Mental Health Need life advice and support

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I'm a forum regular, but due to the specifics of this thread i would prefer to remain anonymous.

I'm basically looking for support and encouragement, i feel like i have none and those closest to me seem indifferent when i express my idea's or concerns.

I've recently undergone a massive shift in my life for better or worse; moved back home with folks, lost a huge chunk of friends, ended a relationship and have had to build my finance's back up from scratch.. i've had a lot of life experience but a lack of planning has left me broke and back at square one. My parents have and continue to help me tremendously financially which i greatly appreciate but emotionally they can be difficult to relate too and genuine concerns i have are often met with a very faint sign of interest.. there's a generation gap of almost 40 years, and they are moving into the retirement period of their life..

I have a goal and a rough plan, that would see me save between $100,000-$140,000 within the next 3 years.. with the explicit intention of starting a business overseas. Living at home will give me a major opportunity to save a lot of money.. an opportunity that i will likely never have again in my life. I believe i can do this because i am extremely disciplined when it comes to money management.. but at the same time, the cost of what i will have to give up for the next couple of years may very well end me along with the long working weeks.

Worst case scenario if i can't get the business off the ground, i will still have a substantial amount of money to start in a different direction.. so looking at it from a long term perspective.. using the opportunity of living at home to mass save for a couple of years seems like a very good plan, i will be 28 by the time i reach this goal. It's my immediate needs and wants however that will drive me insane during this period..

I realize this is not drug-related, but the stress and lack of support is impacting my mental and emotional health.. i need life advice, there are days where i feel like this idea is bordering on been ridiculously unobtainable, or run into doubt that i can pull it off or hesitation if its what i actually want to do.. and just general confusion about the direction of my life, and i only have my own thoughts to bounce off.. so this is not good.

Thankyou in advance,
 
If your idea is marketable and you say you will have the $$ and drive to see it through, I'm not clear about the source of your worry. You say that it is because you have no life plan? If you have values that are solid, I don't think you need a life plan. Your values are your compass and your life is one big open wilderness landscape. You don't need a trail map that shows you prescribed paths, you just need your moral compass. Define your values for yourself and then live by them. Where life takes you through chance or your own efforts is secondary to how you live that life as a decent human being. No one has to be a hero and change the world in some grand geture--just get to know yourself and treat your own life with the same compassion you would treat a good friend--that means brutal honesty and caring empathy that coexist.

Lack of support from your parents may be because they have seen you have ideas before that have not manifested? Don't depend on them understanding--it's pretty great that they are willing to support you financially while you try this out. That is something most would not get so I would say be grateful and have your support come from within. If your idea works it will be because you believed in it and sacrificed and worked hard for it. That will go far towards quelling some of your own doubts about your life and do wonders for your parents' doubts.

As far as whether to put the time in, if it is a couple of years will you be able to sustain your belief in the idea if it takes that long?
 
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