My uncle is dying.

TheUltimateFixx

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... Ok he's not really my uncle. We're not related. He and his wife were both close family friends and showed up so often that I took to calling them 'uncle & aunt' the way most young children will. And it stuck.

Now he's on his way out and we never finished the hill walk we first tried back in 2010 where I didn't have the correct route and guessed wrong. We always said we'd repeat it. Never happened.

His wife for some eason also blocked our WhatsApp connection (it was shared between them so I couldn't talk to him unless she approved) after I announced I had found someone to be with. I don't think she had a problem with gays so am still perplexed.

... Anyways my mother is also now telling me I'm being 'selfish' for being sad that we never got to complete the mountain route. I think if it had been up to him we would have gone. He had a beard like Captain Igloo / Bird's Eye if anyone cares to picture him.

And yes I've been pathetically socially deprived enough all my life in order to latch onto random family friends as a replacement for relatives who mostly weren't up to scratch.
 
Sounds like he is as good as any "real" uncle. What is selfish about wishing you could share that experience with him? Nothing, I would say
I'm sorry for your loss. I love that image of his beard.
 
Awe that ought to toughen you up. But please don't let it. That was kind of hurtful. But basically the two were really good family friends that were in a relationship. Your mom I guess was giving her opinion abruptly in so many words.

The important thing is that I am so very sorry for your family's loss. It hurts
badly to lose someone forever. It hurts so badly that maybe it brings out sheer anger. It hurts so badly to lose those that were in our life.

I'm sure this one did hurt a lot. Completely. I hope that we will all heal somehow though. And it is so awful and final because you won't be able to go up that trail again. Ever. Even though it probably would have been so awesome.
I don't know if I should have actually wrote it like that. But I am really sorry for your loss. That's so sad.

Feel Better. I hope that you do and can somehow. I guess time heals. But I guess that would be a different thread .... because I don't know how !!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. They are real and I guess that we all have them too. Hold on. Just be well. And I am so sorry for your loss.

Maybe I read the post too fast and didn't really understand. Maybe they just wanted privacy, and a smaller crowd and are not functioning well, or not being understanding. What would be the purpose to block someone. Maybe they wanted to be the immediate respondents. I'm so sorry that happened. Again I hope that you feel better of course. That's a lot to have to experience anyway. Be better.
 
Hang in there and cherish those beautiful memories. Maybe make a pilgrimage to that hill walk in his honor
 
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