Past the smile wave

[lysergicbliss00]

I am a student teacher. I was in the lounge on my first day (two weeks ago), and I was introduced to a teacher. This is fucking boring-- I'm aware. Through conversation, I found out we went to the same high school. Anyway, where do you go next. I'm incredibly naive about this process. I'm lying, I'm much more insecure than naive. I want to ask her to the Pedro the Lion concert in December or something before then.

Where does it start? How do you initiate past waving and smiling? I'm 28 and not as well equipped as I used to be, but that's why I'm here. Long ago you all taught me how to rave and not be an ass while I did it. So naturally, I'm sharing my social dilemma. You're all great. Much peace !

 

[The Warden]

Tea or coffee (something non alcoholic) usually works for me. See if she wants to get drinks at the local tea house?

 

[Hear Me Roar]

Conversation... humour....

More conversation... more hunour, maybe touch her shoulder or arm in a friendly manner.
Make her tea/coffee, show your interested, then ask her out on a date.

If at anypoint she seems uninterested, bail. She's probs not interested.

 

[The Warden]

I've learned that confidence and compliments can go a long way..
But mostly confidence. Girls can sense a pussy from the start..

 

[Hear Me Roar]

Girls can sense a pussy from the start..

Totally true.

 

[MyFinalRest]

^God, insult the poor dude more will ya? That's not going to help him out.

If you guys are talking then that's good. When talking to her, try to find out if she is single of course then simply ask her out to whatever. You'll feel better for trying than not I'd say, and if she smiles and waves at you that's a good sign.

It can be weird asking someone out when you work with them every day, but just go for it.

 

[sconnie420]

Lots of good ideas.. But finding out if she is single is probably the best.. Then coffee like warden said is a good idea.

If u ask her and she says yes, just be urself. Give compliments and have a good time.. Maybe stay away from a movie or something where u can't talk and get to know each other. @ least for the first date or 2..
Good luck bud, keep us posted.

 

[bronson]

My guess is that if you're asking these questions she probably already has an inkling that you like her. So I see no real harm in trying to take it further, just do so in a profesional manner until you're sure she's interested, what with her being a coworker and all.

As far as how to do that I think others have already offered solid advice, be kind, genuine, and as confident about it as you can be. Best of luck and let us know how things turn out.

 

[StrutterGear]

Ask for Coffee/Go out for a beer. If she says no, then you're in no different position than you were. Literally have nothing to lose bud.