Needy Friends

I'm not sure how many of you have needy friends but I have a couple and sometimes they just drive me up the wall!

My one "friend" hasn't messaged me for a few weeks (we live in different cities now, done college together) and tells me how she broke up with her bf, she likes another guy, bla bla bla. Okay cool, whatever. But then she keeps wanting to call me. I don't want her to because I usually have other things going on in my life, like I'm doing work, doing projects, whatever, but I don't mind texting but calling is annoying, lol.

She's always like "oh you're such a good friend" cuz I do listen to her and stuff. But she won't listen to my advice, which I swear is right. And she freaks out if the guy doesn't call her back exactly at 9 pm if that's when he said he would. I have to listen to her for 10 mins before he calls, urg!

I totally couldn't date a needy person. My bf has a friend who is needy too and it drives him (and me, lol) up the wall. I love that my bf is not needy. I'm not *usually* needy either. I might have like once a month where I am needy to my bf only but he says it isn't bad really. Just I get worried about something or whatever. But not too bad.

My bf and I were laughing the other day about how we knew so many needy people!

I know that these people have other things going on in their lives. Like maybe they are insecure, jealous, bad childhood, mental or emotional disorders, oh who knows what. And I'm usually nice to them, but stilllll it can be annoying :p
 
There comes a time where the needs of others... can get fucked. Well for me, its like this... people know they cant be needy to me, cause i tell them to shut up and get fucked. If someone asks for my advice, i will give it to them. If they dont use it or just blow it off instantly, i tell them... if you want my advice, take it. Otherwise, dont ask. Its a waste of my breath and i have other people and other things in my life which are not a waste of time.

Its important to let people know that your advice is not a right, it is a privilege, and that it is not to be taken granted of.
 
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