My ex won't believe I'm trying to be civil!

[SlowandFastandSlow]

So me n my missus broke up about 1 n 1/2 months ago after 4 1/2 years n I'm doing everything I can to try and be civil and reasonable and she's just being soo bitter, were giving up our flat so sorting that with the landlord etc and I'm just being accused of doing everything and anything to be horrible, might make sense if I broke up with her but she finished with me and I've just tried to make it as easy as possible on her but I'm still being accused of all this shit!!

I don't know where all this bitterness came from!

Don't know what response I'm expecting, it's just nice to get it out tbh.

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

Going through something similar myself at the moment, it's fucking infuriating.

 

[SlowandFastandSlow]

Infuriating to say the least, I can't PM yet but I'm well on the way to bluelighter so feel free to message me if you just want someone to vent at

 

[SlowandFastandSlow]

PS just wanna say, I've been made to feel so welcome here after making a new account only a few days ago so thankyou, really didn't expect any response at all to this thread

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

This is unfortunately very common. I have had ex's go crazy and stalk/harass me, and even lie and contact family members and friends who knew they were lying.

 

[Larimar]

Why is she bitter if she is the one who broke it off? Maybe a little more info could help so we can give some advice. Welcome to blue light

 

[✿Dai₷y✿]

It's probably because it was her that broke up and is trying to convince others that she is not the "bad guy".

I don't know why my writing goes bold and cbf rewriting it.

It's silly as there's no one besides you two to prove anything to.

It's not bitterness, it's playing victim.

It happens and will pass, don't play into it mate. Just get gone as soon as you can. Was she unfaithful or hiding something that could come out and cost her friends?

Blah. Stay single mate Life s too short for that bullshit meh

 

[MJ420]

Just had a breakup a week before Christmas and he went mental. I wanted to wait till after Christmas (for his son) to tell everyone but nope he had to scream to the world what a bitch i am. So instead of his son waking to a tree and Christmas dinner, he probably had pizza pops and i cooked turkey for my friends.
It was mutual but once he knew i was done for good he turned into a cunt. Like he was expecting me to cry and want him back
Luckily I Never fully moved in

 

[pofacedhoe]

some peoples way of dealing with their emotional pain is to be angry and spiteful

best off to withdraw from interacting with these kind of people. just stop it

if they are being horrible just withdraw

i never had a horrible ex but ive only been in relationship with two people

BUT after i break up i dont be contacting people digging it up and going over shit

ploughing is for the early days of a relationship breaking up times are for burying somewhere until it doesn't hurt so bad

 

[Shady's Fox]

People.

You know, they mask their frustration under small/useless arguments. He's playing mind-games with you, end them, get rid of him. He's toxic, move on. Belive me, there are sane people in this world, you just have to look for them. A relationship should be about growth, to be the best version of yourselves. That person should be your friend and your lover, as I said, there are sane people out there, you have to look for them. Hopefully it will end well.

 

[jose ribas da silva]

Man I will give you a knowledge

Next time, ask for a piece of her hair... just ask, mysteriously, and then say: I hope this is an alarm for you, I am watching your behavior, and it will get better, so you can decide by which via, I hope you can respect me from now on. Leave the place after that independently of the reaction