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Mental Health Selfharm!

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Hi im a 17 yo autistic asshole who loves to cut.
I've started cuttin 3 months ago and need some tips for other coping meganisms.
I've tried to switch to the hottest pepper in the world but ended whit rubbing the hottest pepper in the world on my cuts idk why but the burn of a carolina reaper on your cuts is like heaven.
Anyone tips for this asshole.
 
I don't have solutions if spicy food doesn't work. I'm sure everyone else is tell you to get cognitive behavioral therapy and meditation going on though. Personally, I'm doubting those are good things... but who knows! :\
 
Red Moon said:
I don't have solutions if spicy food doesn't work. I'm sure everyone else is tell you to get cognitive behavioral therapy and meditation going on though. Personally, I'm doubting those are good things... but who knows! :\
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I've 20mg citalopram and im getting cognitive behavioral therapy soon.
 
Have you tried squeezing ice cubes? That's pretty painful and rubbing ice on your cuts wouldn't do anything bad to them.
If you can't stop, try limiting what you do. Like, "Okay I'm going to do ______, but I'm only going to do ____ many," or "I'm not going deep this time." It'll start giving you some control over what you can't control right now.
 
I am currently receiving Dialectical Behavior Therapy for my mental health issues. I've got a few coping mechanisms I could suggest to you. But first of all, I don't think that you're an asshole.

If you ever feel like self harming, you could go for a run or do some push ups, or stimulate your body somehow, get some sort of exercise. I know it's really hard to motivate yourself to do this but anything is better than hurting yourself. Go for a short sprint if you can. Put all your energy into it, get that energy out quickly.

You can also dunk your head/face briefly into a tub of cold water. It stimulates your body and provides distraction. This might sound silly.

One of the reasons I personally self-harm is due to overwhelming emotions. A lot of these emotions begin as thoughts. Try to take your thoughts for what they are, not every thought that enters your head is true. Look at the facts of the situation. Try to just observe your thought, and recognize that you had that thought. But don't believe every thought you have is a fact. This is also really difficult for me to do because my emotions overtake me at times. But when that happens, utilize coping mechanisms. Get creative with it. Anything that keeps you from hurting yourself or others.

If you have anyone to talk to that will listen, tell them how you feel. Just pour your heart out, I find that really helpful. Speak about your emotions. If you begin to feel the urge to self harm, reach out to someone you can trust if possible. Just talk to them, listen to their words. Let others try to help you. Just talk until you've calmed down a bit.

Do you have any hobbies? Honestly anything that keeps your hands busy long enough to not self harm. Personally, when I felt like cutting myself recently, I instead grabbed and book and cut it up instead. Those are just a few of many. Look into other coping mechanisms for yourself please.

Best of luck.
 
I used to struggle with this myself a few years back. I've found that reaching out to someone can be helpful if that's possible. In addition, things such as the ice cube or snapping a rubber band on yourself can be helpful for avoiding the urges. Also, avoid drinking if that's at all possible. When I used to self harm, it was often when I was drunk although this wasn't always the case. You also aren't an "autistic asshole", your autism doesn't make you any less of a person. Some psychologists I've saw during my period of self harm and depression suspected that I may have autism myself, so I can relate to the struggle and the negative self feelings that it can cause. However, it's important to always remember that your autism doesn't make you less of a person.
 
LandsUnknown said:
I used to struggle with this myself a few years back. I've found that reaching out to someone can be helpful if that's possible. In addition, things such as the ice cube or snapping a rubber band on yourself can be helpful for avoiding the urges. Also, avoid drinking if that's at all possible. When I used to self harm, it was often when I was drunk although this wasn't always the case. You also aren't an "autistic asshole", your autism doesn't make you any less of a person. Some psychologists I've saw during my period of self harm and depression suspected that I may have autism myself, so I can relate to the struggle and the negative self feelings that it can cause. However, it's important to always remember that your autism doesn't make you less of a person.
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I dont drink alcohol anymore.
But i cut more when im on benzos.
I've tried other thing but they dont work like cutting.
I can take a icecube but i will think about cutting all the time.
 
Pibolar said:
I am currently receiving Dialectical Behavior Therapy for my mental health issues. I've got a few coping mechanisms I could suggest to you. But first of all, I don't think that you're an asshole.

If you ever feel like self harming, you could go for a run or do some push ups, or stimulate your body somehow, get some sort of exercise. I know it's really hard to motivate yourself to do this but anything is better than hurting yourself. Go for a short sprint if you can. Put all your energy into it, get that energy out quickly.

You can also dunk your head/face briefly into a tub of cold water. It stimulates your body and provides distraction. This might sound silly.

One of the reasons I personally self-harm is due to overwhelming emotions. A lot of these emotions begin as thoughts. Try to take your thoughts for what they are, not every thought that enters your head is true. Look at the facts of the situation. Try to just observe your thought, and recognize that you had that thought. But don't believe every thought you have is a fact. This is also really difficult for me to do because my emotions overtake me at times. But when that happens, utilize coping mechanisms. Get creative with it. Anything that keeps you from hurting yourself or others.

If you have anyone to talk to that will listen, tell them how you feel. Just pour your heart out, I find that really helpful. Speak about your emotions. If you begin to feel the urge to self harm, reach out to someone you can trust if possible. Just talk to them, listen to their words. Let others try to help you. Just talk until you've calmed down a bit.

Do you have any hobbies? Honestly anything that keeps your hands busy long enough to not self harm. Personally, when I felt like cutting myself recently, I instead grabbed and book and cut it up instead. Those are just a few of many. Look into other coping mechanisms for yourself please.

Best of luck.
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Fantastic advice. Especially learning how to deal with overwhelming emotions and the thoughts that ride their coattails.

Cutting is always a symptom of a deeper issue. Address those issues.
 
herbavore said:
Fantastic advice. Especially learning how to deal with overwhelming emotions and the thoughts that ride their coattails.

Cutting is always a symptom of a deeper issue. Address those issues.
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I know why i cut
Becouse i dont have a life
I dont have any freedom
This society is fucked up
Im ashamed to be human
Im retarded
Im socialy akward
Im hopeless
Im worthless
I just want to die.
Faiding in darkness
No worries no pain just nothing
Nothing to worry about.
Resting in peace
Thats everything i want peace
Its sad that this is the only way to achieve it.
But im a pussy so i cant killmyself
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Hey, I don't know how your whole list feels to experience but I can certainly relate to having felt most of what you listed. The thing is that life is long and so much of what I believed to be unsolvable simply changed over time or by some chance experience and now I am old and I cannot even relate to those old feelings of wanting to die. I still feel like society is fucked. I still feel ashamed to be human but you do not have to die young over despair.

I am sure that you are not retarded and it pains me to hear you say that about yourself. You are in a bad place right now--by bad I just mean painful. But this will not be your definition. Give yourself time to relax into yourself, to become comfortable with who you really are. Shy? Quiet? Reserved? There are no more downsides to those traits than upsides.<3
 
In my younger teen days I also was plagued with this sad and lonely problem, for a few good years at least. Im not 100% sure as to why I started doing it but eventually It was purely an addiction and not the result of my lack of happiness or depression. I probably cut myself 80% of the times fueled entirely by compulsive and addictive behaviour in my part. I didnt want to do it to myself anymore but I couldn't for the life of me stop doing it cold turkey. In my experience as well as observations of others in the same situation, I notice that it pretty much always transforms from a depressive coping mechanism and into a full blown addiction into A well known ritual to them, its comforting when you have a way to divert your problems and stresses and turn emotional/psychological pain into a much easier to control form of physical pain which is something you yourself alone controlls and can depend on having the same results every time. Its a comfortable yet entirely unhelpful method of stress management, the point is that its a predictable, dependable and also inconspicuous way of distracting yourself from The sometimes unbearable life around you. Its a lonely and regrettable time in my life as well as the vast percentage of likeminded and secretive people who have done the same.
The compiled and measurable amount of people who engage in this is depressingly large, and I could most definitely pressume that there are even more people involved than is currently known of as its a very secretive, solo, and guilty habit that would definitely cause many people to lie about it when asked and continue on with their dirty little secret they've acquired.
 
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^ Thoughts usually come against your will, but simply becoming aware of what they are and the true power they hold over you (or really, don't hold over you) can prevent dangerous paths of thought that lead to self harm and other depressive states. It's not easy and you shouldn't discount what you are feeling/thinking but simply practicing awareness will show results, I promise. Meditation has already been suggested in this thread. Try writing down emotions as you feel them or thoughts as they come, you might start to see some patterns.
 
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You can work out with weights until your muscles scream you to stop. Use proper form and stretch a little beforehand. Much more healthy method of "feelin the pain".
 
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