i find the idea that men are being falsely accused of rape all the time - as a smear - to be extremely disingenuous.
i think kavanaugh looked incredibly guilty in those hearings - and that dr ford appeared to be a very reliable witness.
the only obviously false sexual assault smear story recently was
the one that came up about meuller last week.
and that has been referred to the FBI for investigation, as it should be.
what on earth are you talking about?
what "new reality"? people have
always been open to accusations, for all sorts of things. always.
the only thing that
has changed recently is a strong push to support and enable women to speak up against powerful men who sexually assaulted or harassed them.
i don't think that's a bad thing - and i think it is worth noting that #metoo was very much a reaction to an alleged rapist (who has been recorded boasting about sexual assault) being elected president.
it has been a very important way for people to empower themselves against a government that is quite literally run by creepy old men.
what sort of "evidence" do you think people get convicted of sex crimes on? most of the time it is one person's word against another.
for a huge list of reasons, it is traumatic to report a rape.
extremely invasive, extremely traumatic - and i can assure you, for many people, the process of reporting rape or sexual assault is often more difficult and traumatising than the assault itself.
...and then there is the court case and cross-examination if it ever goes to trial. for many, many of us, going through all of that is way more than we can face.
that is why most rapes and sexual assaults aren't reported -
that is why it is considered so incredibly ignorant and disrespectful to demean and dismiss rape survivors in the way trump and others did to dr ford.
her testimony is evidence. i'm not sure what "repercussions to those who did this to him" you are expecting - but that whole comment seems to be predicated on this idea that kavanaugh came out of this smelling like roses.
he didn't. he wasn't exonerated - and to many people he looks as tainted as donald "grab em by the pussy" trump.
here's my understanding in a nutshell; the republicans' dirty tricks prevented obama from installing his supreme court pick, and now trump comes along with his own history of alleged rapes (numerous - including his ex-wife, under oath), sexual assaults, sexual harassment and obvious misogyny.
part of trump's agenda is to turn back women's rights - including the right to choose.
in selecting kavanaugh, he was attempting to select a judge who would support his agenda. fair assessment - right?
now - imagine you where a woman who was sexually assaulted by this guy 30-some years ago. would you speak up? report it? seek to find out if he had done similar things to other people?
i think that it is a total mischaracterisation to call this a political smear.
i have noticed that people supporting trump and the republicans seem to instinctively claim to be 'victims' on almost every topic these days, and this seems no different.
have you ever been close to anyone that has been raped?
i have. many,
many people - including a very good friend who was raped 2 weeks ago. i even know who did it.
but she's not going to report it. most people don't.
sexual assault is an extremely confusing and difficult thing to go through, which is something that many people cannot appreciate - but if you are one of the fortunate people who have not had the experience of being sexually assaulted, you should
a) be grateful for that and b) listen closely to those who have.
the victims here are not the rich men in positions of power who
might be held accountable for their actions from years and years ago - but as TLB has shown, those claims will be dismissed by a lot of people anyway.
those people will say "there's no evidence!" (even when there is - like...in this case) and then they'll say "we need serious repercussions for people who dare question the integrity of people who raped them!"
the white male victims of all of this still have the privilege their wealth and power affords them - and, of course - the knowledge that any chance of conviction is greatly reduced by the time that will of elapsed since the offence, and the lack of DNA evidence and such, if this is a "historical" accusation.
the victims here are those that have been sexually abused.
i think the continued pretence of this idea that kavanaugh was falsely accused is pretty ugly.
i watched and read a lot of the coverage around those hearings and i saw
absolutely no reason whatsoever to believe him, rather than dr ford. she seemed like a very sincere witness, and he seemed to be perjuring himself and being evasive and defensive.
there are lots of examples and stats and articles i could include to support these points, but here are just a couple;
Why most rape victims never acknowledge what happened
basically - sexual assault can be such a confusing and disorienting experience, that people often don't even realise "i was sexually assaulted" for a long time after the assault. this is probably something a lot of people find difficult to believe, but it is absolutely true.
and another article -
Harvey Weinstein is the exception: Most accused of rape aren't charged
the people who are accused of sex crimes are still very much in privileged positions, both legally and socially.
i know someone who has been falsely accused of rape, and it made his life very difficult for several years.
i also know people who have been raped and never had the confidence, the strength, the support from friends and family - or whatever - to report it.
i also know people who have reported sexual abuse who have been through all of the invasive police questioning, had their bodies and sexual organs photographed by medical examiners for police records, been swabbed, blood tested etc etc etc - who have then been told that their is not enough evidence to press charges.
do i feel sorry for judge kavanaugh? no i do not.
i would suggest that men who have questionable sexual histories - by which i mean
guys who have an issue with consent (which is
not most of us - most men don't have a problem restraining themselves from raping people) - should probably opt for careers which will keep them out of the public eye...and also, y'know - away from children and other vulnerable people.
i
do not think there is some kind of trend towards people falsely accusing public figures of sex crimes. i think the biggest problem is that very very few rapes actually result in convictions. #metoo is taking steps to resolve that - but even still, far too many men get away with sex crimes.
Less than 1% of rapes lead to felony convictions. At least 89% of victims face emotional and physical consequences.
i think the idea that men are being treated unfairly in all this is absolutely ludicrous.
at what point did "reasonable discourse and civil debate" include demanding repercussions for people who report sexual assaults which do not result in convictions?
with all due respect, i don't think "violence is increasing in america" because people are disgusted in their government, and they express that by demonstrating, protesting and speaking up.
that article "Kavanaugh to skip traditional walk down Supreme Court steps due to security concerns" isn't talking about the prospect of fighting, or bombings (these would be anti-trump activists, who are statistically far less likely to engage in acts of terrorism than pro-trump activists)
people using their rights - their freedom of speech and freedom of assembly - to make political statements in a peaceful manner is a pretty fundamentally accepted in democratic nations.
maybe what's really happening here is that the US government's no longer having much tolerance for its citizens expressing dissent?