Opiates for breakup depression

[g_dan1]

Actually, after reading all of your comments I decided not to take any drugs to deal with my emotions. What particularly caught my attention is using this as an opportunity to "grow as a person". I really like the idea of it and i'll try to use this moment of my life to become emotionally stronger and more mature. I will also try to exercise and go to the gym every other day. I hope that it will help me regulate my emotions too. If any of you can recommend a particular workout for me I would really appreciate it
I still have 1 problem tho. I feel like my ex wants to get back with me but she expects me to go above and beyond to do nice things for her and "show her I changed". I know I need to change and become a better boyfriend, but she just makes me feel like her bitch sometimes... idk what to do here :/

 

[dopemaster]

ummm find someone new

 

[Roxi808]

Yay! I think the grow as a person comment was mine...I don't know you but I'm proud of you for making the decision that drugs are not the answer!

Dude it is completely normal to feel devasted and depressed after a breakup, it's been happening for thousands of years and it will happen for a thousand more...the only rememdy is time bro.

What you are feeling is normal, if you didn't feel that way you either weren't that into her or you're weird. I know after my first real breakup I was bummed for a while but then I realized I was free to do whatever and whoever the fuck I wanted to and it was awesome.

Just hang in there and like I said before stay off of IG and Facebook and try to cut off any contact with her...Aloha!

 

[Slow_Mobius]

How's it going Dan? Have you managed to stay sober?

Also, I think it's hard for anyone to say what you should or shouldn't do about your relationship without understanding the intricacies of your relationship. However, unless the breakup was simply due to logistics that were out of either of your control(eg long distance, family issues, etc.), I think moving on is usually the best option for the long term. The fact that she's wanting you to change who you are is a bad sign. The only exception would be if she's wanting you to change because she's sincerely trying to better you as a person and youre 100% in on it.

 

[pofacedhoe]

ummm find someone new

this

if someone is making you their bitch then what is that doing to your self esteem?

then when they break up with you you are surprised that you feel low? they've already got you halfway there already

 

[Angelsdream]

I agree with ThatOneDude! You can get addicted really quick to opiates and you'll find yourself with a whole other set of problems. Go through the pain and get it out of your system. The addiction to opiates that could develop will be worse than what you're going through now.

 

[iampetrelli]

Hey buddy, I just want to give you some advice being a recovering addict myself. I honestly dont think its your self control that would be a problem. Especially if you are going to use a method of intoxication (using drugs) to help you with emotional pain. If you can find a pill that will make you feel better, when the effects ware off, you will eventually come back to the pain you had earlier. Its also interesting, addiction is by far the most deceptive disease out there. Just admitting to even having an addiction issue can be a big deal. Many are sincerely convinced they dont have a problem, and it usually takes for it to get really bad before it becomes acknowledged.

Now in no way am i saying you would have an issue with addiction, but anyone can become physically dependent on drugs like opiates. And if you become emotionally reliant on them during this hard part of your life, you will be allowing yourself to become addicted to them, maybe physically first, but often times its the mental addiction, the deceiving part that comes way before. As a recovering addict I can tell you that thinking about using an opiate to help you cope is considered addictive thinking. And engaging in the process of using said opiate, will be the development of a very stubborn habit.

However, intoxication has always been a part of human life going waaay back in time, even animals seek intoxicants to help them. I just urge you to cry more, as much as that doesnt sound nice, it is a healing process, get some therapy and talk with people or a person about it. Do what you can to naturally overcome this dark time. And if you end up using drugs to help you. I just urge extreme caution because when drugs are used to mask pain and/or as a crutch, it is an early stage of addiction waiting to take form.
If you do use opiates, it doesnt mean you will become addicted. But just be mindful of your usage behavior. and when you DO use them, be productive, journal, or something that helps you in the healing process, take advantage of the emotional relief. Taking substances just to escape or run from pain is a bad habit to start.

Anyways hope that advice helps and best of wishes to you!
And yes opiates should kill your emotional pain.

I agree completely. Getting wasted for a night or two after a messy break up may help you get your mind off of it temporarily... But using drugs like opiates and benzos for dealing with psychological pain is asking for trouble. Grieving is a process that we all go through at least once in our lifetime... the bereavement of a loved one, a traumatic break up or losing your dream career.

The stages of grieving are individual to us and may take varying amounts of time. Some of these stages include shock or disbelief; denial; bargaining; guilt; anger; depression, and acceptance and hope. I believe that using addictive substances to block or numb emotions is going to possible make the healing process longer as well as possibly causing harm and addiction and dependency.

That being said please see your GP if you are experiencing depression (what I mean is a constantly low mood, lack of motivation, low self-esteem, anxiety, isolation and loss of interest in things you once enjoyed...) true symptoms of depression can last from weeks, to months and even years if not properly treated or diagnosed.

The term depression gets thrown around a lot and is often incorrectly used. Depression is a clinical mental health condition which can be potentially serious! It's normal to feel 'down in the dumps' every now and then but this is usually (not always) situational and tends to pass after a relatively short time. Also please tell someone if your are having thoughts of suicide or suicdal ideation and get help from either your GP or even call an ambulance to get to hospital.

In the U.K. they have a good confidential phoneline for people who are suffering and have been feeling suicidal called Samaritans on 116-123 (free call). As I have already said talking is incredibly important... just having someone else's perspective on something can change how you think and feel about it! As an old proverb said: "A problem half is a problem shared!"

Sorry if I have been rambling but I just wanted to highlight the important differences between low-mood, clinical depression and bevreavement and grief. Talking to someone you trust is an important first step and making an appointment with your GP who can also signpost you to other available services such as one-to-one counselling, group workshops, CBT and mindfulness groups. There are loads of good apps especially on mindfulness!

In terms of medication which indeed has a crutial and vital role for some people and should always be recommended by a trained prescriber or medical professional. I personally feel that a short-term course of a SSRI type antidepressant could be useful if people are particularly struggling with bereavement and loss but it should always be coincided with talking-based therapies. But I stand firm to my believe that opiates, benzodiazepines, barbiturates etc should not be indicated for psychological pain.