Ngl like as someone whose parent molested them for 2 decades I do find the overobsession some people here have for pedos suspicious and funny. And I'll tell you why.
My dear old dad has a fantastic habit, whereby if he even hears the words pedophile or child sex offenders he will go on to a lengthy 10-20 minute tirade about how disgusting and evil and apalling and subhuman they are and how he thinks they should be rounded up and shot or put into secure housing in specialised prisons. And everyone sitting around is becoming more and more uncomfortable because well, no one really disagrees with him but it kind of comes off like he needs to prove a point. And I sit there, chuckling inwardly because my last, doth protest too much.
Like when I first meet someone I dont assume they agree or condone pedophilia. My base assumption is that they think it's abhorrent, unless they say or do something which indicates otherwise. Pedophilia is just one of those practically universally despise crimes and for good reason.
I don't go walking about announcing to the world I hate pedophiles. I've never had to because I dont ever act like a pedo lol.
So the thing is, the reason I find it suspicious and interesting is my dad does have a very vested interest in being very loud and obnoxious about not being a pedo. Unlike me, my entire family watched him relentlessly and remorselessly sexualise me, sexually harrass me, and sexually assault me for the better part of 2 decades.
He's got a lot of pedophililia to try and make disappear and that shit sticks around like a bad taste.
So when I see people obsessively posting about it in the news all the time I honestly am like 'really what are you trying to prove here, is there some sordid history that is being covered up' and that's my honest to god guy reaction as a survivor.
Also posting about it constantly? If you knew what it was like dwelling on being raped and molested as a child, endlessly dreaming about it, having intrusive voices about it. You wouldn't really go out of your way wanting to be exposed to it more. I didn't even read the comments in here cause I don't give much of a fuck what a bunch of random internet strangers who have probably never sat and held a survivor as they struggle to disclose their story and then validate their trauma and prove to them that some people do believe them. They're just people with access to the internet posting links of alleged pedos.
You want to do something to stop pedos? Get your rapey uncle away from the kids. Or your overly friendly grandpa who Leers up his granddaughters skirts. Better yet, if someone accuses a family member, even one that you like and respect of being a fucking pedophile, believe the victim. They have zero reason to lie.
I have been trapped in a relentless misery of wanting justice for my abuse but being painfully aware I have zero substantial evidence. My father has constructed an environment where I have been historically portrayed as dramatic, a liar, and unable to recall memories correctly. Very convenient huh. So I can't accuse him, not least because I'm still financially dependent on them to pay for the intensive therapy I require to not want to stick a fork in an electrical socket and end misery forever because I'm telling you right now that if you haven't experienced parental child sexual abuse you cannot fathom what it does to you. It kills you in a way no one really sees because unlike other victims, I wasn't able to avoid my abuser. No, I had to see him face to face and even allow his criminal hands to touch me in his lying hugs and do it all without freaking out in a panick. Because I dissociated so fucking severely that I formed a version of myself which doesn't recall the trauma when around him so that way we can play happy little family. My survival mechanism. I came close to getting justice once when my trauma counselling services told me of an organisation which did payments for historical child sexual abuse. He said because I had a child protection file I would technically qualify as being institutional and they could definitely argue the point that because the file wasn't acted on, I was left suffering at the hands of that person. So when I left I joyfully walked home with a spring in my step, imagining if I actually got redress payments that meant no more financially dependent on dad, no more debt, no more needing their help with therapy. I looked at the website and they even said they helped with familial child sexual abuse. B
How was I only just informed of this? I applied and put a bunch of background info in and my contact details. 1 hour later I got a call. The person said she was sorry (very abruptly) but that they only did institutional abuse redress. I argued that mine was, but she said it didn't make the cut and even if it did they can't just sue the whole department of Child protection and everyone who was there 10 years ago is long fucking gone. I started legitimately crying and asked about the website saying family and she said she didn't know what I was talking about but maybe if I needed help with that I could go to the police. At this stage I felt like the world was falling down around me and my ears were ringing and I'll fucking admit I goddamn begged her to help me. She told me to look elsewhere and hung up the phone. I just lay down on the ground crying in Misery for an hour and berating myself for being so fucking stupid I even let myself get my hopes up that I would ever experience anything as lucky as that to make up for the trauma. After all if I had any luck at all I wouldn't have had all the trauma.
So like when you read that account of what life is like from a victim of the most common, most hidden, and least spoken about type of child sexual abuse I hope you take a moment to think about what posting random lists off alleged and random pedos does. Looking in at your own family and being present and supportive for survivors does more work against pedophililia than collating a list.
I suppose it is far more burdensome work though.
And like Honestly I don't even bother reading this thread. I don't heaps love even seeing it pop up. Yay pedophiles. Just when I had a rare moment of not reliving my childhood rape I've been reminded that some people around here find the subject of my horrific trauma to be a kind of circle jerk of how big a pedo hater they can be and how much better that makes them. Like not everyone in the thread is like this I'm clearly generalising and I am fully entitled to because I'm not trawling through pages of triggering dribble to pick out the people who do not pass my vibe check, but I'm frankly astonished that the impact a longrunning and constantly present pedophilia thread has on like lol survivors of pedophilia.
Do you care more about survivors? Or about proving your point on the matter. I definitely stand with survivors every step of the way and if you don't tbh the road to hanging with the people doing dirty on the kids is just down to the left survivor invalidating people get a reservation in the seating zone. Just some food for thought, if it's perhaps something that should be discussed amongst yourselves.
PS. I'd suggest not really bothering to start a dialogue with me. I came in to post this point without enaghing in any of the frequent flyers of this cursed thread and I'm ducking out the same way I came in. I won't be checking in to dialogue and argue with anyone because I would strongly caution starting an argument about the stain of pedophilia on the world with someone who was raped at 7 and believing you're actually still arguing against pedophililia at that stage or just your personal values you think I'm questioning (which yes, I am lol). Daddy rape is a lose go to jail life sucks pity for you card for every scenario but this. It is the all time trump card. Do not waste time trying to tell me I am wrong about this. I was raped by my father and if you try and get on some weird high horse about how amazing this work is and I'm not getting it I will genuinely have to seriously question your intelligence. Pick someone else to argue with about this who didnt personally experience the most vile kind of child sexual abuse known to society okay? Just do not. If you bother, understand that at that point I really don't consider you much better than a pedo because you're just doing the after-work of discrediting me and disbelieving what I say and pedos only get away with this shit cause people everywhere see it and keep their mouth shut.
So unless any other member has experienced child sexual abuse and really parental abuse if you want to to a super smash Brothers brawl match out here in this thread, I would consider my 20 years in which I do not remember any extended time period I wasn't being sexually abused as the definitive statement on the topic of pedophilia as trying to say I don't get it because I think it's weird as fucking hell you have a whole thread devoted to it is just spectacular bad form. Fucking pull the other one lol.
The one single exception to my thinking people who obsess over this is other victims who have the opposite response to me. They have good reason and it's whatever. I don't feel the same way but if it helps them it helps them. It's the non survivors I am uncomfortable with.