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New girlfriend doesnt give head very well

some people just bad at blowjobs.

accept her and live with it. you can try to teach and people can improve (in theory) but the amount of time i said "no teeth please" and then i got teeth again and again :\

how fucking hard to work out i dont want my dick bitten.

everyone has positives and negatives.

what can you cope without...
 
Loozer_Magnet said:
I'm actually curious as to what guys think makes a girl bad at giving head? What does she have to do or not do to suck (pun definitely intended) at it?
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You can't just bathe the penis in your mouth. Up and down verticalfriction's needed.

Also, I think "deep throat" is overrated. Most of the rubbing can be done with the hand.
 
Loozer_Magnet said:
I'm actually curious as to what guys think makes a girl bad at giving head? What does she have to do or not do to suck (pun definitely intended) at it?
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Rhythm is key...for example if you played an instrument in school as a child pretend you are trying to keep the same tempo and maybe speed it up towards the end just like you did when you played an instrument and towards the end of the song the tempo got faster and the sound crecendo'd...lot's of spit don't be afraid to be messy and telling a man where you want him to cum makes it 77% better.
 
Train her.... literarily tell her what you want her to do, show her examples (watch porn) and get it popping
 
theredgiant said:
Rhythm is key...for example if you played an instrument in school as a child pretend you are trying to keep the same tempo and maybe speed it up towards the end just like you did when you played an instrument and towards the end of the song the tempo got faster and the sound crecendo'd...lot's of spit don't be afraid to be messy and telling a man where you want him to cum makes it 77% better.
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That's well put.
 
My wife gives great head but won't swallow (yet) . She will jerk me off when I'm about to cum but it would be so much better if she swallowed my seed. Doesn't make her terrible by any means but things like that can make a big difference to a guy.
 
FacialFan88 said:
My wife gives great head but won't swallow (yet) . She will jerk me off when I'm about to cum but it would be so much better if she swallowed my seed. Doesn't make her terrible by any means but things like that can make a big difference to a guy.
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Yes, it's nice. I had this gal who licked up my come like she was a cat licking up milk. I hugged and kissed her after cause it was a true sign of love.
 
I used to hate giving BJ's until I met my current partner. I was probably really bad at it as I saw it as a chore. Then I fell in love and wanted to be good at it.

Without going into too much detail...
Basically I explained my hate of it and he explained how erotic it is from a mans perspective. Then I started paying attention to what he reacted to and figured out how he liked it.

So in a nutshell exaggerate your reactions when she does something you like, go silent when its not feeling good. You may not be able to cum until she gets better at it due to focusing on the ummm.... training.... but hopefully in the long run it means a better (oral) sex life.

Goodluck dude lol
BP
 
pofacedhoe said:
some people just bad at blowjobs.

accept her and live with it. you can try to teach and people can improve (in theory) but the amount of time i said "no teeth please" and then i got teeth again and again :\

how fucking hard to work out i dont want my dick bitten.

everyone has positives and negatives.

what can you cope without...
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Same goes for biting the minora.

Fuckn ouch.

The guy I have been sort of kinda seeing was trying to do the nibble thing I guess but ffs its not jerky!

Just had to tell him biting hurts so stop.

But according to him women love it so continued so I havent bothered with him since.
 
Ask her questions, like how much experience does she have in that area. Could be not much at all. I know I was awful first time I ever tried to give a bj but then became good at it bc I researched a bit what guys are into. Also the next time, I really loved the guy and idk it just became like, natural.
Please take note that you can talk to her and tell her what you like but don't ridicule her on all that she's doing wrong. Especially do not say "you're not doing it right." huge turn off. Just constructive criticism and kinda just guide her.
do research together even; like people were posting above regarding porn, tutorials (written or videos), etc.
 
zephyr said:
Same goes for biting the minora.


Fuckn ouch.

The guy I have been sort of kinda seeing was trying to do the nibble thing I guess but ffs its not jerky!

Just had to tell him biting hurts so stop.

But according to him women love it so continued so I havent bothered with him since.
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I've still not found a guy who is great at giving head. Like they think the biting is sexy or "kinky" kinda like on our lips. No, wrong lol.
That shit hurts, it's just like if a girl were to use teeth on a guy.
I wondered if there were any other girls who'd experienced this hah
 
Bella P said:
I used to hate giving BJ's until I met my current partner. I was probably really bad at it as I saw it as a chore. Then I fell in love and wanted to be good at it.

Without going into too much detail...
Basically I explained my hate of it and he explained how erotic it is from a mans perspective. Then I started paying attention to what he reacted to and figured out how he liked it.

So in a nutshell exaggerate your reactions when she does something you like, go silent when its not feeling good. You may not be able to cum until she gets better at it due to focusing on the ummm.... training.... but hopefully in the long run it means a better (oral) sex life.

Goodluck dude lol
BP
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Your guy is a lucky fellow.
 
Maybe tell her while she's doing it what you want her to do little by little
 
Honestly, I think some girls either like it and do it good, or there are girls that don't really get into it, so therefore they aren't very good at it. I love giving head, and I've been told I'm really good at it, but I've had guys tell me that some girls either are good at it or not. So I'd say just stick to what you both like, sounds like you have good sex other than that, so I mean, I wouldn't really sweat it. You could try discussing it with her, but from a girls standpoint it would probably just make her feel inadequate and depending on the type of girl she is, she could either get pissy or just get upset in general and not want to even do it at all. Maybe just suggest some changes in a way that make it seem like you aren't neccessarily saying she's not doing it right, but rather saying you would think it's really cool if she tried ..... etc etc. Maybe say something like "hey babe, I don't know if you would do it or not but I bet your pretty mouth would feel good if you licked around the tip and then slowly slid it down as far as you can, do you think you could try it and then I could try something on you that you think would feel nice?" That would be my advice. Good luck.
 
Here's a positive slant: she's inexperienced now, yes. But she will improve with you. You will get her best.
 
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