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So this guy I hooked up with about 3 months ago just contacted me again this morning. We met in a pub, he spent the night over at my place and he's 4 years older than me (I think? Give or take a couple). Thing is I was horribly drunk that night, still kinda recovering from my previous break-up so a bit vulnerable, and I reaaaaally regretted it the next morning. Also while we were having sex he asked me to be his girlfriend when we'd met about an hour before which kinda creeped me out/seemed very desperate. And he insisted on cuddling all night which I can't stand with hook-ups.
So he texted me the next day and I never answered. This morning he sent me another message (can't believe he kept my number all this time), we talked for a bit and obviously he asked if we'd see each other again.
I'm not quite sure what to answer. I don't remember our last experience together as positive but I also think it's because of how drunk I was, and that really contributed to my feeling disgusted about myself. I'm also not sure I'd be attracted to him sober. He's actually pretty handsome objectively but eh. I dunno.
Anyway what I was thinking is I might say okay to meeting up with him again, but sober this time. He suggested going ice-skating which could be cool. I figured I could just see what I think of him when I'm actually capable of making judgements, just in case he really does appeal to me - and if I still don't think it could work I'll just tell him I don't think I should see him again. Dyou think I should do that? Because I suppose the odds of me being attracted to him this time round are pretty slim and I'm just afraid it would be horribly awkward....also if we do end up seeing each other again I definitely don't want it to end up in sex this time, which he might be expecting.
Thoughts?![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
So this guy I hooked up with about 3 months ago just contacted me again this morning. We met in a pub, he spent the night over at my place and he's 4 years older than me (I think? Give or take a couple). Thing is I was horribly drunk that night, still kinda recovering from my previous break-up so a bit vulnerable, and I reaaaaally regretted it the next morning. Also while we were having sex he asked me to be his girlfriend when we'd met about an hour before which kinda creeped me out/seemed very desperate. And he insisted on cuddling all night which I can't stand with hook-ups.
So he texted me the next day and I never answered. This morning he sent me another message (can't believe he kept my number all this time), we talked for a bit and obviously he asked if we'd see each other again.
I'm not quite sure what to answer. I don't remember our last experience together as positive but I also think it's because of how drunk I was, and that really contributed to my feeling disgusted about myself. I'm also not sure I'd be attracted to him sober. He's actually pretty handsome objectively but eh. I dunno.
Anyway what I was thinking is I might say okay to meeting up with him again, but sober this time. He suggested going ice-skating which could be cool. I figured I could just see what I think of him when I'm actually capable of making judgements, just in case he really does appeal to me - and if I still don't think it could work I'll just tell him I don't think I should see him again. Dyou think I should do that? Because I suppose the odds of me being attracted to him this time round are pretty slim and I'm just afraid it would be horribly awkward....also if we do end up seeing each other again I definitely don't want it to end up in sex this time, which he might be expecting.
Thoughts?
), say that you have to be somewhere later that evening <insert excuse here>. This way, you rule out the fact that he just assumes you be coming back for sex... imo, this can only improve the situation (if you want to get to know him qua person)
