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Pet Peeves v. u mad?

alasdairm said:
anybody who thinks they know everything and anybody who is rude sucks, regardless of how long either has been a member of the site...

alasdair
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Yeah that's true. But it's especially annoying to me when brand new people come on and start contradicting and calling people who have been a valuable member with obvious experience, wrong, like they know any better.
 
I hate it when I'm going into the gas station and someone's walking in maybe 6-7 feet ahead of me, look back and make eye contact with me as they're opening the door and then let that fucker slam shut right behind them. It's like, really? You couldn't have kept your arm extended for a second, maybe two longer?

It's not so much that I feel people should open doors for me-- it's the eye contact that they go out of their way to make and then the complete disregard that feels wholly disrespectful, almost insulting.
 
alasdairm said:
^ you could learn not to take things so personally?

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I don't think there's a lesson to be learned here. It's a pet peeve and, as such, is irritating but still insignificant enough to act upon.

I mean, that's what I thought pet peeves were. Little things that irk us but really don't matter in the big picture, and often seem ridiculous in the small picture as well.
 
Jibult said:
I hate it when I'm going into the gas station and someone's walking in maybe 6-7 feet ahead of me, look back and make eye contact with me as they're opening the door and then let that fucker slam shut right behind them. It's like, really? You couldn't have kept your arm extended for a second, maybe two longer?

It's not so much that I feel people should open doors for me-- it's the eye contact that they go out of their way to make and then the complete disregard that feels wholly disrespectful, almost insulting.
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I think people are just generally insecure and unsure what to do most of the time. Being polite sometimes goes wrong.

There's that awkward moment when somebody is close enough that a door will slam right in their face when you close it, but too far away for you to generally keep moving and hold the door open "smoothly." So I think some people go with their momentum, unsure of what to do in a situation that's so insignificant that nobody really teaches you about it.

I generally err on the side of holding the door open.
 
Mmmm...noisy eating, and in particular visual display of open mouth chewing and talking through a mass of food totally grosses me out. BUT it's kind of a dick move to demand people change a behavior when I should just look away and ignore the sounds or just tough it out. :P

ebola
 
People who protest in favor of gay marriage, tacky!
People who are newly sober and their know-it-all attitudes, tacky!
People who were cheering in the Boston streets and applauding the police, tacky!
(Light a fucking candle and do it in silence)
 
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Jibult said:
I don't think there's a lesson to be learned here. It's a pet peeve and, as such, is irritating but still insignificant enough to act upon.

I mean, that's what I thought pet peeves were. Little things that irk us but really don't matter in the big picture, and often seem ridiculous in the small picture as well.
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i guess some people just aren't happy unless they've got something to be annoyed about :)

alasdair
 
Jibult said:
I don't think there's a lesson to be learned here. It's a pet peeve and, as such, is irritating but still insignificant enough to act upon.

I mean, that's what I thought pet peeves were. Little things that irk us but really don't matter in the big picture, and often seem ridiculous in the small picture as well.
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Eh, I think there's pet peeves that are perceived by many as trifling but should still be perceived as problems in the "big picture" but aren't. I grow irate when people use subwoofers in apartment buildings. High bass is a personal luxury, not an unavoidable and so naturally accepted part of communal living like banging around a little doing dishes or having a crying baby. Random bass makes it difficult to do important things like read, contemplate, focus, relax, and sleep, and those who use subwoofers in apartments implicitly communicate that they don't care about the ability of their neighbors to do these things enough to just use some damn wireless headphones. How can they not see how rude and selfish it is? Every beat I hear is a self-righteous "screw you" to me and any thoughtful or considerate person in the vicinity.

I like bass too, but if you're poor you can still get a house with a bunch of others who don't mind subwoofers if you want to bump your music during your personal leisure time -- it's an entirely available option and that fact should be obvious to those exercising any degree of empathy.There used to be laws regulating noise pollution in the U.S. because the problem was clear to everybody who saw the importance of semi-quiet introspection to mental health and development, but then Reagan deregulated a lot of those laws and as an inevitable result some significant portion of the insensate population whose universally insipid interests somehow never value silence took their own tolerance of noise and lack of regulation as evidence of social acceptance and so the audible version of the Chinese water torture continues drip by drip everywhere. Low frequency noise like subwoofer bass will easily pass through ear plugs to tap at the inside of your skull, so even by taking extreme measures there's no way to escape it. If they won't stop you just have to move, and pray some other jack ass doesn't move next to you the next month.
 
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pseudonym said:
Eh, I think there's pet peeves that are perceived by many as trifling but should still be perceived as problems in the "big picture" but aren't. I grow irate when people use subwoofers in apartment buildings. High bass is a personal luxury, not an unavoidable and so naturally accepted part of communal living like banging around a little doing dishes or having a crying baby. Random bass makes it difficult to do important things like read, contemplate, focus, relax, and sleep, and those who use subwoofers in apartments implicitly communicate that they don't care about the ability of their neighbors to do these things enough to just use some damn wireless headphones. How can they not see how rude and selfish it is? Every beat I hear is a self-righteous "screw you" to me and any thoughtful or considerate person in the vicinity.

I like bass too, but if you're poor you can still get a house with a bunch of others who don't mind subwoofers if you want to bump your music during your personal leisure time -- it's an entirely available option and that fact should be obvious to those exercising any degree of empathy.There used to be laws regulating noise pollution in the U.S. because the problem was clear to everybody who saw the importance of semi-quiet introspection to mental health and development, but then Reagan deregulated a lot of those laws and as an inevitable result some significant portion of the insensate population whose universally insipid interests somehow never value silence took their own tolerance of noise and lack of regulation as evidence of social acceptance and so the audible version of the Chinese water torture continues drip by drip everywhere. Low frequency noise like subwoofer bass will easily pass through ear plugs to tap at the inside of your skull, so even by taking extreme measures there's no way to escape it. If they won't stop you just have to move, and pray some other jack ass doesn't move next to you the next month.
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What did your neighbors tell you when you complained to them?

ebola
 
alasdairm said:
i guess some people just aren't happy unless they've got something to be annoyed about :)

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Exactly! And I might just be one of those people... ;)


psood0nym said:
Eh, I think there's pet peeves that are perceived by many as trifling but should still be perceived as problems in the "big picture" but aren't.
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Yeah, I can agree with that. It'd be nice if our pet peeves were dealt with/eliminated altogether, but, and I honestly believe this, I think those minor annoyances and slight amounts of stress are healthy for us in the long run. It gives experience dealing with sudden emotional changes and practice for future, more overwhelming situations. They teach you to stay calm, in other words... to keep a level head. That's part of my justification in choosing not to do anything about what I consider to be my own pet peeves.
 
Oh! I wince when people anthropomorphize their animals only to speak through their mouths. No, at no point is it amusing to surmise your cat as having said, "Mommy buys me tender vittles 'cause she lurves me!!!one~"

ebola
 
I hate when people (especially recent ex boyfriends) snoop through your phone while you're asleep, in the bathroom, etc. And luckily, if you have an iPhone, they can look through emails, photos, facebook, etc.....

Fucking major invasion of privacy.
 
^ Passphase/lock it, under the pretence that you are doing that for privacy in case the phone is stolen.

If the person demands the password, then that's probably a good indicator that the person is an ex for a reason.

Jealous SOs + social networking = PROBLEMS

ebola? said:
What did your neighbors tell you when you complained to them?

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ebola is the new alasdair :)
 
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