%.
 
^^ The OP says he lives in the Philippines where most men are not circumcised. I could not give two shits, as a female (in the U.S.) if a guys is or is not. It's, after all, a religious thing in origin - and people 'claim' it's for hygienic reasons, often. However, if you keep yourself clean (as would normally) this shouldn't be an issue. Tell her you prefer female circumcision. See how she likes THAT one :|

No, but really - if this is a problem between you two, and it makes you feel lousy, she may not be the girl for you? Are there other issues at hand (not a pun...) ? Gotta work now.... hope this gets some more replies! Hang in there man! (another 'non pun');)
 
ii agree with ^^ that guy^^ im a chick and there is NO issue with an uncircumcised penis except for that fact that most guys don't rock that style..my ex husband was uncircumcised and it made no difference, didnt matter, other than IMO he was more sensitive...you should tell this chick to back off! ask her if she will get a clit-o-rectomy? or tell her she needs a nose job
 
Dude you didn't overreact at all. I'm uncircumcised myself and if somebody I was in a relationship said that to me I would be PISSED! Plus she's just flat out wrong. Being uncircumcised rules! The idea of getting circumcised to me is entirely about LOSS. Where I'm from the ratio of circ/uncirc guys is not as stark but in my age group 25-35 most guys are circumcised. 90% of my sexual partners have enjoyed the fact that I was uncircumcised or seemed to prefer it. Nobody has complained. Now I understand that this might be some sort of cultural thing but I think you really need to stick to your guns. Plus not everybody wants somebody who is 'the same' many people are turned on by something different.
 
i am cut , but a friend of mine was afraid of the anteater look, until she played with a few, but now she seems to enjoy them more after getting over the initial shock!

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Women do prefer it. One study of North American women had the preference for it at 89%.
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raveageddon said:
Dude you didn't overreact at all. I'm uncircumcised myself and if somebody I was in a relationship said that to me I would be PISSED! Plus she's just flat out wrong. Being uncircumcised rules! The idea of getting circumcised to me is entirely about LOSS. Where I'm from the ratio of circ/uncirc guys is not as stark but in my age group 25-35 most guys are circumcised. 90% of my sexual partners have enjoyed the fact that I was uncircumcised or seemed to prefer it. Nobody has complained. Now I understand that this might be some sort of cultural thing but I think you really need to stick to your guns. Plus not everybody wants somebody who is 'the same' many people are turned on by something different.
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I agree how did it come to be that its like "normal" and expected to take a baby and slice part of their poor little dick off? its whacked...Im a chick and i my ex has an uncircumcised penis and was like "thank god your parents left your shit alone!" can u imagine..slicing your foreskin off...its there because it SERVES A PURPOSE..
 
As other people have said don't get your foreskin removed at all.

If you wanted to be crass you could tell her how if she were in certain African and Middle Eastern countries people would be telling her how if she got her clitoral hood removed that her vagina would somehow be more hygienic, aesthetically pleasing, and whatever other BS they tell people to either justify their genital mutilation or have them decide to go through with it.

I don't think you overreacted. I'm not cut and if someone else a man or a woman has an issue with my penis that's their problem. I've never been with a man who was annoyed or turned off that I'm not cut but if during sex they wanted it so my penis was like it is cut I'd just hold back the foreskin, or maybe I just wouldn't have sex with them at all if they made that big of a deal of it.
 
First, ask her how would she react if you said that you would rather she got breast implants as guys much prefer it, it's much better looking, would be better than what she has right now etc etc?

Then ask her if she feels it's ok to fall out with you over changing your body to suit her? Do you need to do it just because all the other guys are getting it done? If they all chopped their ear lobes off for "traditional" reasons, would you do it too?

It's about time we discarded these antiquated and obsolescent traditions and got on with things.

At the end of the day it's your circumcision so it should be your circumdecision. (got away with that one I think)

EDIT: just noticed you already touched upon the implants thing, but it's valid nonetheless.
 
Im sorry but regardless of religion or anything,
A girl should NOT have the right to say "how about you get a circumcision"
I am circumcised, as a baby though, because of medical reasons.

But as i said, they shoulnt have any influence whatsover on whether we get circumcised or not, thats our sexual organ. So its our choice.

thats kind of like getting with a girl and saying "how about you get a boob job, its not uncommon these days"
 
YOU SHOULD DO WHATEVER YOU WANT! LEAVE IT AS-IS, OR GET IT CUT! I don't know about the Philippines, but in America, they don't do FULL circumcisions anymore. It's kind of like a half and half. I know this because this discussion came up between me, my sister, and my brother-in-law, and they were talking about how my nephew is, but it's like a halfy lol (It can go "turtle-in-shell" but not completely lol). Yes, the original reason is for religion, but there IS hygienic reasons behind it. They actually had what was supposed to be a 20-month study over this in Africa, where they had QUITE a few African men that were all uncut, they cut half of them, and left the other half as-is, and checked them regularly for AIDS. They ended the study a few months early as it was very apparent it helped prevent AIDS. I can't remember the exact numbers, but they were astounding how much circumcision made a difference. This study was published in a human sexuality textbook I have for a college course, so I know it isn't bullshit. Like I said DO WHAT YOU WANT. It's your body and you should do what you want. Kind of like the whole abortion thing. I've also heard that having an uncircumcised makes sex more pleasurable, which I could understand, because, think about it, there's a bit more skin rubbing up and down the glans when that happens. Once again, DO WHAT YOU WANT! IT'S YOUR BODY! IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE IT, TELL HER YOU WANT THE HEAD OF HER CLIT CUT OFF LIKE THEY DO IN OTHER COUNTRIES!
 
My bad! Excuse... I was BLing after waking at 5am..w/ little sleep. Alasdair is spot on, man. Talk with her. I really wouldn't try to "turn the tables" but instead be mature and honest- and get out of the relationship if you continue to feel uncomfortable as result of her comments."
 
I don't think i've seen a post by alasdairm that hasn't been absolutely spot on, tbh.
Most of these issues that come up in threads can be solved by simple communication and getting issues out in the open.
 
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