RaspberryJam
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Hi.
I made friends with a very quiet, shy guy with a speech impediment at university. He invited me over to his room to play games. We ended up having sex a few times. It was fun, but there wasn't anything romantic about it. I had to do all of the work; ended up wondering if he really wanted to fuck. I asked him several times and he said "yes". Still, it seems... off.
He doesn't say very much, 'cause most of the time he'll end up stammering and I won't understand it. But he tends to list things, or tell me incredibly specific details about events with little-to-no bearing on the actual conversation. For example, telling me all about his family and extended family and certain things they've said. He shows me train tickets and other things that he seems to find funny, which I just don't understand.
Also, he's getting to be very clingy, and constantly sends me text-messages. How can I get him to relax? He's pretty stubborn. I just started a new programming job and need a lot of time to myself, which he doesn't seem to want to give me. He turned up at my room about an hour ago and wanted to come in, repeatedly explaining that I wouldn't know he was there and I would be able to work just fine. Of course I knew that wasn't going to happen, so I said I'd come down later and we'd hang out, but obligation really isn't attractive to me.
Does he sound autistic? I don't have much time at the moment - gotta jump in the shower - but I'll post more info. later if that's necessary. I just don't want to hurt his feelings or make him upset, but I'm not sure whether continuing would be a good idea, as I'd prefer something relaxed and without obligation or clinginess. I'm worried he's going to tell me he loves me, after just two or three weeks!
EDIT:
I'm not saying that I've anything against autism or anything like that. I would just like an explanation for his behavior so that I can be better equipped to deal with it. I like to be prepared. His awkwardness can be cute, but eventually it makes me feel a little awkward in turn.
Thanks, everyone!
PS: If this isn't the right forum for this sort of question then please move it to the appropriate place. I was thinking more about the 'relationship' bit than the 'autism' bit when I posted it.
I made friends with a very quiet, shy guy with a speech impediment at university. He invited me over to his room to play games. We ended up having sex a few times. It was fun, but there wasn't anything romantic about it. I had to do all of the work; ended up wondering if he really wanted to fuck. I asked him several times and he said "yes". Still, it seems... off.
He doesn't say very much, 'cause most of the time he'll end up stammering and I won't understand it. But he tends to list things, or tell me incredibly specific details about events with little-to-no bearing on the actual conversation. For example, telling me all about his family and extended family and certain things they've said. He shows me train tickets and other things that he seems to find funny, which I just don't understand.
Also, he's getting to be very clingy, and constantly sends me text-messages. How can I get him to relax? He's pretty stubborn. I just started a new programming job and need a lot of time to myself, which he doesn't seem to want to give me. He turned up at my room about an hour ago and wanted to come in, repeatedly explaining that I wouldn't know he was there and I would be able to work just fine. Of course I knew that wasn't going to happen, so I said I'd come down later and we'd hang out, but obligation really isn't attractive to me.
Does he sound autistic? I don't have much time at the moment - gotta jump in the shower - but I'll post more info. later if that's necessary. I just don't want to hurt his feelings or make him upset, but I'm not sure whether continuing would be a good idea, as I'd prefer something relaxed and without obligation or clinginess. I'm worried he's going to tell me he loves me, after just two or three weeks!
EDIT:
I'm not saying that I've anything against autism or anything like that. I would just like an explanation for his behavior so that I can be better equipped to deal with it. I like to be prepared. His awkwardness can be cute, but eventually it makes me feel a little awkward in turn.
Thanks, everyone!
PS: If this isn't the right forum for this sort of question then please move it to the appropriate place. I was thinking more about the 'relationship' bit than the 'autism' bit when I posted it.
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