Mental Health Sight...

[Ksa]

I Just got my Iron Ring after attending the engineering ceremony an hour ago. Came back home.

Me: Hi mom! How you doing! I got the ring! (shows ring)
Mom: What...huh...don't get big, you should have gotten it in December.
(5 min later)
Mom: That ring of yours, whatever you call it...don't put it in some chemical or whatever you do to all the things you break.
Me: So where do you suggest that I put it mom?
Mom: I couldn't care less.
Me: Perhaps I should shove it up my middle member for a change...(I leave pissed off and confused in the same time).


Now my mother is having a nervous crysis in the other room. Crying, throwing temper tantrums. She's saying she doesn't want to talk to me again, ever. She's unstable. Yelling.

Dad: You should not reply to her when she's like that.
Me: How the fuck was I suppose to know, you never warned me back in the car.
Dad: You should stop making sex jokes.
Me: you know it's not about the fucking sex joke...she pushed it, she wanted to get mad. She needs a fucking outlet.
Dad: Don't say that to her. She's been fucked around by her father who needs medical attention...she's over the edge. You don't have a job.
Me: I graduated a month ago, wtf am I supposed to do, there's nothing out there!
Dad: find something...fast...
Me: She'll pop before I find something. She can't find her outlets solely in buying a new car or in me finding a job, she needs something.
Dad: Don't say such things to her.
Me: You gotta find something.

This is my evening at the moment, thought I could share with you haha

 

[herbavore]

Well..... that sounds horrible! Hang in there, ksa. You don't get to pick your family but one thing is for sure--you get to learn a lot of patience, letting go, loyalty, compromise, anger management, mental health strategies and a host of other useful human tools by hanging around with them.

 

[Ksa]

I am a Diablo player where you know, gamers insult eachother and talk shit...I have never met an online oponent who could debitate so many insults per minute for absolutely no reason. She's a natural foods enthusiast. She rejects medication. She doesn't know what "agonist" means. She never has fun and never relaxes, doesn't meditate. She always blamed her inner misery on other people ever since I was 5 and could understand my parents conversations.

Worst part, she doesn't realize that her misery is of a chemical nature. She thinks people around her want to hurt her because they are bad and intentionally do things to upset her. She has no dopamine in her reward region. She is not chemically rewarded for existing. Her cells are all swelled up and leave zero intracellular dopamine. She may have ADHD but refuses medication.

All this is worstened by an 88 y.o. demential alcoholic grandfather who tells her off on the phone when she offers to help. Wtf can I do?

 

[China Rider]

I wish I had directions on how to do it

but your dad was right, do something, fast....that 'something' should be trying to move out (I'm assuming you live at home?)

if you can't afford to move out, try to spend the least amount of time at home as possible

if you don't have a lot of friends that are available to hang out, and playing computer games is your main hobby, maybe just frequently go to places with free wi-fi?

living in unhealthy environments, like a parasite, will drain you...and as cold as it sounds, you may feel completely innocent, but you being around might be one of the biggest reason why your mother is going through this madness

there probably isn't anything you can tell her that will help, your advice, as good as it may be, will more than likely be counterproductive

 

[tripnotyzm]

Rough situation...
Kinda sucks when parents get like that..
You're getting older.. Soon you will find a job & branch off away from your parents, taking on the world by yourself.
Until then, I would try flying under the radar as much as possible (without causing offence to your elders)..
Hunt for a job.. its not always easy to score one, but one will come by, and your parents will love you for it.
I know how frustrating parents can be, but don't forget that they also need support, no matter how infuriating they can be.

 

[Vaya]

Ksa, is this thread intending on asking a specific question? If not, I think it is rather more suited for Blogs than MH. Please let me know!

~ Vaya

Nvm, I see you asked a question in your second post!

 

[FnX]

... Wtf can I do?

If I were you, I'd probably get some distance by moving out to my own place. Is that an option you're considering at all? Because if not, well I don't know if it's wise to force such change on yourself as a means for escape either, but if you kind of have it in the horizon anyway now might be a good time. I think it's possible your mother might calm down and get better if you just got a job, could it be that she's so worried about you and your future that it's making her extremely anxious and now that inner misery is pouring all over her surroundings? I don't know though, she sounds unstable in a way that I feel there's something else in play too that I have no clue of.