Bostonguy9
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Are there any people out there who have issues with meeting and dating the opposite sex? And if you have overcame this problem how did you do it?
problems finding any kind of relationship with the opposite sex
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90's hangover
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i dident..
Bostonguy9
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at least im not alone
Sweet Jones
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I had problems with talking to people in general, was very shy and reserved and not good at conversation, had a lot of rationalisations eg that I only had problems with the opposite sex and not with socialisation in general (why would I want to meet more guys, right?); that I didn't have problems with small talk only I saw no purpose to it; etc
But getting more and more social over time with everyone in general , learning to be a decent conversationalist and okay at small talk, building a larger social circle, talking to more people in all situations, etc. Being a more social person will lead to more girls in your life will lead to some girls in your life being love interests. And it will feel good to just be more social.
But getting more and more social over time with everyone in general , learning to be a decent conversationalist and okay at small talk, building a larger social circle, talking to more people in all situations, etc. Being a more social person will lead to more girls in your life will lead to some girls in your life being love interests. And it will feel good to just be more social.
ilikestims
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like attracts like.
if you're a 5, you're getting 5. (or maybe a 4 or a 6.)
that's the first thing you gotta realize. be brutally honest with yourself: what are you?
what are you now, what do you aspire to be, and what do you want in a partner.
again, like attracts like. so what do you like to do? go out and do it. then you will meet like-minded individuals who will inevitably be of the opposite sex.
if you're a 5, you're getting 5. (or maybe a 4 or a 6.)
that's the first thing you gotta realize. be brutally honest with yourself: what are you?
what are you now, what do you aspire to be, and what do you want in a partner.
again, like attracts like. so what do you like to do? go out and do it. then you will meet like-minded individuals who will inevitably be of the opposite sex.
omnipresenthuman
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My opinion is to just get out there and present yourself as best you can. My first two years of college I worked out 5 days a week, had a killer body and 6 pack, and lived on campus - I got laid around 10-12 times, and I'm a shy guy, plain and simple. But since I was out and about, shit came to me in due time.
My last two years of college, I lived off campus alone, still worked out but in efforts to achieve a more muscular (in terms of bulk) body, and didn't bother to go on campus to interact much or party - I got laid just twice, and both of those times didn't end that well, but at least I got it in and did my thing.
Still learning as I go - honestly, sometimes people don't really 'need' a romantic relationship at the moment because they're dealing with their own shit. That's where I'm at right now anyway.
And yes, 'like' does attract 'like', but if you're a guy, there are different standards - money and sociability definitely factor into how a girl's going to perceive you overall, although, of course, being physically attracted to someone is the gold standard to having a good sexual relationship from the get go. Just realize how you fit in - if you're butt ugly, adjust as needed.
That being said, if you work out and get fit, and present yourself in a clean and sophisticated manner, most of the rest usually just comes down to social skills and financial independence...
My last two years of college, I lived off campus alone, still worked out but in efforts to achieve a more muscular (in terms of bulk) body, and didn't bother to go on campus to interact much or party - I got laid just twice, and both of those times didn't end that well, but at least I got it in and did my thing.
Still learning as I go - honestly, sometimes people don't really 'need' a romantic relationship at the moment because they're dealing with their own shit. That's where I'm at right now anyway.
And yes, 'like' does attract 'like', but if you're a guy, there are different standards - money and sociability definitely factor into how a girl's going to perceive you overall, although, of course, being physically attracted to someone is the gold standard to having a good sexual relationship from the get go. Just realize how you fit in - if you're butt ugly, adjust as needed.
That being said, if you work out and get fit, and present yourself in a clean and sophisticated manner, most of the rest usually just comes down to social skills and financial independence...
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