Need advice asap

[DEFNSD]

Ok so my opiate habit just pretty much just caved in on me. Yesterday I stole money out of my mother's wallet to get a hold of something. I just wasn't thinking at the time and I really fucked up.

My mom left just now to get a haircut and she is sure to find out her money is missing. Should I confess to her and tell her that I need help? I really do want to tell her but I am so scared as to how she is going to re act.

I want to tell her that I need help but I want to do it in a way that she understands I need support from her and not for her to go crazy and get angry at me.

FUCK! I remember one of my first threads here was about me asking if I should try opiates and I claimed I could control my habit. Well I was wrong and everyone in that thread who advised me not to was so very right.
Please anyone respond asap.

 

[coco puff]

Ok so my opiate habit just pretty much just caved in on me. Yesterday I stole money out of my mother's wallet to get a hold of something. I just wasn't thinking at the time and I really fucked up.

My mom left just now to get a haircut and she is sure to find out her money is missing. Should I confess to her and tell her that I need help? I really do want to tell her but I am so scared as to how she is going to re act.

I want to tell her that I need help but I want to do it in a way that she understands I need support from her and not for her to go crazy and get angry at me.

FUCK! I remember one of my first threads here was about me asking if I should try opiates and I claimed I could control my habit. Well I was wrong and everyone in that thread who advised me not to was so very right.
Please anyone respond asap.

I dont know you at all and I have only just joined this site but I will say this - honesty is always the best policy. if she gets angry then let her. it is something to be angry about but I am sure she will eventually understand that you came to her for help and she will surely help you - what is family for - have faith - I hope this helps

 

[ocean]

I would say , yeah, tell your mother.....
It is good that you recognize you have a problem, and that you need support.
Tell her and let her know how sorry you are for stealing from her.
She may be angry or shocked at first, but if you are honest, I am sure she will appreciate that.
Not everyone has a relationship with their parents that can allow them to lean on them in this sort of situation- so you are lucky you feel you can talk to her.
I hope it all works out for you.
Keep us posted.

 

[DEFNSD]

I just feel terrible she is already dealing with supporting me, my little sister, and both my grandparents. I've also always been a burden on her; getting arrested, her having to bail me out, etc.

If I confess to her this just adds a huge amount to the heavy burden she is already carrying but if I somehow get her to believe I took the money for another reason it might be better in a way. Now please don't get me wrong the last reason I made this thread is to look for ideas on how to lie to my mother but would that be a better thing to do in my situation?

I can get out of this but that only leaves me digging my hole deeper and her suspicions will only grow. I know that telling her the truth is the right thing to do but it is so difficult to confess something so serious.

 

[QuasiStoned]

FUCK! I remember one of my first threads here was about me asking if I should try opiates and I claimed I could control my habit. Well I was wrong and everyone in that thread who advised me not to was so very right.
Please anyone respond asap.

Don't beat yourself up over it, many people in all walks of life succumb to an opiate addiction. I myself was addicted to poppy tea for 2 years! I never stole money from my parents but I did neglect paying bills and basically drained my savings account.

If you are truly done with it and have a desire to change, I would tell her and try to get the help/support that you need. It's not easy to go it alone.

What kind of opiates do you use?

 

[DEFNSD]

I would say , yeah, tell your mother.....
It is good that you recognize you have a problem, and that you need support.
Tell her and let her know how sorry you are for stealing from her.
She may be angry or shocked at first, but if you are honest, I am sure she will appreciate that.
Not everyone has a relationship with their parents that can allow them to lean on them in this sort of situation- so you are lucky you feel you can talk to her.
I hope it all works out for you.
Keep us posted.

You're very right I am lucky that I have a mother that is so understanding and open minded. I think I am just going to tell her in the best possible way I can and I'll try to fit in that I need support and not punishment. Thank you guys for everything. The forum has always been great to me.

 

[DEFNSD]

Don't beat yourself up over it, many people in all walks of life succumb to an opiate addiction. I myself was addicted to poppy tea for 2 years! I never stole money from my parents but I did neglect paying bills and basically drained my savings account.

If you are truly done with it and have a desire to change, I would tell her and try to get the help/support that you need. It's not easy to go it alone.

What kind of opiates do you use?

But the thing is I forced myself into this situation. I honestly do not want to give up opiates but even more so I don't want to keep lying to my mother and sink so low as to steal from her. I use what ever I can get my hands on vicodin, percocet, roxis, oxys, opanas, I even buy a suboxone off the street occasionally when I am low on cash and I need to escape the withdrawals.

 

[DEFNSD]

My mom just got home and she is acting completely normal. I don't understand at all. I took all the money out of her wallet, about 35 dollars, and she just got a haircut so she should have surely noticed all her money was gone and confronted me about it.

She either thought she forgot to use the ATM or she knows I took it but for some reason is not confronting me about it. I took money from her wallet before and she noticed and confronted me I was just able to get out of the situation but this time I have no idea what is going on.

 

[Bojangles69]

Bro you are addicted and you WANT to keep using.

I hate to say this, but this thread is not gonna do you much good imo. You KNOW you're getting out of control. You know your life is basically nothing but opiates. But you NEED to sink further into a hellhole of depression and shit before you are thoroughly convinced there is NO POINT using opiates any longer.
Even if I told you to go tell your mother whats gonna happen?
You're gonna go get clean for a few months to appease her and fool yourself into thinking you have control. Then in no amount of time you'll be using opiates again.

I'm SORRY, very sorry, but the only way I see people really getting off opiates is when they are broken down and torn into pieces. You sound bad, you don't sound anywhere close to how bad it takes to stop. It sounds like you're just getting a small taste of whats to come. Drama, broken promises, burned relationships with folks who will soon disown you, no friends, no girlfriend, no money, no health, no stability.

You WANT to keep using because you haven't had it bad enough yet. This addiction is a very personal thing between you and your drugs. Everybodies path is different. I'm tapering myself off opiates now for quite some time and will be done soon. Theres a lot of people on this forum who have taken themselves off opiates.
You CAN try, but something tells me you're desire to use is still too strong.

Most of anything we say to you in this thread will be misinterpreted by your addiction and need to use. You'll find somewhat to not tell your mother, she might not find out you even took it (edit: see it looks like she came home and didn't even notice, now you can steal again right? this is how opiates come to own your life and decisions) and the addiction continues for however many more years or months.

I can't suggest you do much of anything. The only thing I can suggest is you drop your ego, think about your life carefully with a clearhead, and ask yourself "am I REALLY ready for what my lifes eventually going to turn into?"
Chances are you will tell yourself "yes I am, because if it gets too out of hand I'll control it", the learning part is through the experience of living through hell, and coming to the realization one day that you genuinely can't control it.
I can't tell you what you're able to do with yourself and how much will power of self control you have. But too many people succumb to their additions, especially with opiates. It doesn't matter how smart you are, how gifted, how strong, what you've been through, all that matters is that you are humble enough to understand that opiates will bring any grown man to his knees.
You are fighting a losing battle. You can try to get clean, but I think it should be something you want. Otherwise you'll have to go back and forth between addiction and sobriety for years and years untill you DO want it. And in a weird way, if you keep using now, you'll reach hell sooner, and I believe it will help make your mind up quicker.

Thats why I can't really advise you either way. But good luck with whatever happens!

 

[Escher's Waterfall]

Is there a Narcotics Anonymous or a similar group in your area?

If you want to reduce the stress on your family, I think you should go. Even if you don't tell your family at first.

 

[BlueberryfishY]

My mom just got home and she is acting completely normal. I don't understand at all. I took all the money out of her wallet, about 35 dollars, and she just got a haircut so she should have surely noticed all her money was gone and confronted me about it.

She either thought she forgot to use the ATM or she knows I took it but for some reason is not confronting me about it. I took money from her wallet before and she noticed and confronted me I was just able to get out of the situation but this time I have no idea what is going on.

Watch out it might be a trap.

 

[michael]

my advice is to be honest with your mother if you really want help and want to quit.