Heh, Im going to suggest a few things not mentioned here:
1) Have sex anyway. If he wants a hummer or handjob, just do it. Maybe the act itself will get you in the mood. Ive been with a few women with higher sex drive than me, and even two minutes of fingering or oral will do it for them. Sometimes it's a chore, and it's easier than taking out the trash or mowing the lawn. lol. If I saw my woman was seeing it as a chore, I would and have 'stepped up' my end to satisfy her.
2) Try different shit: B&D, S&M, roleplay, role reversal, different settings, 3-way, watching porn, etc. Maybe a public 2nd base, handjob under a restaurant table, just think of stuff. "What is your fantasy?" are four words that can be extremely hot if followed thru: turning fantasy into reality. Can also be a letdown but hey, nothing ventured nothing gained.
3) Try easing up on the opiates. They kill sex drive. So does pain, so that might not work. A little bit of alcohol for my woman (who is also a CPP with 6 back surgeries and numerous other things) who is also 12 years my senior still works.
4) MDMA is great shit. Seriously. read about its scheduling in the US: scores of doctors protested its emergency scheduling, most recommending that it go no higher than 3 so that therapists could prescribe it for problems just like this. If you can get a few tabs of real E, it might bring back what you're missing.
5) My sex drive is high, and Ive no problems with ED, tho I seldom finish (cum). This is extremely depressing to my woman, who feels like she isnt doing it well. Truth is, it's me, most of the time. I tell her honestly I like the physical intimacy, and Im not keeping a fkn scorecard of who comes how many times. I love being inside her, smelling her, tasting her, feeling her breath on me, her muscles tensing, her touch. I love going downtown more than I like fucking anyway; to me, it's more intimate, and I discovered kinda by accident during one particular session that I love facesitting, queening, breath control, smothering, all that 'kinky' shit that 'normal' people go pale with when you bring it up with them. Maybe he likes some kinky shit like that, maybe you do too, maybe neither of you know it. All I know is that, having been in sexually frustrating relationships, it would be a fucking travesty to see one dissolve because soneone didnt try a finger here, a kiss there, a 5 fkn minute conversation over what their partner TRULY wants.
My girl has other health issues, besides a trashed spine, like hips, and endometriosis. So no, I cant pile drive her like we both want, just a minor problem to work around (ftr, we work up slower and longer and only go full tilt the last 10 seconds or so, that way she isnt completely crippled the next day). probably wayy too much info for some, but there you go.
1) Have sex anyway. If he wants a hummer or handjob, just do it. Maybe the act itself will get you in the mood. Ive been with a few women with higher sex drive than me, and even two minutes of fingering or oral will do it for them. Sometimes it's a chore, and it's easier than taking out the trash or mowing the lawn. lol. If I saw my woman was seeing it as a chore, I would and have 'stepped up' my end to satisfy her.
2) Try different shit: B&D, S&M, roleplay, role reversal, different settings, 3-way, watching porn, etc. Maybe a public 2nd base, handjob under a restaurant table, just think of stuff. "What is your fantasy?" are four words that can be extremely hot if followed thru: turning fantasy into reality. Can also be a letdown but hey, nothing ventured nothing gained.
3) Try easing up on the opiates. They kill sex drive. So does pain, so that might not work. A little bit of alcohol for my woman (who is also a CPP with 6 back surgeries and numerous other things) who is also 12 years my senior still works.
4) MDMA is great shit. Seriously. read about its scheduling in the US: scores of doctors protested its emergency scheduling, most recommending that it go no higher than 3 so that therapists could prescribe it for problems just like this. If you can get a few tabs of real E, it might bring back what you're missing.
5) My sex drive is high, and Ive no problems with ED, tho I seldom finish (cum). This is extremely depressing to my woman, who feels like she isnt doing it well. Truth is, it's me, most of the time. I tell her honestly I like the physical intimacy, and Im not keeping a fkn scorecard of who comes how many times. I love being inside her, smelling her, tasting her, feeling her breath on me, her muscles tensing, her touch. I love going downtown more than I like fucking anyway; to me, it's more intimate, and I discovered kinda by accident during one particular session that I love facesitting, queening, breath control, smothering, all that 'kinky' shit that 'normal' people go pale with when you bring it up with them. Maybe he likes some kinky shit like that, maybe you do too, maybe neither of you know it. All I know is that, having been in sexually frustrating relationships, it would be a fucking travesty to see one dissolve because soneone didnt try a finger here, a kiss there, a 5 fkn minute conversation over what their partner TRULY wants.
My girl has other health issues, besides a trashed spine, like hips, and endometriosis. So no, I cant pile drive her like we both want, just a minor problem to work around (ftr, we work up slower and longer and only go full tilt the last 10 seconds or so, that way she isnt completely crippled the next day). probably wayy too much info for some, but there you go.
