lionheart90
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@Brucey85 It might seem counter-intuitive to face the pain but honestly it worked wonders for me. And it helps if you foster the conditions for wellness to take place. Like if you work in a stressful dead end job, drink alcohol and caffine, and don't sleep well, honestly that would make anybody depressed and miserable. btw you didn't say anything about your job but I know that is the reality for many people so figured it might be that way for you too.
You're not powerless to do anything to change. You have power but you keep giving it up. It's difficult to do certain things when you feel miserable but that is how you regain your power, by doing things that are difficult and require power. its like weight lifting. you only get stronger when you lift heavy weights that exhaust your strength. Doing whats easy won't lead to growth.
Put aside the fact that you did drugs and focus on the things that would make anybody depressed or anxious or miserable. Eating junk food in excess, not getting proper sleep (I know it's difficult but if you put effort into it you will see results. even if that means shutting off computers and screens and bright lights and reading for 3 hour just to feel sleepy. It can be done!), not getting enough positive social interaction, not getting enough support, not getting enough exercise, etc. all those things build up and lead to physical unwellness. There are also a lot of mental factors like believing it's futile and not resisting negative thoughts and urges when they arise. if you tackle the things that are creating physical and mental unwelness then you'll see some recovery.
And it takes a fair bit of time of being in limbo of recovery before the body finishes the job. I was doing healthy things for months on end and in limbo. I would feel slightly better but could still tell I was stuck in some lessened from of the LTC. It took a few months of intense discipline but eventually my body realized it was OK and finished the healing job. I don't think it would have though if I didn't foster the conditions for recovery to take place.
and I know there is the thought of "i'm so weakened right now, I don't have discipline to do those things. I can barely get up in the morning" but you have to fight through those initial phases. Doing things that are good for your health may require discipline and effort at first, but they build strength and wellness. So it might cost you some stress and effort up front, but the next day your body has recovered a bit and you feel much less stress the next day. another exercise analogy but oh well, if you lift weights and do cardio it's difficult and challenging, but you feel better afterwards and sleep better at night, also you get a mood boost for a couple days so that's another example of undergoing temporary pain for long term pleasure. It's the exact opposite of drugs and lazy behavior, which temporarily put off pain and give short term pleasure, but just create more pain and suffering when they wear off.
You're not powerless to do anything to change. You have power but you keep giving it up. It's difficult to do certain things when you feel miserable but that is how you regain your power, by doing things that are difficult and require power. its like weight lifting. you only get stronger when you lift heavy weights that exhaust your strength. Doing whats easy won't lead to growth.
Put aside the fact that you did drugs and focus on the things that would make anybody depressed or anxious or miserable. Eating junk food in excess, not getting proper sleep (I know it's difficult but if you put effort into it you will see results. even if that means shutting off computers and screens and bright lights and reading for 3 hour just to feel sleepy. It can be done!), not getting enough positive social interaction, not getting enough support, not getting enough exercise, etc. all those things build up and lead to physical unwellness. There are also a lot of mental factors like believing it's futile and not resisting negative thoughts and urges when they arise. if you tackle the things that are creating physical and mental unwelness then you'll see some recovery.
And it takes a fair bit of time of being in limbo of recovery before the body finishes the job. I was doing healthy things for months on end and in limbo. I would feel slightly better but could still tell I was stuck in some lessened from of the LTC. It took a few months of intense discipline but eventually my body realized it was OK and finished the healing job. I don't think it would have though if I didn't foster the conditions for recovery to take place.
and I know there is the thought of "i'm so weakened right now, I don't have discipline to do those things. I can barely get up in the morning" but you have to fight through those initial phases. Doing things that are good for your health may require discipline and effort at first, but they build strength and wellness. So it might cost you some stress and effort up front, but the next day your body has recovered a bit and you feel much less stress the next day. another exercise analogy but oh well, if you lift weights and do cardio it's difficult and challenging, but you feel better afterwards and sleep better at night, also you get a mood boost for a couple days so that's another example of undergoing temporary pain for long term pleasure. It's the exact opposite of drugs and lazy behavior, which temporarily put off pain and give short term pleasure, but just create more pain and suffering when they wear off.