stardust.hero
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So I recently moved to Florida and we have these really awesome neighbors next door that bring us bread and cook us awesome hispanic food and they have 2 sons, one's 19 and one's 15. I talk to them occasionally across the fence and we've added each other on Facebook. They're amazing people and help us out with anything they can. We've developed a really close rapport. The one kid, the 19 year old messages me on Facebook for the first time tonight and gabbers with me a bit and I tell him they (him and his brother) should come swimming tomorrow. And he says to me "don't you think that would be awkward" and I'm like no way, why? And he leads on for a little bit beating around the bush but eventually tells me he thinks I'm cute.
I have no idea how to deal with this situation. Am I supposed to continue to invite them over and act normally? He seemed very adamant about it being awkward with my boyfriend around and noted on past times when it was awkward because he was standing at the fence with me talking to them. He has always been the shortest person with over the fence conversation. Usually it's a hi and then he goes back to whatever he's doing. The rest of the family could talk for hours. He told me that he usually has to leave because the flirting takes over and he has to go.
I asked him if he's ever had a girlfriend (they're a very religious family so it wouldn't be abnormal for his parents to not be letting him date). The momma also has them on a tight lead. I also think it's normal for young guys to look at girls subjectively and decide that they think are cute and that they like them. His family moved from Brooklyn, NY, down to here. He didn't go into much detail but said he had a girlfriend in Brooklyn and when he moved they broke up.
He seems pretty open about his feelings to me (he says "so now you know my secret") and I'm wondering if I should somehow explain to him that it's normal to think women are pretty or cute or hot. It doesn't necessarily mean anything and you can still be around them. I do think it's normal to exercise those thoughts. I know I have many times with friends boyfriends and other guys while in a relationship. It comes naturally. He seems a bit lost in the matter and I feel like he is seeking guidance from me--or at least I have to say something to make the big elephant in the room disappear.
I feel a bit weird now since I didn't keep this conversation private and I shared it with my boyfriend. This family is really close to us and this odd little occurrence has to be handled correctly, I don't want this to interfere with our relationship because we have cookouts, dinner, and we help each other out. It's more than I could have asked for or expected in a neighbor when moving here.
I also could be being naive in thinking this is harmless and that he doesn't understand these weird feelings he is having for his neighbor. He's 19, that's definitely old enough to date and understand for the most part. The only reason I am considering it to be harmless is because of how religious the family is, especially both of the kids. His parents are very strict so It makes me want to assume it's because he is so sheltered. He doesn't drive, goes to a private religious school, I never see friends over and his mother just got him a job working with little kids at the YMCA a few months ago. He never had another job before this one.
I have no idea how to deal with this situation. Am I supposed to continue to invite them over and act normally? He seemed very adamant about it being awkward with my boyfriend around and noted on past times when it was awkward because he was standing at the fence with me talking to them. He has always been the shortest person with over the fence conversation. Usually it's a hi and then he goes back to whatever he's doing. The rest of the family could talk for hours. He told me that he usually has to leave because the flirting takes over and he has to go.
I asked him if he's ever had a girlfriend (they're a very religious family so it wouldn't be abnormal for his parents to not be letting him date). The momma also has them on a tight lead. I also think it's normal for young guys to look at girls subjectively and decide that they think are cute and that they like them. His family moved from Brooklyn, NY, down to here. He didn't go into much detail but said he had a girlfriend in Brooklyn and when he moved they broke up.
He seems pretty open about his feelings to me (he says "so now you know my secret") and I'm wondering if I should somehow explain to him that it's normal to think women are pretty or cute or hot. It doesn't necessarily mean anything and you can still be around them. I do think it's normal to exercise those thoughts. I know I have many times with friends boyfriends and other guys while in a relationship. It comes naturally. He seems a bit lost in the matter and I feel like he is seeking guidance from me--or at least I have to say something to make the big elephant in the room disappear.
I feel a bit weird now since I didn't keep this conversation private and I shared it with my boyfriend. This family is really close to us and this odd little occurrence has to be handled correctly, I don't want this to interfere with our relationship because we have cookouts, dinner, and we help each other out. It's more than I could have asked for or expected in a neighbor when moving here.
I also could be being naive in thinking this is harmless and that he doesn't understand these weird feelings he is having for his neighbor. He's 19, that's definitely old enough to date and understand for the most part. The only reason I am considering it to be harmless is because of how religious the family is, especially both of the kids. His parents are very strict so It makes me want to assume it's because he is so sheltered. He doesn't drive, goes to a private religious school, I never see friends over and his mother just got him a job working with little kids at the YMCA a few months ago. He never had another job before this one.
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