This statement is in direct conflict with this one:I don't give people only a single chance, this learning happens over many interactions over many months to years. Yes I do take into account possible mental status, economic status, and the cultural and material reality of the person I am engaging with. I tend not to make snap judgements on whether a person is engaging in good faith or not because you can't make that judgment over only a few interactions with limited knowledge
Either you only give new people the benefit of the doubt, or you always do over the course of years and years and many interactions.I give every new person that I meet the benefit of the doubt, but I would be foolish to continue that with people who I have learned to operate in bad faith
But if you learn that they argue in bad faith, does that mean you still do over years and years, or that your own bias has written them off and are waiting for them to change to say something you agree with, and will only listen to what they're saying under a contextual set that you've privately decided.
This is also getting really close to psychoanalysis of you which you did not ask for and I am an expert in because of my profession - so I'm going to stop and offer apologies right now as I'm not trying to do this. I just hope that some of what I have been saying may be helpful in some way.
I like you a lot and I agree with you quite a bit. You're a good human in my book.