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So Im soon to be 18 and have had 20 sex partners. I know that sounds completely crazy but im trying to seek some positive opinions. Well, each one of my partners have always just been a one night thing(but I have know them ALL very well since my freshman year) and only 3 of those 20 partners have been my boyfriends. So with these boyfriends I never had sex with any of them more than 4 times in our 6+ month period of our relationship. So technically, I have had only sex less than 30 times and i know an average couple has WAY more than 30 times of intercourse in a relationship. I am beginning to be a little ashamed considering that my own 21 year old sister hasn't even reached 20 partners. But I feel like it can't be all that bad since its not a constant thing? right? :\
 
Its all about your own self worth and own personal opinion of yourself.

I knew a girl in highschool who had over 60 sex partners (She was 17 and a drug addict/slut)

and she was one of my best friends.

Some people may view it as slutty, but trust me, there is allways going to be someone way worse out there than you.
 
Wow I am 18 too... and had over 20 partners and I dont think im a whore nor am i ashamed.... so dont be ashamed its okay .....
 
Don't bother worrying about it. Do you have any diseases? Okay if so then worry about it. If not, then don't. It doesn't really matter.
:)
 
Well, welcome to BL.

That's quite a few partners for your age. I don't think it is necessarily something to be ashamed about, but you might want to do a little soul searching. Why do you feel the need to have sex with so many different people? What went wrong in the relationships you had? Why did you have sex less than once a month with those people you trusted enough to go out with? Seems like there is more going on here than you are telling us.
 
as a guy, girls who sleep around turn me off massively, maybe because i don't feel so "special" if i were to date/have sex with them or because i think they are more likely to "stray" in a relationship. in that sense, it is bad, i am 21 and have had sex at least 150 times but only with 2 people (one 1 1/2 year relationship and another not so long relationship)
something to think about if your looking for potential partners, a lot of guys find promiscuous girls a turn off (unless they are looking for one night stands).

However, if you have no regrets then there is no problem but i think you should "look into yourself" to find out why you sleep with so many people, maybe you need to do it to feel wanted? I'm not sure, only you can answer this question.
 
20 partners at 18 is more than average, I'd think, though plenty of people have had more. The only things to worry about are firstly, if you're safe (using protection, not doing anything you don't want to do) and secondly if you're having fun and not hurting anyone else. If so, I don't see why you should be worried :)

citizen cained said:
or because i think they are more likely to "stray" in a relationship
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I wonder if that's necessarily true? I always tell this story, but I was in a relationship with someone for about four years, and she was completely faithful. We broke up, she went off and slept around with quite a lot of guys...and then she got married and is completely faithful to this other guy. I think people can compartmentalise, if they choose to. (But maybe my ex is an exception?)
 
Those individuals who have more than one sexual partner in their lifetime, are often soulless degenerates.
 
Doesn't seem like a big deal to me, I slept with a lot of people when I was single. Then I dated a girl for two years and was completely faithful.

People like sex, and when you're single you have to find some strange to get laid.
 
When a man has sex with lots of different women, he is considered "The Man!" and this is socially acceptable.
But when a woman has sex with a bunch of different men she is considered "A Slut"

But now Take a look at this analogy

If you have a Key that can open every lock, it is "The Master Key" and is a very useful and awesome key to have.
But when if you had a lock that could be opened by a bunch of different keys, well that just sounds like a pretty shitty lock to me dontcha think?? :p

There is no right or wrong, there is only society's Standards.
 
welcome to bluelight :)

i shall be honest
20 partners at 18 is pretty high its nothing to be ashamed of (always try to keep your sexual history to your self )

the problem i see here is that you have had 17 RANDOM partners who you only had sex with once ?
and youv actually had sex very few times
why?
there is nothing wrong with being single and having fun sex , but the problem is who are you having sex with having a high amount of partners is not safe for your health mainly nowaday you HAVE to becarfull with who your fucking around with . always use protection and watch you cute butt ..

im 22 and have had around 8 or 9 partners 1 boyfriend serious relationship but i have had sex i swear over 6,000 times so much i dont even know !!!so much sex !!!, and im into so many Kinks its ridiculous .. i am currently in a relationship but if i was single now knowing my self sexually and my weird strange fetishes i wouldnt be able to sleep with just ANY guy
if i dont see myself fucking the guy repeatedly i will not waste my time nor my vagina.

oh and each and every guy i have laid my touch on has respected and bonded with me and i was not in a relationship with them nor did i wanna be in one .. and also had multiple sex partners at times

sexs gets better as you get to know and trust your sexual partner , sex the first time is usually not that great . with the same person you can experiment and lean new things . if not your count just goes up but you knowledge of the actual act of sex is very limited you dont learn to appreciate sex you just fuck
having alot of partners does not make you good in bed , what does is your knowledge of sex LEARNING
what caused it to be just a one time sexual encounter ? was it you or was it the guy ?
 
deroxor said:
When a man has sex with lots of different women, he is considered "The Man!" and this is socially acceptable.
But when a woman has sex with a bunch of different men she is considered "A Slut"

But now Take a look at this analogy

If you have a Key that can open every lock, it is "The Master Key" and is a very useful and awesome key to have.
But when if you had a lock that could be opened by a bunch of different keys, well that just sounds like a pretty shitty lock to me dontcha think?? :p

There is no right or wrong, there is only society's Standards.
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heres one for you. if a man walks by a womans window and catches a glimpse while she is undressing.. he is a peeping tom.
if a woman walks by a mans window and catches a glimpse of him getting undressed.. he is a pervert/streaker!
 
thats kind of a lot.

for me and a lot of guys i know, a girl whos fucked a ton of people is usually disqualified from being considered girlfriend material. I wont respect you any less and will still hang out and hook up with you or whatever.

But especially at your age nobody wants a girlfriend who some of their friends and half the guys they meet at school have hooked up with. its no good knowing so many people have been there, or worse hearing people talk about the shit they did to her.
 
Be safe, and it's all good. I've had over 200 female partners and probably a dozen male partners and it don't matter one bit. If someone likes you they don't give a fuck about that.
 
as long as you're safe and not spreading steedz, i don't see the problem.

sex is fun. and our society views it as waayyyy bigger of a deal than it really is. we're programmed since little kids to think that we should "save sex for marriage" or even just only for someone that you truly love. well, i think that's how a lot of people feel about it but not me.

there are two types of sex, in my opinion. REAL, passionate, love-making that's incredible and meaningful to both parties involved and casual, hot, no-strings-attached meaningless encounters. as long as YOU don't feel worthless or hurt by all the guys who've had a swat at your twat, then who gives a fuck? it's your life and you shouldn't worry about what other people think :)
 
As long as you don't get STD, or get pregnant and are safe, it's not a big deal.

this girl I know is 20, and had 300 partners, didn't have a problem until last week when she got gonorrhea..

This girl I know also had lots of partner, but she got pregnant, and the abortion pill she took she was allergic to it, so she spent three days in the hospital.. So my point is as long as you use protection, it doesn't really matter..
 
longtimesunshine said:
as long as you're safe and not spreading steedz, i don't see the problem.

sex is fun. and our society views it as waayyyy bigger of a deal than it really is. we're programmed since little kids to think that we should "save sex for marriage" or even just only for someone that you truly love. well, i think that's how a lot of people feel about it but not me.

there are two types of sex, in my opinion. REAL, passionate, love-making that's incredible and meaningful to both parties involved and casual, hot, no-strings-attached meaningless encounters. as long as YOU don't feel worthless or hurt by all the guys who've had a swat at your twat, then who gives a fuck? it's your life and you shouldn't worry about what other people think :)
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I totally agree
 
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