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ash1234

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I broke up with this guy that was emotional abusive. i sometimes dont even know what to do. I thought i really loved him.. i still kinda feel like i love him.. what should i do about it. should i stop talking to him or what??
 
ash1234 said:
I broke up with this guy that was emotional abusive. i sometimes dont even know what to do. I thought i really loved him.. i still kinda feel like i love him.. what should i do about it. should i stop talking to him or what??
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If you guys broke up, then end it and sever all communication. It will help you heal faster and the faster you heal the faster the worthless "sorries" won't sway you. Emotional abuse can be as debilitating as physical on your psyche, so you have to tell yourself that you deserve better and get away from the creep.

Get angry. See him for what he is: an abuser! Who wants that? There are just too many fish in the sea to deal with that crap.
 
Yes - stop talking to him completely! Move on. You don't have to find another guy right away. Spend some time with your friends and/or family. Keep yourself busy so you are not thinking about him so much!
 
Try to be strong and stay away and spend some time thinking about how you can avoid getting into that situation again. It's also important to keep in mind that emotional abuse is also partly your fault as you allow it and put up with them. Someone who knows how to take care of themselves and feel they deserve better won't stand for it, and there are ways to make even guys with abusive tendencies treat you decently, even if it's better to avoid them in the first place. Abusers have no respect for those who let them abuse them and just standing up for yourself can make them treat you better.

You can't always help who you fall in love with and I think there's always someone who can make someone treat them well in a relationship. Though emotional abuse can be hard to stop or avoid as often it's not anything to do with what someone says or does, but can be more just in their emotional attitude or way they make you feel, and you can't always get someone to admit they are acting abusively towards you. For many it can be something subconscious they just take pleasure in but aren't willing to admit to themselves or anyone else. But someone who consistently makes you feel bad can be said to be abusive, no matter how they might rationalise it, while someone who really makes you feel good are rare and should be treasured.
 
ash1234 said:
I broke up with this guy that was emotional abusive. i sometimes dont even know what to do. I thought i really loved him.. i still kinda feel like i love him.. what should i do about it. should i stop talking to him or what??
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You can stay and help him find Jesus and become a better man. Give him a son to look after and make a happy home and family.
 
You should definitely walk away from him.
You have just found out that you can be attracted to somebody who does you down.
Lot's of people have this problem.
You need to recognize it and say to yourself I'm not going to take this kind of s..t.
It's just my body talking.
 
ash, I've been through the same. My only LT boyfriend was horribly abusive for over two years but I stayed with him because I thought that's how he was supposed to treat me. Now that we've broken up I realize how much better I am without him, how much confident I'm able to be. It took me a few months but I can now see it's for the better. It's very hard getting over abusive relationships because the other person will get you to feel like you can't go on without them, like you're worthless alone but that isn't true. You should definitely stop talking to him. Do things to boost your confidence. You're better than him and you don't need him. <3
 
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