Really depressed after a breakup... help :(

[badfish45]

Oh a broken heart hurts worse than anything, believe me I know.

First off, you need a hug *hug*

Everything will get better. I promise. I don't just promise things flippantly, but this is one of those things that always gets better. Because you'll let go without even realizing it, but right now I know how hard it is. It's so much easier said than done for me to sit behind a computer and tell you that everything is going to be okay and that you have no reason to be sad, because I'm not feeling what you are right now. When your heart gets broken, it feels like something that will never end, but the heart is something that always manages to heal, no matter the emotional strains and turmoil that are put onto it.

The best advice that I can give you is to try something new. Do your routine a way you've never done it before, try a new athletic or mental activity, practice yoga, try to get better at drawing. Instead of showering first, eat first, or vice versa. You'd be surprised how pre-occupied you can become with something like this, so it's worth a try.

If you need to talk or blow off some steam don't be afraid to send me a PM

 

[BananasAndOranges]

In terms of Music everything posted made me sad. Listen to this whole album I promise youll feel nice afterwards. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2S86KAfyfSs&feature=youtube_gdata_player

 

[webbykevin]

Do you remember that awful Michael Bolton song "how am I supposed to live without you" ?

When that was in the charts (it was probably 20 years ago or more now), I was working on a cattle station in remote outback Australia, there was a gang of us, all sleeping in little concrete huts at the edge of this farm.

We worked hard, it was bloody hot and after work there was nothing to do, NOTHING, for 300 miles in every direction there was nothing.

We could pick up one commercial radio station, and they played that bloody song over and over again, at least 10 times a day, it seemed like every time we turned on the radio Michael was crying his heart out, howling with despair.."How am I supposed to live without you, how am I supposed to carry on ?"......

I was sharing my concrete bunker with a few traveling lads from new zealand, rough tough fighting men, you know the sort, never back down, never give up kind of blokes.

Well we are sitting there one night under the stars, around the campfire drinking a few rums, when the fucking song comes on the radio AGAIN, "How am I supposed to live without you"..... blah blah blah

A big kiwi bloke called Brian let out a huge sigh, "JESUS FUCKING CHRIST MICHAEL" he shouts at the radio, "For fuck sake, just forget her mate, go out and get pissed, find some young slut and get it out of your system."

There was a pause for a few moments and then a collective cheer went up from the men, this big kiwi had just spoken the most intelligent words I had heard for many a long year, he just nailed it, the wisest bit of relationship advice anyone has ever spoken.

So again, I will now say those words to you sister, "FORGET ABOUT HIM MATE, GO OUT AND GET PISSED, HAVE A PARTY, THEN FIND SOME NICE YOUNG STUD AND FUCK HIS BRAINS OUT, YOU WILL FEEL SOOOOO MUCH BETTER, TRUST AN OLD AUSSIE BUSHMAN DARLIN, THE PRICK IS NOT WORTH WASTING ANY MORE TEARS OVER.

Good luck, have a great life, all this will pass.

webby

 

[itsok]

A broken heart is the most painful thing I have ever experienced. The first time I was dumped, I could not stop crying to the point where I could not go to work/school and my eyelids would be swollen shut. It was my excuse to start abusing oxycontin.

I am so sorry that you are going through this and that guy doesn't seem to have tact or compassion. You dont want to be with a guy as selfish and heartless as he is. you deserve better. Loving people don't just change their mind one day. Usually people fight and fight and both mutually know the relationship is over without it having to be said. Loving people try their best and are partners, even when breaking up; no loving person should unilaterally make that decision without an egregious event to trigger it (imo).

Do eat some nice fruit and veggies. You won't get fat. You will get nutrients and speed up your metabolism.

Now is the time to reach out to others for support. Therapists, family, friends, join clubs, volunteer. basically what others have said about staying busy, but for me a social aspect helps during these tough times.

Definitely do not stay in contact with this guy. Tell him not to contact you because it is too painful. And if he cannot respect that, then block him on your phone.

Like everyone said, magically, the hurt will disappear. And then maybe like in a year or so, you guys could be friends. But don't worry about that stuff now, just take care of yourself.

Glad to hear that you have had better days since starting this thread.