never fall for anyone but

Now it seems as that has changed. I only ever loved one guy in my lifetime and now when I look back at the so called "relationship" all I want to do is slap myself in the face. I thought what we had was love but I was young and stupid. I know that sounds cliche but that's the best phrase I can use. Besides the point I have had other boyfriends, been on dates and there is always a guy trying to be with me. The truth is they really mean nothing to me and that's why I chose to be alone at least for now.

Except there's a new guy who has came into my life. Wasn't my type but so far he has grown on me. We have so many common interests and I actually love talking to him. I also love the fact he hasn't mentioned sex yet at all like most guys (some who asked in the same day of meeting me). The bad thing though is I don't know if he feels the same way I do... Well I never really told him I wanted to be more than friends which is my fault. I guess I am just too afraid. I'm mainly afraid for the fact it could jeopardize what relationship we have going for us right now and it can make me look like a dumbass in the end. Maybe one day I will have the courage to tell him how I feel.

 

There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers... so just be straight up with him and ask him what his viewpoints are on the way you feel, and if he feels the same.

You could always set up a hypothetical scenario for him, and see how he reacts. And that will not leave you looking like a dumbass, it will just show that you are willing and able to speak your mind around him, and that there are many options in life... The road not taken... It's up to you, you want him, then you gotta try get him.

But like you say, maybe one day you will have the courage. For me, everything I do, I try to do it out of my best will at the best time possible, and patience can be a virtue. So I'm not rushing you. Just saying that no matter what, you are not a dumbass, and if you want something, then there is usually some sort of feat to go through to get it. And mustering the courage to do something can take time, but when you do it, you always win, because the point is you overcame your fears and gained the courage. Even if he turns down the idea. You still win, because you were strong enough to go through with something you felt for. And by then you will know which road has a dead end anyways, and which roads are wiser to take.

 

Thank you so much this really did help. I think I'm going to wait just a little bit longer and see what happens (not too much). If he doesn't like me then he doesn't like me. I'll be embarrassed but I will eventually get over it but I'm happy you replied.

I usually just can talk to guys so easily but this is just really different with him. It's as if when he talks to me I become speechless at some points....