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Maniaz

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Hello thought i would start a sex tips thread for me and everyone else. Basically the other day me and my girl who have been going out for nearly 5 months got into our biggest argument yet and we almost broke up. She was getting annoyed at me because i keep on pressuring her for sex cause we used to do it 4 times a week but now its only twice if im lucky which i know isnt that bad compared to a lot of married couples but still a man has his needs!!. I asked her why and because she said its cause i dont give her an orgasm every time and the sex is pretty average. I've only managed to give her a orgasm once and i was on drugs then.

Now its really hard for me since this is the second girl iv slept with and i only did it once with the last girl but me and the current one have probably done it over 50 times but i just cant seem to last anymore than 10mins if im very lucky or on drugs/drunk and it also just makes me think of the first guy she slept with ( im her eighth ) who she said gave her the best sex ever after me, made her orgasm, and was able to cum multiple times. Iv only been better then this guy one time which makes me feel so horrible, he had slept with lots of girls though.

She says there is no point in doing it if she doesnt have an orgasm and i feel so horrible and not good enough for her and just makes me think of the first guy she slept with. Sooooo any tips BL????
 
She seems like a straight up bitch, I would dump someone that compared me sexually to a number of her previous flings. She also seems like she has some pretty high expectations for sex so you, if you do decide you still want to be with her, need to just work on some exercises for longevity. I find that the more I masturbate the longer I last.
 
Sex tips? Watch some pornos and learn some moves. 10 minutes is more than enough to make most girls cum if you know what your doing. And don't feel horrible about it thats going to turn her off more. Grow some confidence and keep railing that shit til you get it right. Practice makes perfect.
 
shishigami said:
She seems like a straight up bitch, I would dump someone that compared me sexually to a number of her previous flings. She also seems like she has some pretty high expectations for sex so you, if you do decide you still want to be with her, need to just work on some exercises for longevity. I find that the more I masturbate the longer I last.
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I didn't want to offend you, but yeah she seems like a selfish bitch
 
Ya, don't talk about your past lovers with your current partner unless they actually get turned on by that kinda thing. The dirty way to handle this would be to talk about your past lays until she gets the message, but really this is kind of a maturity thing that people learn to not do over time, and she might still be kinda young.

Sex is a game for two or more people, so it shouldn't be solely your responsibility to get her to orgasm. She's got two hands, so let her stimulate her own clit while you have intercourse with her from behind. Watch what she's doing to get herself to that point and then the next time you have sex, do that same thing only with your own hand.

Another thing you can do with your hand is to wave good-bye as you walk out the door and move on. Life's too short to be with women who fuck with your head like this.
 
I know orgasms feel amazing and all but it's kind of sad that she is so focused on that, and that she won't consider being with you unless you can make her feel a certain way. Sounds like typical co-dependent non-sense to me. There's nothing wrong with you and always comparing you to other guys she's been with sounds like a big ego trip to me. If she genuinely cared about you, then she would only concern herself with you and not bring her personal history into it.

Talk about baggage.
 
^ That's actually a good point. Anyone who gets too caught up in getting off during sex, as if everything is is a means to that end, really knows fuck-all about having good sex. Yes, orgasms are important, feel great, and if delayed too long can cause guys uncomfortable pain, but they are just one part of sexuality. Some guys will spend whopping amounts of money on dominatrices, sessions in which orgasms usually don't even happen. Orgasms last mere seconds, but good sex can go on for hours. If she does not have the capability to get creative and figure this out, then she needs to be with another "quick sex for the orgasms" person. Sexual incompatibility is and will always be a deal-breaker.

You can tell a good partner not just by what they do in the time leading up to orgasm, but how they handle the intimacy in the time immediately after as well.
 
You mention you only last 10 mins, but is there foreplay involved?

Don't beat yourself up over her talking about other guys. That's really shitty of anyone to do to their partner, and like RedLeader said, you learn through maturity and experience not to do it, even if it's true. Some things are left better unsaid, and she should show you what she likes.

I think maybe the two of you should compromise and experiment with foreplay. If I'm understanding you properly, it sounds like you guys just need some practice and some patience with each other.
 
I don't think I could last ten minutes even if no foreplay was involved. If your partner gives you shit about not lasting very long, just look into her eyes non-chalantly and say "well it's not like this is gunna be the only time I fuck you tonight" or something. Short and fast, so that it's good for you. And then immediately go down on her for as long as it takes for your 8o to be ready for the next round. If you're worried about consuming your own semen, wear a condom. Or drink more pineapple juice. But learn to give a woman amazing oral, and it will give you tons and tons of leverage in bed.
 
I was planning to chime in, but there is already so much good advice in this thread that I have little left to add.
Maybe I will cite my personal favorites (and add a thought or two):
1) She sounds immature (or like a mean person) for comparing you to her previous lovers
2) Learn to give her oral sex for as long as it takes. Do it in a way she likes it. Some women like direct stimulation of the clit, others say it is too intense, and you should play around it most of the time, only occasionally directly touching it. Etc. etc. Communication is key. Ask her what she likes. Say "do you like it like this? How about this?"
3) Orgasms are not the only point of sex. Closeness is enough to make many people very happy. Orgasms are important, but not the only important thing.
4) She should work with you towards her orgasm, not rely entirely on you.
5) Do not lose confidence in your performance. If you are open, and willing to communicate, and try your best, you should have lots of confidence - sex will be better if you do.
6) It doesn't really matter if you last 10 minutes or 10 hours. However, if you pull out (long enough) before climax, and wait a minute, then start again, you will be able to go longer. Try it while masturbating. Stop just before coming. Wait until you are not close anymore (but are still hard) and start again. Work on it until you can do this 40 or 50 times in a row, and you will be able to last much longer than 10 minutes (with breaks).

Good luck!
 
Learn how to give her excellent oral sex, and don't expect her to give it to you.

Also if you want to learn how to last longer during sex when you masturbate bring yourself to the edge but don't ejaculate/orgasm and do this for long periods of time; but just do this during sex and go slower.
 
chick sounds like a bitch man and frankly pretty immature/young. I'll tell you that some of my best sexual experiences haven't ended in orgasm. I'll also tell you that sometimes I enjoy getting my partner off more than I care about myself getting off.
 
i dont post here much, but she does sound like a bitch. my ex gf and i had an understanding, if i got her off and i didnt get off it wasnt a gid deal, we both agreed it was like the icing on the cake. just the act of making love and being intimate is the real pleasure, sometimes id get off and she wouldnt be able to, other times we got off at the same time and it was amazing.

. i didnt look at me doing something wrong, it just didnt happen. plus a girl that isnt going to fuck you bc you cant get her off, well she needs to learn how to work her body to aid in the situation. my ex used to flick the bean a lot, and i mean A LOT lol...she knew how to get herself off no problem. i mean she would still even rub one out if i was away for a day. its extremely important for your partner to know what gets her going, that way you can find out what she likes and what she doesnt like. plus this has been said a million times but mental stimulation is where its al for girls...get the mind going and the body is soon to follow.... yeah, sounds like a bitch....lol sorry man.
 
My question is how old are you two? If you are not bound together by insuperable ties like house, years of marriage, kids, need for companionship I'd say start looking for another girlfriend. This one's already half way out the door.
 
Yeah, your first option would to just dump her.
But you don't need to be AMAZING at sex, as long as you can turn a girl on to where your touch makes her orgasm, you should be okay.
Tips:
Make out sensually, as a little time goes by it'll start getting a little hotter, and a little heavier. Start making out deeper with her.. Stop, kiss down to her neck, up to her ear.. Lick her ear sensually. Pull her clothes off, kiss your way from her lips to her feet. Back up between her legs, kiss around her pussy, tease it. Kiss on it once, just keep teasing her. Start licking her lips around her pussy, make sure you are rubbing her body with your hands softly.. Once you can tell she is breathing really heavy, and is just fully engaged.. Start eating her out.

Basically, its just about being able to get a girl fully engaged in the act with you. If you aren't great at sex, if she's horny enough a dick inside her will be good enough. If you really last 10 minutes like you say, that is pretty good. I fuck my girl, make her cum twice, and than I finish. You asked for some tips, there are some actual tips. Other than that, dump that skank. If you do what I said to a girl, they will be quite happy. ;]
 
As said allready, she does sound like a bitch. There is absolutely no need to talk about your sex life with previous lovers.
However if you do want to take a shot at this there is something you can do. I actually used to be with a man that couldnt make me climax 2 or three months that we were together. I did protect his feelings at first and it was wrong of me to lie about it. Eventually i did come clean about it though. What i did was tell him what i liked, and we started working together as a team. If its not working out then you need to ASK her what she likes and what you can do to change things. She cant expect you to be physic about this, if its not working out for her then she needs to say something rather than just resort to saying "whats the point?''. Its not just you though, every woman is different, and we all like different things. So dont beat yourself up at this. You cannot make PERFECTION out of sex. I believe that in every relationship you have to have the ''sex talk''. simply learn about eachother, and what you like.
 
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