Look for to meet new girl, got track marks, how much will this affect the dating game

[fluxy]

Ive used drugs all my life and have usually had non-using pretty sweet and down to earth nice grilfriends, but now after the last four years of Iv and IM drug use, I have a usual style track mark on my right inner elbow, and two big spots from staph infections on my upper arms about the size of a penny each, plus a bit of hard to explain stuff on my legs. and im missing a few teeth, although i can cover up all this stuff day to day, Im a bit un-nerved about how to approach the subject when dating new girls. Im about start meeting people again, and am wondering how peoples experiences have been with regards to track marks and being a user who dates (and i use this kinda loosely) from the regular dating pool, rather than from the caliber of girls i would meet at say, The methadone clinic and centrelink queues! cause i meet nice girls all the time in my day to day life but i cut myself off fromdating because my using has not left any room for a realtionship of anykind up until recently.

When should i be up front?
I dont think i should start with, hey, is being an ex-injecting drug user going to freak you out?

but im not so sure about jumping into bed with some girl, getting my clothes off and then seeing the look on their face, like, um "how did you get those marks on your arms? are you still using? etc and of course the usual with people assuming that you must of picked up hepc or other BBVs from the needle. (which i havent)

I dont want to be shallow about this stuff, buti know people can get pretty turned off by this stuff and it would be devastating to meet someone nice and then have them just bail on you before you got a chance to let them meet the real you....... looking for help, oppinions, experiences?

 

[cutecute]

Your post is a little obtuse; are you an EX-IV drug user, or do you still inject? I'll answer for both.

Either way it's not your appearance that's the issue, it's that you're/we're a drug user and into IV/IM drugs, which most non-drug users can't relate to. All they know about IV/IM drugs is what they've heard in anti-drug propaganda, so many are going to judge the shit out of you out of pure ignorance and inexperience.

A lot of people wouldn't want to date someone who uses drugs that they do not use or drugs that they find to be too risky or life-consumning. Some people don't want to be with someone who does ANY drugs. Your appearance immediately tells them that you are a person who does IV drugs and has done them for some time. It's like having a tattoo that says it. And (no offense )you've let it impact your life and health to the point of getting multiple staph infections and losing teeth, as well as scarring much of your body.

I'm not trying to cite a bunch of stereotypes and put you into a box; I am just trying at giving you the perspective of these nice, non-using girls that you speak of, as many of them have little to no experience being around drugs and many are quite frightened/judgmental about it.

If you are no longer using, then I'm sure most girls will be willing to give you a chance, if they have a heart. Seeing your scars will just give you a chance to talk about where you've been. A lot of people have been through much in their lives and that is never reason to write someone off if they have changed and moved forward. But don't blame them if they don't want to get into things with you because they're afraid you will go back to using once they care about you, since they don't know you nor do they know whether you are a ex-using man of your word or a junky.

If you are still using, than it is only fair for a girl to make a decision about the way you live your life, since it will impact them. If they're not comfortable with dating you because you use, that is their decision to make. And like I said, it's not because of the track marks; it's the drugs and nothing more.

I wish you luck in finding someone who makes you happy and who you can make happy, best.

 

[B1tO'RoughJack]

in a big way I reckon = keep long sleeves until they get to know you a bit better. Then they'll have got to know you who you are NOW, and hopefully remember everyone makes mistakes.

It's best not to get EVERYTHING out in the open asap...but good to know you're not wasting your time.