Progressive Marijuana Discussion W/ Parents?

[warrioaruron]

I've been caught several times by my mom, I've always explained to her I would not stop smoking because if I said I did I would not mean it.
But I smoke in my house, and have gotten caught over not masking the smell (or at least not doing a better job at it)

Whenever my mom catches me, and god forbid finds I'm smoking with someone else, she ends up ruining my relationship with that person by narcing to their parents.
It seriously sets me off, because I feel like she thinks I'm a drug addict and need help, but I only smoke pot occasionally and usually just socially.
Pot doesn't impact my ambition, my goals, and my direction in life. I have had friends gone down to road of habitual drug users and broke out from them long ago. I've constructed my own philosophy on pot and I don't let it dictate what I do with my life or even my money.
My mom although, has her head up her own ass. She calls me a drug addict without basis and completely overlooks the work I put in my future.
She does more harm to my life in her reaction (example : coming to my friend's parents house crying that she just wants me to quit and narcing to his parents that he smoked, souring my relationship with my friend and his parents) to my occasional pot smoking (1-2 a week, if any) than the "consequences" of smoking.

And whenever I try to sit down and talk to her about why I am, how big a smoker I am, or what it does to me , she starts talking and when she listens what I have to say calmly, but shes convinced that I don't know what I'm talking about and throws a fit.
My mom's a little hysterical and dramatic, so she yells and throws/breaks shit at times. And she looks at me like I have the problem.

I really don't know how to get through to her that I don't have a drug problem, I know I shouldn't smoke in my house and upset my tenants and I'm over the trouble that it instigates, but I just want her to see I smoke but only modestly and responsibly.

 

[Egzoset]

Salutations Warrioaruron,

She calls me a drug addict... ...coming to my friend's parents house... ...shes convinced that I don't know what I'm talking about... ...a little hysterical and dramatic, so she yells and throws/breaks shit at times. And she looks at me like I have the problem.

Euh...

Is there a possibility your alleged "drug addiction" might eventually justify outside interference from strangers who could as well cease control of the whole situation and dictate their own terms, ultimatey?... As unpleasant and/or unsettling as this may sound my point is that maybe it's one probable reason why she's getting so cranky after all.

Fear does that it seems...

 

[xx001]

Sounds like she doesn't care what you think and isn't going to listen. What exactly is her opposition to you smoking? Does she think it is addictive? toxic? emotionally harmful? What are the laws like where you live? You need to establish what her problem with it is. If she doesn't have any specific objections and just thinks that it is evil because that is all she knows, try to educate her. Don't frame it as you trying to justify your use. if you do that, she will feel like she is arguing with you rather than the information/science. I have to assume that she probably doesn't know anyhting about pot other than the government's propaganda.

Until you can move out, it would be best to try to keep as low-key as possible. If she doesn't want you to smoke at her house, I can understand that. She knows it's illegal and doesn't want to put herself at risk. If you want her to begin seeing you and your weed use more positively, at least don't stink up the house by smoking inside. Try making edibles or get a vaporizer to try to be more stealthy.

 

[DrunkardsDream]

Sounds like she doesn't care what you think and isn't going to listen. What exactly is her opposition to you smoking? Does she think it is addictive? toxic? emotionally harmful? What are the laws like where you live? You need to establish what her problem with it is. If she doesn't have any specific objections and just thinks that it is evil because that is all she knows, try to educate her. Don't frame it as you trying to justify your use. if you do that, she will feel like she is arguing with you rather than the information/science. I have to assume that she probably doesn't know anyhting about pot other than the government's propaganda.

Until you can move out, it would be best to try to keep as low-key as possible. If she doesn't want you to smoke at her house, I can understand that. She knows it's illegal and doesn't want to put herself at risk. If you want her to begin seeing you and your weed use more positively, at least don't stink up the house by smoking inside. Try making edibles or get a vaporizer to try to be more stealthy.

^excellent advice.^

Just do this and be A LOT more discreet. Keep your use to a minimum, don't get caught/arrested, don't drive stoned, get excellent grades or excel at a job if you work, smoke outdoors, and don't get stoned daily or get so stoned you can't function. Keep in mind that your mom just cares about you, loves you, and wants the best for you as a parent you could have it worse.

 

[Jibult]

So you're an adolescent living in your mother's house, yeah? She makes the rule not to smoke weed, you ignore the rule, invite over friends and break it in group-fashion within her home?


Well shit, man, looks to me like you're not making the best case to your mother about your lack of a drug problem.

Sounds like she doesn't care what you think and isn't going to listen. What exactly is her opposition to you smoking? Does she think it is addictive? toxic? emotionally harmful? What are the laws like where you live? You need to establish what her problem with it is. If she doesn't have any specific objections and just thinks that it is evil because that is all she knows, try to educate her. Don't frame it as you trying to justify your use. if you do that, she will feel like she is arguing with you rather than the information/science. I have to assume that she probably doesn't know anyhting about pot other than the government's propaganda.

When a child is living under their parents' roof, the reasoning behind a rule is irrelevant. The rules are established and meant to be followed. When they're broken, there are consequences. At least OP knows what his consequences are. First time I got caught with drugs in my parents' home I got kicked out for 3 weeks with no money, no job, no clothes other than what was on my back and the knowledge that I had to be in homeroom at 7am the next morning. After that kind of a lesson you learn real quick not to mix narcotics with family life.

 

[double ewe]

^this all the way. you're living under her roof, this is a rule that she has a right to impose. she has made it explicitly clear that she does not want you doing this, and your willingness to break that rule indicates that you are not able to confine your use to responsible settings. being discrete isn't just about "not getting caught" - it's about showing respect to the people responsible for your care.

 

[CymbalKid]

Yeah bro just respect your mom's rules and don't smoke in the house. I'd recommend going somewhere else to smoke up

 

[justsayknow]

I just want her to see I smoke but only modestly and responsibly.

Chances are if you are smoking modestly and responsibly you can wait til you are out of the house to smoke and come back when it wears off?
From personal experience the main times my parents were aware of my cannabis use was when I was using habitually and irresponsibly ie smoking at home regularly.
Now I can think of nothing worse than being stoned in my parents house.

After you move out you might have more chance of having a progressive discussion with her. After the emotional side of things calm down, at the moment though she is probably too upset about it for that to happen.

 

[Chum Bucket]

the solution is simple. dont smoke in the house. if you want to smoke roll a joint and go walk the dog or something. when i lived at home i would either wait til nobody was home to smoke or just go into the woods and smoke then come back and try to act natural. some parents are simply incapable of reasoning so the only option left is to hide it from them altogether.

 

[weekend addiction]

I love both Chum Bucket and JustSayKnow's username's...

 

[T. Calderone]

Seems like no matter how you approach this, your mom isn't going to accept your weed smoking. I mean, she's talking to your friend's parents and that is a problem. She sees this as an addictive drug and many people can smoke moderately. Others, go nuts with it and might struggle with going to other drugs or making bad life choices. I can understand her concerns and it's best to keep your smoking out of her home. I don't see her coming around to your way of thinking.

 

[Jibult]

She sees this as an addictive drug and many people can smoke moderately. Others, go nuts with it and might struggle with going to other drugs or making bad life choices.

That line of thought holds true for every drug known to man, brutha.

 

[.:Holy::Toast:.]

It sounds like she's not gonna change her mind.
She seems very stubborn and set in her ways.
She reminds me a lot of my mother, she did much the same, and she still looks at pot as the worst drug in the world.
Mind you I have moved on to try heroin and meth so her worry wasn't too far off

 

[Jibult]

It sounds like she's not gonna change her mind.
She seems very stubborn and set in her ways.
She reminds me a lot of my mother, she did much the same, and she still looks at pot as the worst drug in the world.
Mind you I have moved on to try heroin and meth so her worry wasn't too far off

I'm sorry, but the matter-of-fact way you phrased that last sentence made me lol.