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I have been working on my social anxiety with my phych for a couple months now he keeps pushing me to confront my fears. He says in order to get better I have to put myself in social situations that make me uncomfortable he says by doing that gradually my anxiety will decrease. Well tonight I got thrown in one of those situations I was with this dude I just met and apperantly he talks to everyone he sees. It was really uncomfortable he would like stop to talk to someone while we were walking and I would just stand there like wtf then I would try and introduce myself it was awkward at first. Then we are heading in from smoking and he starts talking to these 2 girls he knows who are smoking cigs on this bench. This girl captured my mind like she starts talking some anthropology and history and I was hooked.

She is gorgeous to but not in the conventional way shes small great legs short brown hair quick sarcastic wit. So you know im nervous and stoned but I got a read on her we had alot in common and I could tell she was feeling what I was saying. The best part is I recognized the signals I took what I had learned about body language and was able to recognize what she was feeling. So things are going well we talk as a group for like an hour and the conversation starts losing steam and im thinking im gonna get her number. so we get up to go a say "Let me get your number" shes like sure.

Then I made a mistake a really bad mistake I fucked up like just writing this im pissed at myself for celebrating too soon. After I get her a number I say it was cool meeting you and start walking away. She goes "I was gonna get a hug but I gotta go" in a kind of sarcastic tone. Fuck. It was like I got distracted I was high and I was thinking about asking for her number so hard that I didnt even think about what I would do if she said yes.But I am going to stay positive maybe she will forget about it and see me again. Im going to text her tommorow.
 
Just laugh it off. Mention that you were absent-minded or something; it'll be a conversation point. Someone who can make fun of themselves without being self-deprecating shows huge confidence.
 
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