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Sick of lack of female company

Gaz_hmmmm

Gaz_hmmmm

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I'm 24 and not had serious female company for a good few years now and anyway there was this one girl that I was getting to know (Read my thread in SLR Forum), anyway I found out it was all bullshit and she just likes me as a friend.

I can't this shit, I've contemplated suicide occasionally since the age of 11.

My final supper, 2 pints of cider, 600+methadone, 10x10mg Valium (Might have more), about 100mg of hydroxzine so I don't vomit it all up and 64 (Doubt I'll be able to swallow'em all but I'll give it ago) APAP/Paracetamol

Au revoir Bluelighters.
 
Dude, instead of paying for pills, pay for an escourt. I haven't done so, but atleast when I talk to complete sluts it gets me more confident and back in the swing of things. Once you get that confident booster, then go for the real thing. It makes a world of difference. Killing yourself is too much of a hassle, although I admire your choice of poisons, minus the apap.
 
When I say female company I mean sexually/and a relationship. I talk to alot of girls but none seem intrested.

I'm sick of getting my cofidence back, liking a girl, thinking she likes me and finding that she doesn't at all.
 
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Well i'm pretty much in the same boat as you. I'm almost 24, and its been years since I have been in a steady relationship with a female.

But would you be ready for a relationship? I guess I, and maybe you too are waiting for that girl.... that girl to come and save me from this shitty lifestyle that I am living. Where the only thing to look forward to after a day of school or work is maybe getting some drugs. I'm hoping that she comes soon, but one can only hope.
 
Gaz, if you haven't been laid in a while you need to get your "schleb" back. Even grabbing an escort or prostitute will boost you 10 fold. I got stoned and drunk and upon walking home a few weeks ago ran into a prostitute. For 20 dollars she gummed me off (i couldn't even keep it up) but when I awoke the next morning I felt great. Even though I paid it made a huge difference in my confidence. Lower your standards have a few drinks and enjoy yourself. Probably 90% of the people on this forum are suicidal. Get over it and catch a nut , whether or not you have to pay is besides the point. Do yourself a favour......do us all a favour
 
Well fuck im 28 and have had only one really serious relationship in my life. The only woman i ever really loved anyway. Ive had more friends that where women then ive had men friends over the years and ive had my share of fuck buddies but only one real relationship. Though thats more telling of my fucked up character then lack of opportunity.

Really though confidence plays a big role and so does not being a jerk. Im sick of the fact that i live in a very small town a good distance away from the city where there really are no available women. Well theres a few that are available but i won't comment on that 8)

Just get out there man. Don't be too pushy because noone likes someone thats clingy. Granted im probably the last person who should be giving relationship advice as ive fucked up alot in that department. Things do get easier as you get abit older or atleast they did for me.

Or get a high class escort to boost your spirits. It worked for me a few times in the past ;)

Also don't fucking off yourself man. Things will get better trust me on that.

Get over it and catch a nut , whether or not you have to pay is besides the point. Do yourself a favour......do us all a favour
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Where you trying to come off as abit of a jerk or did it just come out that way may i ask? Also getting drunk is not the way to hook up with a woman you actually want to be with. Most women i know really don't like guys who are fucked out of their minds on booze or drugs as having someone who is barely coherant isint that fun.
 
I feel your pain. I'm not far off on age and went from the age of 18 to the age of 22 without a single romantic or sexual relationship with a female. Opportunities only came in the form of girlfriends of close friends who seemed hell-bent on tempting myself into breaking up friendships.

It does get easier, as long as you actually put yourself out there.

Those valium sound like they might help with that part. I promise, lonliness doesn't hurt as much as all that APAP will in the tummy.
 
Don't kill yourself over girls, are you serious? I think you're basing way too much of your self worth on other people. Why is it that bad you think it warrants ending your life over? You're 24, you have heaps of time to meet new people and find love.

And trying to OD on paracetamol is a very dumb idea, rather than dying you'll likely just cause yourself serious permanent liver damage and days of agony,.
 
It's ok, I passed out after about 300mg methadone, the cimitedine, 100mg'ish of hydroxzine, some alcohol and a friend's (The friend was asleep and couldn't be woken up) girlfriend texting me. If I didn't keep replying to her texts and eventually passed out it I imagine I'd of been able to swallow everything I was planning on doing.

I regret trying to do it now and feel okish now.
 
ull get your break man. Just work hard at something you love and by nature of your passion, a girl will fall upon you!! Do you want a boring girl who wants to commit suicide? If your being a boring person who wants to commit suicide, what do you expect to find? However, if you find some sort of passion, the girls will come screaming for you!!
 
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I regret trying to do it now and feel okish now.
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Mate I am really glad to hear you're okay and that you regret trying to overdose. I know that it's depressing to be without a partner for so long but if you kill yourself now, you will NEVER know the love of any girl in the future. You have to stick around so that actually you have the opportunity to find that person who is right for you.

Are you getting any counselling or anything like that at the moment? Have you had any in the past? Perhaps it might be something to think about if you're feeling so depressed that you're wanting to commit suicide. You don't have to suffer like this mate <3
 
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Don't kill yourself over girls, are you serious? I
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Happens to me too, and over specific women too. You feel if you can't have them in a perfect way or the way you want you don't even want to go on. A few things to remember is that nobodies life is perfect. Even people that have had tonnes of relationships, casual sex... anything you think you would want, their lives aren't perfect, nobodies is. There would be other things that bug you if you were in a relationship, it's always something. It's just a way of thinking really, there are positive and negative things that can be thought about no matter where you end up in life.


I'm the same bro, 29 and never had a long term relationship. Women have been few and far between, I question if I have ever even been in love before. Exercise, concentrate on your diet, eat ice cream, sleep all day. Do whatever makes those feelings pass, time will help things. (Although a healthy lifestyle, sleep hygiene etc will help even more) Work on looking after yourself. Something will turn up, life has it's little surprises :)
 
n3ophy7e said:
Mate I am really glad to hear you're okay and that you regret trying to overdose. I know that it's depressing to be without a partner for so long but if you kill yourself now, you will NEVER know the love of any girl in the future. You have to stick around so that actually you have the opportunity to find that person who is right for you.

Are you getting any counselling or anything like that at the moment? Have you had any in the past? Perhaps it might be something to think about if you're feeling so depressed that you're wanting to commit suicide. You don't have to suffer like this mate <3
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I've had counselling 3x for anxiety, never talked about depression with my doc', don't want it on my records. I went to the doc's the day after i.e. yesterday and said my anxiety was back and got put back on Citalopram, so hopefully that'll help, it did the last 2 times.

It also doesn't help when your mother says things like "commit suicide" and "I wish you'd just fuck off and die". She only knows of one of my attempts and that was in December, I ended up in hospital in a coma with pnumonia and hypothermia (On top of the OD) and that day I'd argued with her and she said "Well why don't you just go and kill yourself then!?", I have a love hate relationship with her, where my dad doesn't really talk to me and I don't talk to him. We don't get along but he doesn't say shit like she does. :\

Before you say "Why don't you move out?", I can't afford it and I know my opioid addiction would spiral out of control and I'd top myself! :\
 
I'm sorry you feel this way but let me tell you something that might help: As a female I can say with 100% certainty that when a guy comes off as really depressed and does things such as attempt suicide, well, it's a huge red flag and most females stay far far away. I don't know you or your history so I could be wrong when I say this, but I am willing to bet that you would benefit from at least trying to be content, especially in the relationship department because women tend to gravitate towards strong and stable potential partners.

Hopefully you'll feel better soon and I'm sorry you feel this way. I'm going to go ahead and assume that you've probably sought professional help at some point in your life but if for some reason you haven't you might wanna consider seeing a therapist at the very least. I know saying that can be like beating a dead horse here on BL but they can be really beneficial regardless of the stigma attached to them. It sounds like you could really benefit from having someone to talk to; someone who can help process your emotions and explain them to you in a way that allows you to see that this isn't the end of the world and you WILL find someone one day.

Just remember this: The more you try, the less likely you are to find someone (at least that's the case with me). Good luck.
 
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It also doesn't help when your mother says things like "commit suicide" and "I wish you'd just fuck off and die". She only knows of one of my attempts and that was in December, I ended up in hospital in a coma with pnumonia and hypothermia (On top of the OD) and that day I'd argued with her and she said "Well why don't you just go and kill yourself then!?", I have a love hate relationship with her, where my dad doesn't really talk to me and I don't talk to him. We don't get along but he doesn't say shit like she does. :\
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Please try not to listen to your mother, mate. She obviously has huge problems if she's repeatedly telling her son to kill himself. Has she been diagnosed with any mental disorders? It sounds like she needs serious help.

As for you, I can kinda imagine why you wouldn't want "depression" on your file, but anxiety and depression very often go hand-in-hand so admitting it to your doctor won't be that much more of a step than what they already know about your anxiety. Is it the negative stigma attached to the word "depression" which is making you hesitate? Try not to let that get in the way of you getting the medical help you need and deserve, because medical professionals don't bat an eyelid at things like that these days. Sure in society there still can be a stigma about depression and other mental disorders but no-one other than you and your doctor ever need to know, unless you tell them.

You mentioned that you've had counselling 3 times in the past. Is that 3 individual sessions? Or 3 periods of multiple sessions each, with 3 different counsellors? Did you find that it helped at all?
 
Why wouldn't you want "depression" on your file? Is it like the same as getting prescribed suboxone or something and being labeled as a opiate addict the rest of your life?
 
Draigan said:
ull get your break man. Just work hard at something you love and by nature of your passion, a girl will fall upon you!! Do you want a boring girl who wants to commit suicide? If your being a boring person who wants to commit suicide, what do you expect to find? However, if you find some sort of passion, the girls will come screaming for you!!
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This^^^ I've had multiple women give me this exact advice, it's always worked, the trick is you have to get past the point where you are always thinking about how you need a relationship and genuinely just find your groove and stay in it. It's always worked for me.

It's a catch 22, it's hard to date when your depressed and it can be hard to pull your self out of depression when it feels like there's no hope.

Just don't kill yourself. Things have a way of working themselves out when you just keep going.
 
binghampton said:
Gaz, if you haven't been laid in a while you need to get your "schleb" back. Even grabbing an escort or prostitute will boost you 10 fold. I got stoned and drunk and upon walking home a few weeks ago ran into a prostitute. For 20 dollars she gummed me off (i couldn't even keep it up) but when I awoke the next morning I felt great. Even though I paid it made a huge difference in my confidence. Lower your standards have a few drinks and enjoy yourself. Probably 90% of the people on this forum are suicidal. Get over it and catch a nut , whether or not you have to pay is besides the point. Do yourself a favour......do us all a favour
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This post is awesome!

Do you know what helped me?

Alcohol ...

Not getting wasted ... Just a few drinks.
 
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