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dingodoof

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Just wondering re other peoples experiences, or advice on this subject.
Having been in the following situation recently; feeling very 'loved-up' while at a club, as was my partner who suggested an intimate encounter to begin with some oral attention. This seemed very 'apilling' to me, particularly since I'm well aware of the gusto, skill & sincerity my partner brings to this delightful event. So as I sat on a bar stool, in a very discreet corner of this venue, my partner hidden by the table, proceeded to tingle me in such a way as to find yet new uses for, & production of seratonin.
In order to keep this intro brief, & not focus it too much towards the 'content' of my delightful evening/morning, the point is this; A bouncer busted us & said we should stop straight away, since we'd get them in trouble with the cops. (note, there were also 3 other security staff standing behind him, hardly this many staff needed to 'hose down' this situation, a bit of voyerism perchance?)
We've gone to a few swingers gigs, & while they seem pretty focused on the erotic aspect, music & atmosphere isn't always a priority. Also they're pretty specific re their attitudes on drugs.
Their drug policy, while it seems sensible, does limit those who might enjoy engaging in substances, music, atmosphere, freedom, people, & sex.
YES, sometimes all at the same time!!
YES, EVEN SENSIBLY!!!
So with this in mind, is there any advice re this you might have, any ideas, any opinions.
Is this an area of opportunity not being covered?
Many has there been a night out when we'd (& friends), love to go to such a venue, with safety, confidence and fun being prime objectives.
Men have been clever enough to get 'steam-baths' together, what might also be out there.
[edit: the original topic requested venues in Melbourne. I'm sure there are other states who would have something to say so I changed to include all areas. apples.]
[ 22 July 2002: Message edited by: miss apple ]
 
very cleverly worded. Props...
advice: take pills at home and turn the stereo up. seems simple enough to me
 
Do what most people seem to do when they get a bit randy when they're on a pill out at a club ==> toilets. Anyone else who's been to the Market on Commercial Road will know what I mean ;) What fun...
 
wot an intriguing topic...
I'm with Horsey on this one, and this is probably the main reason why I am such a home-piller... but I get your point.
IMO swinger's clubs generally have their "No Drugs" rule mainly because up until recently the main drugs that someone would probably take at such an event would be uppers, most likely coke or speed, and as we all know, some people can turn nasty on these, especialy when combined with alcohol. but then alcohol is encoraged at such events so yeah, doesn't make much sense.
Now I wouldnt see much problem with a bunch of pilling people turning up to a swinger's thing if they were discrete about it, but sure it would be more fun to be honest bout it.
You mentioned steam baths, and yeah no problems doing whateve the hell you like there... so long as it's not with a woman. Alas that's what annoys them.
Basically I guess I'm agreeing there isn't really isn't anything I'm aware of to fulfill these desires. Maybe you should start one? ;)
 
Well some friends of mine got throw out of a club when they went for a "toilet break".
My bedroom is always accepting to these activities, but the door policy is pretty strict!!
 
Guys this is a very interesting topic. It's been worded very tastefully, and I think there's defintely merit in the question.
I for one am very interested in the answers. Please refrain from childish joking around and read this with a little maturity. Thanks :)
In fact this is more worthy of a nationwide general discussion so I'll just change the subject.
[ 22 July 2002: Message edited by: miss apple ]
 
Maybe a clarification of this topic (or my thoughts when creating it), might afford a little empathy with the responses, while also adding to the initial view.
On the topic of the aforementioned suggestions of toilet sex; it's the choice of anyone (at times me included), to or not do the deed where others do doo-doo. It should not be a choice to judge those who do, it's their choice, not yours!
Heck toilet sex has been either (or all) of the following for some; it's been a mainstay, an oportunity for a quickie, a deviation, whatever it is, it's a choice, & there's Sllip's point,
Well some friends of mine got throw out of a club when they went for a "toilet break". This very issue of being caught is what got me to start this thread in the first place.
Regards Mr Horse's post,
advice: take pills at home and turn the stereo up. seems simple enough to me
Sounds great, is great, but it's not a venue, it's not, as I said in the first post...
engaging in substances, music, atmosphere, freedom, people, & sex.
YES, sometimes all at the same time!!
YES, EVEN SENSIBLY!!!
I also agree with JohnBoy's point. In that I'd find it ok to find a swingers venue that's more tolerent as in,
Now I wouldnt see much problem with a bunch of pilling people turning up to a swinger's thing if they were discrete about it, but sure it would be more fun to be honest bout it. sounds great too, but not fun to feel you need to hide just how much fun you're feeling, in order to find fun, friends, funk & fucking, all in one night.
I'm not expecting a conclusive answer to this thread, I'm not sure there is one, BUT, discussion of it might, find that there are enough people out there (even small groups), who'd be interested in getting together occasionaly to create such a gig.
A gig of pumping music.
A gig with strict, yet respectful & safe 'minding'.
A gig where no means no, at all times, & "yes, yes, ah-ha, yes, oh yes-yes", probably means yes.
A gig where you are free to do what you want, & to not feel pressured to do anything you don't.
A gig where consent is the word, the vibe & the feel.
A gig where substance use is neither condoned nor encouraged.
A night where people who know how to party with enough self respect to share this with others.
A night to remember.
A night that often oozes into day.
Is this possible, is it likely, if not, why not.
Often the strongest think stopping us is us.
There's a lot of us, the more people think, the more choices they have, the more choices a person has, the more potential for change they have, that equals a whole lot of potential.
(I.M.H.O)
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Just noticed, that in the last few sentences, I wrote "think", instead of 'thing'.
Sometimes a mistoke can be god, or bud!
('good or bad')
 
We went to a Saints & Sinners Ball (a regular swingers event in Melb) a couple of months ago, and there was open sex happening all over the place. I was there about half an hour when some girl went down on me on the dance floor!
My first experience, blew me out. It was like being in a regular club crossed with a porno video. Drugs were happening too; though not openly I don't think.
 
Err, I think its best not to name the actual event/venues in public due to them having illegal goings on (sex in public is still illegal far as I know).
Best to make an mailing list or something..
 
Hmmmm... I can see both sides of this... cos on one hand wazza's right, but on the other hand the whole point of this thread was to talk about sex friendly venues - editing sorta defeats the purpose and I don't want to lock it cos it's a good thread...
I'll leave it for the moment, and gather a couple more opinions...
 
Pleonastic,
i edited it so many times, because I noticed a few more typos, also to clear up some of the style, not the content.
(it's a Virgo thing &;-)> )
 
Originally posted by wazza:
Err, I think its best not to name the actual event/venues in public due to them having illegal goings on (sex in public is still illegal far as I know).
Best to make an mailing list or something..
Saints & Sinners is a legit happening, with nothing hidden, all above board, no need to hide.
Check this out;web page
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Nah, i didn't mean your editing, I was refering to wazza saying that club names should be edited out... :)
Looks like we'll leave it as is, but it's probably worth everyone remembering that if you do want to talk about something that's not quite legal then don't give the specifics out... anyone can read this...
[ 23 July 2002: Message edited by: Pleonastic ]
 
I'm not sure re the legalities of whether or not this can be classified as sex in public.
A friend of mine owns a nightclub, & has often had people there 'enjoying eachothers company' in an intimate way.
He has no hassles with this "as long as they don't leave a mess".
My understanding is that if a venue wants to let people have sex in its premises, then it's the choice of management to do so. As long as they let people know that this might be the case, & as long as they're not charging people to have sex, it's not about prostitution, therefore, beyond the law.
Having sex in someones premises (house, club, church, polling booth) isn't against the law, as long as they make no complaint about it.
(well maybe not the polling booth, but I just like having a big 'election')
 
Well it looks good then to leave the names here. Just didn't want anything possible to happen to any events due to the nature of authorities etc.
Good work :)
 
Just to let you know, the "official" line of the S&S ball people is that sex is only meant to happen at private parties after the event, but as I've just told you, no-one seemed to be stopping anyone and in fact it seemed to be encouraged.
There were 'private' rooms and 'groping booths'!
I'm sure it does depend on the venue; the ball moves around and perhaps this particular venue was more liberal than others.
But yes, they do have that 'official' statement which I'm sure protects them, somewhat, from the authorites' watchful eye.
As this is a public forum and I don't want to disrespect the organisers and say they condoned it because I don't know that for sure, but I certainly saw some going's on :) and lots of staff standing around smiling about it!
Do check out the website - I am waiting for the latest photos to come up (possibly tomorrow)!
PS. There are other more liberal venues too; for couples especially you should have no problem, if you're open minded, getting in. Check adult and contact magazines for more details.
 
Originally posted by *chaoscat*:

What does this mean??
By the above, I meant that there are those that will choose not to respect/understand others (or themselves) right to respect/understanding. By their own behaviour, actions & choices (or perceived lack of), behave in a way that would be unacceptable to others.
In such an instance, if I'm at such a gig, I do not want to be the person to ask them to leave.
I would hope for there to be 'switched on', non-aggressive, well trained people to address such an issue.
NOT, the sterotype of a bouncer (whatever that means to each of us, my stereotypes are my baggage, not the 'just the way it is', just as everyone's stereotypes are their baggage too).
As I said earlier, I'm not sure there is an answer to this.
Although, I think that to hope for answers without questioning is similar to hoping for change without understanding,
or hoping for understanding without listening (or looking, or feeling).
There is a luxury in disagreeing with reason, & reasoning with understanding, since understanding will almost always be the result of experience, and understanding as a result of experience invloves change.
If bluelight isn't about experience, understanding & change, it wouldn't be here, nor would this thread.
Thank you bluelighters, may all your tests have good outcomes.
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