Lost job- anxiety attack

[Lynn8514]

For those of you who don't know me or don't remember, I am a stay at home mom of a 1 year old. My husband is in the union and he is on methadone maintenance. He recently messed up by taking Oxycocodone and had a random drug test today. He got fired.

We have a house payment, car payment, insurance, cell phone and more bills. We literally have like $1000 in the bank. What do people do in these situations? We have a baby to feed. I'm literally freaking the fuck out and I think I'm having a panic attack. I don't know how to deal with this. As bad as it sounds, I've never craved drugs as bad as I am right now. I don't think I can handle this.

Somebody please tell me what we can do! It takes forever to find jobs and because he failed a drug screen, there's no way we can get unemployment. Omg I'm hyperventilating.

 

[Erikmen]

I'm sorry Lynn you are going through this awful situation. It's tough. I'm here for about 10 minutes trying to see what could I say or the experiences that I had gone through but the only thought that came to my mind is that in life we don't normally get problems bigger than what we can handle.

I believe you both have to join your efforts not to relapse and do what you have to do. Look for jobs, write your CV in linkedIn. That's one site that has a lot of people offering jobs but also with a lot of people unemployed. To be a good professional you need training and update. Do you have means to make such courses? Are there non-profit courses that charges minimum fees. Is there anyone in your family that can give you support, or from his family?

The fact that you are not alone, by yourself or isolated using drugs is a very good thing right now. I know how cravings can be in certain situations but you should probably live one morning at a time, one evening at a time and find a way to get connected to that one person that can share this burden with you. When I quit on opiates I thought that would be the most difficult and even an impossible thing to do. Having no energy, feeling alone and desperate made me fear a lot of things. Almost none of them really happened but the ones that did were things that I had not thought of. My point is don't overthink. Look forward and pray if you believe in God or put together all of your energy and believe that there's a possibility out of this.

I can say once in my life I decided to quit everything and try my luck. I had nothing that I thought I would have. After few months I ended up find work in a very low paid job but one year later in a trip to a very distant place I noticed I could do better. At this stage I already had a daughter but not my son. To make it short that second was not so lousy job and it led me to where I am now - 'thousands' of years ago, and up to this moment I still + constantly think about what could have happened to me.
And to my daughter.

Maybe if I wasn't so hard with myself I could probably try to see how I survived with so little and how life treated me in the upcoming years. I'm not there yet but at someplace important somewhere I wanted to be.

Know this, there will be a solution or a temporary solution for you that's what my observation of other similar cases have showed me during all my life, he or in other places young or on my forty's. I understand the moment you are going through but you need hope and some peace of mind.

There's always a way out of this. But do yourself an immensely great favor. Do not go back to drugs, there aren't problems enough that can't get worse when you relapse, and that you can control.

Wish you luck, all the good energies and optimism.
Erik

 

[Captain.Heroin]

For those of you who don't know me or don't remember, I am a stay at home mom of a 1 year old. My husband is in the union and he is on methadone maintenance. He recently messed up by taking Oxycocodone and had a random drug test today. He got fired.

We have a house payment, car payment, insurance, cell phone and more bills. We literally have like $1000 in the bank. What do people do in these situations? We have a baby to feed. I'm literally freaking the fuck out and I think I'm having a panic attack. I don't know how to deal with this. As bad as it sounds, I've never craved drugs as bad as I am right now. I don't think I can handle this.

Somebody please tell me what we can do! It takes forever to find jobs and because he failed a drug screen, there's no way we can get unemployment. Omg I'm hyperventilating.

Get some food stamps and general relief if you qualify.

Your husband messed up and should seek a higher level of treatment, since this clearly hurt his career.

 

[somnilicious]

What union is your husband in and where do you live? In the iron workers union in Florida guys fail drug test for jobs all the time and the union just sends them out to another job site when they can piss clean.

 

[Lynn8514]

I'm sorry Lynn you are going through this awful situation. It's tough. I'm here for about 10 minutes trying to see what could I say or the experiences that I had gone through but the only thought that came to my mind is that in life we don't normally get problems bigger than what we can handle.

I believe you both have to join your efforts not to relapse and do what you have to do. Look for jobs, write your CV in linkedIn. That's one site that has a lot of people offering jobs but also with a lot of people unemployed. To be a good professional you need training and update. Do you have means to make such courses? Are there non-profit courses that charges minimum fees. Is there anyone in your family that can give you support, or from his family?

The fact that you are not alone, by yourself or isolated using drugs is a very good thing right now. I know how cravings can be in certain situations but you should probably live one morning at a time, one evening at a time and find a way to get connected to that one person that can share this burden with you. When I quit on opiates I thought that would be the most difficult and even an impossible thing to do. Having no energy, feeling alone and desperate made me fear a lot of things. Almost none of them really happened but the ones that did were things that I had not thought of. My point is don't overthink. Look forward and pray if you believe in God or put together all of your energy and believe that there's a possibility out of this.

I can say once in my life I decided to quit everything and try my luck. I had nothing that I thought I would have. After few months I ended up find work in a very low paid job but one year later in a trip to a very distant place I noticed I could do better. At this stage I already had a daughter but not my son. To make it short that second was not so lousy job and it led me to where I am now - 'thousands' of years ago, and up to this moment I still + constantly think about what could have happened to me.
And to my daughter.

Maybe if I wasn't so hard with myself I could probably try to see how I survived with so little and how life treated me in the upcoming years. I'm not there yet but at someplace important somewhere I wanted to be.

Know this, there will be a solution or a temporary solution for you that's what my observation of other similar cases have showed me during all my life, he or in other places young or on my forty's. I understand the moment you are going through but you need hope and some peace of mind.

There's always a way out of this. But do yourself an immensely great favor. Do not go back to drugs, there aren't problems enough that can't get worse when you relapse, and that you can control.

Wish you luck, all the good energies and optimism.
Erik

Erik, thank you so much for spending time and effort to help me feel better. It really means more to me than you know. Now that it's been a few hours, the logical part of my brain is starting to function again, thank God. I think this is one of the first truly bad thing to happen in my life since I quit my doc. In a brief moment of panic, I wanted that comfort again, but I won't risk losing my child for any drug. I can crave it all day long but nothing on earth is worth losing her or screwing up her life.
Thankfully, I know my mom would never allow me to go without basic necessities and if I lost my house, she'd probably be ecstatic for us to live with her. It could be so much worse. Thank you for making me think about those things. Currently we have access to every resource to find jobs which is more than some people have! Maybe this is God sending my husband a wake up call!
I truly appreciate your kind response! Your words kickstarted my brain to snap out of crazy panic mode! This is definitely an unwanted setback, and it's going to be tough, but we're alive & healthy with family that loves us and we aren't on the streets buying dope. I should appreciate that!

Captain- I don't know what general relief is but I'll look into it. He knows he messed up and he's beating himself up more than I ever could. I'm going to have a talk with him & figure out if this was a one time fuck up or if we need to try something else for treatment.

Somnilicious- he's in the painters union in South Carolina. This is the first time this has happened so he just assumed he would be fired and kicked out of the Union. If he could get another job placement based on a clean drug screen, that would be amazing.