I'm not a Christian anymore, but I grew up as one (and believe me, that's putting it mildly), so I'd like to have a go at your questions.
"Is it possible to get to heaven without ever going to church?"
Yes. According to the Bible, the only way someone will get to heaven is by accepting Christ as their savior for their sins--good deeds, including going to church, won't save a person in and of themselves. Fellowship is still very important, but even then, Matthew 18:20 says that where two or three are gathered in his name, there he is with them. In my own opinion, "church" is a human organization meant to facilitate the spiritual concept of "fellowship" among like-minded individuals.
"Is it possible to not get in going every day?"
Is this still in regards to church? If so, I think it's safe to say that most people definitely don't go every day. I went four times a week when I was a Christian and that was probably more than twice as much as most people.
"Is it possible to get into heaven if you don't consider yourself a Christian because the bible is hearsay, but would if you had the proof Thomas got, as you agree with his Morals (as opposed to the Old Testament's stone them to death for blinking too much)?"
I guess it depends on what you consider heaven.

No, but seriously, if you don't consider yourself a Christian, but you die and go to a land of eternal paradise, it probably just means Christianity was wrong about the part that says "only Christians will go to heaven." However, let's say that all Christians were right and you can only get to heaven by accepting Christ (John 14:6), then you wouldn't go to heaven.
I'm not sure I understand the second part of your question though. What I can say is this: most Christians believe that there is a defining moment in your life when you see the truth (even if it is momentarily) and from that point on, you are responsible if you choose to ignore it and bypass "salvation" through Christ.
"One of my problems with modern Christianity is the emphasis on orthodoxy (what you believe) over orthopraxy (what you do). In my opinion, this emphasis spawns a certain hypocrisy I have seen commonly in Christians who when Christ warns about throwing the first stone or before you talk about the splinter in another's eyes pluck the board out of your own, they seem not to care, Christian monarchs, hell the Catholic Church as persecuted for millennia! Why these disconnects?"
I totally understand your concern over beliefs vs. action. While the only way to reach salvation (according to the Bible) is to accept Christ, many people forget that their actions have to match their decision to follow him. When Christ picked his disciples, they left their jobs to follow him. They didn't just accept him as Christ and continue on living life the way they had. A lot of Christians that think it's enough to say they accept Christ as their savior forget that they are also making a commitment to live their lives from then on according to how he would've done it--with love for God and others.
I believe the disconnects are there because people want to argue over dogmas instead of practicing love and acceptance. They forget 1 Corinthians 8:13--if a fellow Christian thinks it's a sin to eat meat, don't eat meat in front of them. In other words, if a fellow Christian thinks something is a sin that you don't think is a sin, just don't do it in front of them so as not to cause them to sin by judging you.
On top of that, there are probably a lot of political inner workings within various churches that cause them to forget the main reason they're there in the first place--to promote the practices and teachings of Christ (all centered on love--not on being holy...or making money).
Hope this helps!!