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Secrets

Hiding it from family. Most of my friends know, and my closest friends are the ones I take drugs with.
 
I tend to be a very introspective type of person. Not necessarily introvertive, because I am very social, and can enjoy a party, or take advantage of attention like the best of them.But this is only part of my life, or my existence. I spend alot of time up in my head, where my imagination tents to be more enjoyable in ways that this life could never be.

I think this is why I tend to have problems with hiding things from people, I dont mean to keep secrets, I just suck information about myself up into the universe inside my head, and it never makes its way back out.
 
I think this would get more discussion going in TDS but if mods there feel it should stay SLR, please feel free to move it back.
 
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The majority of the people I know are unaware of my current drug use, and unfortunately as long as it continues it will have to remain that way. Sometimes full honesty is really the best option, but it isn't always the case.
 
I don't hide my recreational drug use from my family BUT I'm not entirely open with them about it. Only recently I am becoming gradually more open with my siblings about my drug use (past and present) now that we're all adults. But in the past, when my drug use was much much higher I definitely hid it from my family.
I won't ever tell my parents about my drug use unless they specifically ask.

My partner of course knows everything about my recreational drug use, as do all of my close friends, because they all parttake in the same level of recreational drug use as I do. If I've only just met someone I will keep it from them until I know they won't negatively judge me for it.

My drug of addiction is alcohol, and at times when I have supposedly been "sober" I have actually been drinking. Those times I have kept it hidden from my boyfriend. But as I said earlier, I get overcome with guilt if I lie to people, and more specifically I get overcome with guilt if I am hiding something from my boyfriend. So I always end up telling him after a few days/weeks. I've only ever done that a few times though.

Only my best friend and my parents know about my drinking problem, and because I am so ashamed that I have such a problem, I hide it from everyone else.
 
All of my closest friends know about my drug use. Most of my friends know I smoke pot, but do not know the extent of my pill use. My family knows NOTHING, they might suspect, but if they do, they haven't brought up anything that would make me believe they do....
and if they did, I'd be sent to rehab
 
There are people with and places where I don't bring it up. Same with some sexuality stuff, some money stuff, some mental health stuff, even sometimes political points of view.

Drug use as a tightly guarded secret can worsen drug issues at times. I know a lot of literature notes that secretiveness is a pathological sign regarding drug issues. I think it is best for someone somewhere to be able to know how deep you are in and to be able to give feedback. On the other side telling people about usage sometimes just doesn't make sense. I think having someone in your life who doesn't see drug use as automatically depraved but realizes that use can become dangerous or damaging is very ideal. Sharing with that sort of person is a good idea.

Some secretiveness is just a matter of a persons personal privacy threshold and good sense, seeing as there are many places and people with out of proportion prejudices about all recreational drug use.
 
Most people I consider a friend, and not an acquaintance know that I am very open to drugs, and like things like pot, adderall and other goodies. But there is only one person who I have ever been fully honest with about the large amounts I will do without telling anyone.

I have an addictive personality and I am really bad about trying to fix things myself before asking for help. Bad Combo.
 
Everyone knows about my use from my knowledge; i don't try to hide it anymore but i wont bring it up unless im directly asked.

Up until 5 months ago, i had kept it hidden from my family out of shame.. but after my 21st birthday i decided to just tell them everything.. even though i live out of home, i got tired of visiting them and feeling as though i had to put on a mask of who i am. It was hard, i kept it hidden for 3 years without ever getting caught or arousing substantial suspicion.. but after telling them i felt immensely better for it; it was like the shackles fell off my wrists and i was free to be me.

There have been people who have judged me for it, but it doesn't phase me.. i will never let it get to a point again where people's opinions effected me in such a way that i've created an alternative personality in order to cope, that was the most painful experience of my life.
 
i had been and I hated it. One of the biggest reasons I quit. my Girl or family didnt know and a few friends did. Have NOT told a lie to my girl or family in over a month and it feels good.
 
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The only people that know I use drugs is my dealer and his girlfriend. I don't feel guilty about hiding it from my family because they don't ask and would never suspect... I have been having really bad guilt about hiding it from my boyfriend though. He knows I have done drugs on occasion but not the truth. He asks me all the time and I lie. I even feel guilty for joining this forum :(
 
Hi Alivia-I'm new too, and definitely can relate to the feeling guilty for joing BL.

Although my drug use is mostly pot, with some other stuff thrown in, I do hide it from most ppl. My then bf and now husband is the one that really got me into smoking, so I don't really hide it from him, but then again, he's not supposed to be smoking at the moment, and although I don't want to quit either, I feel guilty for getting high when he shouldn't be. Only my close friends know what I do, and as far as the pills I sometimes do, my friends joke about it, but no one really knows how much I do or the full extent. Whats crazy is my mom keeps me super supplied with pills, but its not like I would tell her outright I use them recreationally.
But anyway, how do you think your BF would react if he knew the truth? I think it would be hard to hide it from him...and very stressful
 
The majority of the people I know are unaware of my current drug use, and unfortunately as long as it continues it will have to remain that way.
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Most people around me are ok with weed, but any chemical drug still carries a stigma...
 
i was 2 years into a daily IV heroin addiction. managed to hide it very well from family and friends during that time. never arrest, nodding out in front of them, never stolen stuff even though i could've, etc etc. was broke all the time, sick most of the time, doing bad in college, lost a job. one day my dad looked in my drawer and seen my kit with a couple syringes ad empty bags..the very next day I was on suboxone. i wanted to get clean, but part of me wasnt done using yet as well. so i relapsed a couple times within the next year, one day binges once every 1-2 months, which would usually get me caught every time doing somethin stupid. having your whole family know is embarassing and suck hardcore. i feel akward even being around them anymore now that im clean.
 
Most of my friends know that I mess around with opiates 3-4 times a week... and unfortunately this habit has kept me from hanging out with them for the past month or so. I still see them at band shows and group gatherings like that, and I'm always on some type of opiate when we get together, so I assume that they think I'm pretty bad with it. The only thing they don't know about is that I've recently started blowing dope.. I've told them that I tried it and that I didn't like it/think it was strong enough, which wasn't a lie at the time. But now that I'm realizing how much cheaper it is and how much easier it is to attain it's gradually replacing my roxy use.

Realllly need to kick this shit while I'm still new to it =\.
 
i think it would go very badly... he reacted really negatively when i told him about trying stuff even once.... i hate lying. i have a terrible guilty concience which just fuels the fire to use and cope and try to not think about it...
 
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