Most of the girls fantasize about rough domination, right? Being really taken like a slut, physically and verbally. And like really rough, not just couple of dirty names and slap on a butt. But does any of you have real life experience what happens to the girl, after her fantasy comes true? Is it unhealthy for normal sex life and relationship?
Why I'm thinking this is, that about a week ago we had that kind of experience with my gf. She've never been too much into sex, like to make me happy but not so interested about herself. She have never experienced orgasm and never masturbated. Week ago we talked a lot about sex while I was on ice and started to talk about fantasies and she told that she don't have any. I just gave her few ideas about being forced, taken against her will and so on and she got excited about the idea. Then things got little out of hand and one thing lead to another, but she experienced total, brutal, rough domination, genuine fear, crying, verbal humiliation and embarrassment of having her first orgasm being treated like that. While that was maybe best sexual experience I have ever had, being able to completely dominate someone like that and force her to have her first orgasm while you watch, I'm afraid what this will do to her sexuality and our relationship. After really getting into your roles as happened you feel kind of wrong and ashamed when its over. You feel like it was too much. You feel like you shouldn't have done that, but you still in your twisted mind want more. That would be fine with your fuck buddy, but in serious relationship, dominating and humiliating other really hard makes you feel awkward and makes you unsure what to think of and what to do in the future.
Anyway, after all the craziness we talked about the fact, that next time sober will not feel like that and will easily feel rather boring. I have tried to be as open as possible about what happened and talk with her like it's not a big deal, but I'm not sure if she really thinks the same way. And even when you talk about it before it happens, actually feeling how there is 'something' missing was quite disappointing and sad. I have ruined my dirty brain already quite well with all the internet porn and crazy sex sessions, and kind of know how to handle that feeling and understand that it's just result of mind blowing experience. But now I'm little bit worried about what that experience did to her young, virgin mind. I'm afraid that experience like that first time when you are actually really enjoying sex will make her future sex life dull and she will need stimulation like that to feel satisfied. And if she lets her mind go, I'm afraid that she will need more and more and end up doing something that she regret - like cheating for example.
I know that cheating part is bit far fetched, but I'm worried that this will fuck up our awesome relationship somehow. I'm really in love for the first time in my live and I think she honestly loves me back. Everything is really good and I want everything to stay like that also. That's why I would like to hear about others experiences on the subject. Does experience like that change you? How we should handle this? What we should talk so we both feel good about everything what happened? Should we do it again? Is this kind of fantasies better to leave in you imagination? Is extremely rough sex unhealthy for relationship, even if both enjoy the actual act (but might feel bad afterwards)? Or am I just worrying too much and should just take it easy and have fun?
Why I'm thinking this is, that about a week ago we had that kind of experience with my gf. She've never been too much into sex, like to make me happy but not so interested about herself. She have never experienced orgasm and never masturbated. Week ago we talked a lot about sex while I was on ice and started to talk about fantasies and she told that she don't have any. I just gave her few ideas about being forced, taken against her will and so on and she got excited about the idea. Then things got little out of hand and one thing lead to another, but she experienced total, brutal, rough domination, genuine fear, crying, verbal humiliation and embarrassment of having her first orgasm being treated like that. While that was maybe best sexual experience I have ever had, being able to completely dominate someone like that and force her to have her first orgasm while you watch, I'm afraid what this will do to her sexuality and our relationship. After really getting into your roles as happened you feel kind of wrong and ashamed when its over. You feel like it was too much. You feel like you shouldn't have done that, but you still in your twisted mind want more. That would be fine with your fuck buddy, but in serious relationship, dominating and humiliating other really hard makes you feel awkward and makes you unsure what to think of and what to do in the future.
Anyway, after all the craziness we talked about the fact, that next time sober will not feel like that and will easily feel rather boring. I have tried to be as open as possible about what happened and talk with her like it's not a big deal, but I'm not sure if she really thinks the same way. And even when you talk about it before it happens, actually feeling how there is 'something' missing was quite disappointing and sad. I have ruined my dirty brain already quite well with all the internet porn and crazy sex sessions, and kind of know how to handle that feeling and understand that it's just result of mind blowing experience. But now I'm little bit worried about what that experience did to her young, virgin mind. I'm afraid that experience like that first time when you are actually really enjoying sex will make her future sex life dull and she will need stimulation like that to feel satisfied. And if she lets her mind go, I'm afraid that she will need more and more and end up doing something that she regret - like cheating for example.
I know that cheating part is bit far fetched, but I'm worried that this will fuck up our awesome relationship somehow. I'm really in love for the first time in my live and I think she honestly loves me back. Everything is really good and I want everything to stay like that also. That's why I would like to hear about others experiences on the subject. Does experience like that change you? How we should handle this? What we should talk so we both feel good about everything what happened? Should we do it again? Is this kind of fantasies better to leave in you imagination? Is extremely rough sex unhealthy for relationship, even if both enjoy the actual act (but might feel bad afterwards)? Or am I just worrying too much and should just take it easy and have fun?