I am on benefits and have been for some time. I have tried to a budgeting loan but been told I am on the wrong benefits I am or was getting the old Incapacity benefit but it has changed to the new one they are saying i dont get Income support or income based jobseekers allowance. I have mental health problems and OCD and have had for some time My nurse has told me my bedroom should be blacked out to help with my sleep as i dont sleep for days and my health is getting bad . I have no bed and sleep using some old carpet as my bed i have no curtains up also I have nothing really I have asked for help and explained what i need it for but they just tell me no What can i do if i cant get help I am at a loss as to what to do next.Can someone help or advise me on what to do .. Many thanks Nick..
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Bluesbreaker
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Hey,
You should ask a social worker, there surely is someone who can help you with papers and so on. Try the City Hall Employees or whatever it's called and I'm sure you'll find quick and efficient help.
Good luck.
You should ask a social worker, there surely is someone who can help you with papers and so on. Try the City Hall Employees or whatever it's called and I'm sure you'll find quick and efficient help.
Good luck.
sounds depressing as fuck.... how old are you?
jesus christ , help yourself! get involved, participate.... get a job for goodness sakes... you don't sound all too disabled... i can imagine how you must be kind of confused .... when you've been diagnosed with something , and maybe that actually coundts f
your situation, is unfortunately all to common in todays socio-economic climate. everybody is a victim and innocent; no one wants to work. everyone is entitled and disabled and has their hand out asking for just a little more....
guess what , when I was young i thought that i couldn't work sometimes due to what I THOUGHT was crushing anxiety and depression.... but low and behold when i would get to work it would sort of work itself out... i would usually go home feeling more or less happy.... and ironically when i wouldn't attend work/school I would inevitably start to get crushing depression the more I spent at home unoccupied.
When I would get super depressed , I would sometimes have actual physical reactions to my depression/anxiety ... suddering in bed, teeth clattering... just sitting on the toilet trying to push some fecal out or masterbate just to feel ANYTHING. .. a tiny speck of dopamine....
Now I feel pretty strongly about this last piece of advice.... don't let false information inform your reality any longer! for instance; I've been diagnosed as ADHD, anxiety, manic-depression, RLS, lime disease, bipolar, AND DO I BELIEVE ANY OF THAT HORSE SHIT... absolutely not!
the last person i would ever trust after a lawyer is a fucking doctor.... especially the "doctors" that are more or less optional , and who believe(d) it was prudent to put a 11 year old middle-schooler on 30mgs of adderall a day, which would fuck up my entire reality... .I didn't KNOW you COULD BE ON DRUGS... the concept was over my head, even if i consciously was aware that people "could be high on dope" - I couldn't even conceptualize "high" --- all i know is i would come home from school and would not feel "right" ... I would spend an hour or two balling sobbing crying thinking that I was biggest loser and that everyone hated me...then I would repeat the cycle. . .
now i think all doctors can kiss my ass right after they fuck up trying to heal it. they don't cure shit, they manage "symptoms" - which could be something as innocuos as a short attention span
Also when I would hit rock bottom, i would do things just be open to new things; and i went running/jogging with my father .... i suddenly discovered that if I went running religiously 5 miles at least every other day... I dare you to go run five miles to the best of your ability and tell me you still feel depressed afterwards
jesus christ , help yourself! get involved, participate.... get a job for goodness sakes... you don't sound all too disabled... i can imagine how you must be kind of confused .... when you've been diagnosed with something , and maybe that actually coundts f
your situation, is unfortunately all to common in todays socio-economic climate. everybody is a victim and innocent; no one wants to work. everyone is entitled and disabled and has their hand out asking for just a little more....
guess what , when I was young i thought that i couldn't work sometimes due to what I THOUGHT was crushing anxiety and depression.... but low and behold when i would get to work it would sort of work itself out... i would usually go home feeling more or less happy.... and ironically when i wouldn't attend work/school I would inevitably start to get crushing depression the more I spent at home unoccupied.
When I would get super depressed , I would sometimes have actual physical reactions to my depression/anxiety ... suddering in bed, teeth clattering... just sitting on the toilet trying to push some fecal out or masterbate just to feel ANYTHING. .. a tiny speck of dopamine....
Now I feel pretty strongly about this last piece of advice.... don't let false information inform your reality any longer! for instance; I've been diagnosed as ADHD, anxiety, manic-depression, RLS, lime disease, bipolar, AND DO I BELIEVE ANY OF THAT HORSE SHIT... absolutely not!
the last person i would ever trust after a lawyer is a fucking doctor.... especially the "doctors" that are more or less optional , and who believe(d) it was prudent to put a 11 year old middle-schooler on 30mgs of adderall a day, which would fuck up my entire reality... .I didn't KNOW you COULD BE ON DRUGS... the concept was over my head, even if i consciously was aware that people "could be high on dope" - I couldn't even conceptualize "high" --- all i know is i would come home from school and would not feel "right" ... I would spend an hour or two balling sobbing crying thinking that I was biggest loser and that everyone hated me...then I would repeat the cycle. . .
now i think all doctors can kiss my ass right after they fuck up trying to heal it. they don't cure shit, they manage "symptoms" - which could be something as innocuos as a short attention span
Also when I would hit rock bottom, i would do things just be open to new things; and i went running/jogging with my father .... i suddenly discovered that if I went running religiously 5 miles at least every other day... I dare you to go run five miles to the best of your ability and tell me you still feel depressed afterwards
herbavore
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Since you are using the term benefits I'm assuming you are in the UK? I don't know anything at all about your system over there but I think the best you can do is to keep asking the people that are assigned to oversee your case what you can do to improve your mental health services. Here in the US, things can be vastly different from one city to the next. Where I live, mental health services have been pretty good but are in the process of being cut so drastically that there is now a joke here that all the staff are becoming clients because it is too depressing to continue trying to work in that field when they have no resources for their clients. Sometimes bureaucracies are made up of mostly bored, jaded individuals that don't care about anything but their own paycheck but there are usually some people with big hearts scattered around so try to find the people that actually listen to your situation and can offer to genuinely work with you.
@motiv311--the only thing in your post that I find questionable is "you don't sound that disabled" because the OP really didn't go into much about what his disability entails but the rest of your post had me cheering and reading it out loud to my mom who is here visiting.
In general I could not agree with you more. But I would caution you to not make assumptions about the OP's situation. OP, his advice to try the running (it could also just be walking 5 miles if you can't run) is pretty great advice unless you have a physical disability that would prevent that.
BlowingClouds
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'Benefits' could be from Australia also. I reckon you should see the salvo army or anything like that. There are people who are and have gone through the same thing as u did, they can help you more like way more than so called professional social workers cos they haven't been through it. They just study it. People at the salvos red Cross or homeless places/shelters and helpers will put you into the right path cos the workers or volunteer's there have gone through it and even made it into a successful path.
MilzyWilzy
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I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a hard time at the moment. It made me feel a little bit sad that you are sleeping on an old carpet. You can get help with your situation, as someone else suggested, see if you can get a social worker. You will be able to have your voice heard louder if you have some weight behind you. Citizens advice beaureau would be my next port of call, make an appointment, you need to know your rights, you can't be expected to live like a dog. I understand how alone you must feel, but please do not stop asking for help. If you feel able, why not gather your strengths to obtain employment. Start slow, seek advice from the Jobcentre about getting back into work, they will support you all the way especially with you having mental health problems. Don't sit back and take it, you need to grab life by the balls and live it. As long as you have breath in your body, you can fight, fight to get yourself a better life. No one said life was easy sweetheart. Stay safe and please do not hesitate to PM me if you need anything.