living life as an empathetic person

OP, put Coolio on ignore. He's been a proper jerk to you in this thread.

No, Coolio, science has not disproven the paranormal. It's offered explanations for anecdotal reports that are well within our current knowledge of the physical world. Though I think these sorts of mundane explanations are good to consider, I'm not convinced they account for all paranormal experiences people have had. I think it's very possible that 'reality' is of a very different nature than we currently know.

But the point I wanted to make was, the OP is free to choose to interpret her own subjective experience of her world as she wishes, just as any of us are. You may kindly OFFER to reframe her reported experience using a different framework, if you feel that's helpful for her. But being pushy and judgemental about it? wtf...

FWIW, as a medical student, I do think the OP will benefit from an antidepressant and/or a mood stabilizer, at least in the short term. This should ALWAYS be accompanied with lifestyle modifications -- psychotherapy, meditation, spirituality, greater community involvement, increased social activity, and especially EXERCISE are all really, really good ideas for people being treated for depression. But the most important part is the medication. The only thing that can come close to matching this is a very healthy diet, like they have in Japan or Italy, and there's a fuzzy line between food and drug.

I also need to clear up two other misconceptions in this thread, from a medical standpoint. First of all, although I'm aware that severe depression can trigger psychosis, nothing the OP wrote has me convinced she's been frankly psychotic. At her wits end, a.k.a. apeshit? Sure. Emotionally labile? Definitely. But that's different from psychosis. Secondly (and this one really chaps my ass), no someone who reports paranormal experiences isn't certifiably diagnosable as schizophrenic or schizotypal. Both of these diagnoses involve a whole host of behavioral, perceptive, cognitive, and social changes, which all in all have a detrimental effect on the person's ability to live a functional life. Does a patient reporting a paranormal experience to me warrant at least a cursory psych workup? Yes, granted. But if the rest of the puzzle pieces aren't there, it ain't schizo, it ain't nothin. Clearly the OP IS debilitated by her depression, and warrants diagnosis and treatment. And I bet if she was psychotic, once she gets the depression under control, she won't be anymore. I'm just speaking in general about mental illnesses.

OP, there's nothing wrong with being empathetic. What's wrong is the effect that other people's moods have upon your mood. If you get the depression under control, you'll still be as aware of what mood other people are in, but less personally affected by it. Trust me, empathy is a gift that can very much be put to good use. There are many careers in which being astutely aware of what emotional state or mindstate another person is in is highly prized.
 
Lauren, glad to hear that you're on medication and doing better.

That said, just because you are medicated doesn't mean your empathy will be "killed". It's an emotion, like any other, that you can feel whether you are on anti-depressents and shit, or not. Keep caring about other people, it's a good thing, but I just think you just took a little too far in the past. Hopefully now you'll be better at controlling it. Before I took meds, I used to cry about all the negativity and bad shit in the world too, but with a clearly perspective, I see that carrying that burden doesn't really help anything, it just makes you feel like crap.
 
This is of MUCH concern and exhasperation of my partner because he completely and utterly LACKS EMPATHY so he can't understand. It's amazing, he just does not have the function of empathy...I've never met anyone like that!

Good luck hun <3

How do u get along with someone who has no sympathy for others?
 
Lifeandtimes said:
How do u get along with someone who has no sympathy for others?

Just to clarify, he lacks empathy. He feels sympathy for others but he can't see/feel things from other people's perspective and doesn't even care to do so. There's a difference between empathy and sympathy.

Nevertheless, interesting that you ask. Sometimes it's really tough. If we're clashing for whatever reason, he just cannot understand how I can be so caring for others, and I can't understand how he can care so little about others.

But the vast majority of the time we get along perfectly (obviously, otherwise we wouldn't still be together). We've learned to accept each other for who we are.
 
When i read the first post of Laurenhadfire , i thought she miss-selfdiagnosed ,
looked to me that being an empath is just a part of a bigger picture
My diagnosis after that first post would be "atypical borderline personality disorder".
Not typical because emphaty has partly replaced anger (more common in BPD)

and i would suggest Congitive Behavior Therapy,
but this i would also suggest with the multitude of disorders her doctor thinks she has now.

(and probably would advise her to take a ssri to make the depression more manageble)

ex-amine
 
Learn I'm proud of you!!! I wish you well, and think you for asking that question that it seems to me a lot of people was scared to ask. You made all of these people come together, in a way, and you've helped me a lot by telling your story! Now I know that this gift is more common than I previously realized!
 
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